AIBU to think regifting is actually just plain cruel and heartless, let alone tight-wadding?

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I mean, if someone has bought you a gift, and you rewrap it for someone else...how bloody rude and tight-fisted! I'm all for recycling, up cycling and all that shit, but honestly, how is this not just f***g rude?!

This sort of snobbery makes men laugh! It's a third world problem!

Antiques and family heirlooms at surely the same thing? Pass in something you have to another

What's the difference?

Ha, probably all my gifts have been regifted! And I'll never know. Oh, apart from I talk to my friends all the time. That's a give away! If something is too small for me I'll exchange.

It depends.

A friend of mine gave me winter clothing for my DD.... she was a summer baby and it was stuff I knew she would have hated ....pink and bunnny ears and fleece and it was a bit stained.... and she knew me well enough to know it was not what I'd put my DD in either. For her birthday, a book that was clearly used.

Thing is, I had bought her kids nice thoughtful presents when they were born and for first birthday and she was well off. I realised she was tight and thoughtless in one fell swoop.

However....kids unused gifts (think duplicates at a 5th birthday) then I'd be ok regifting if they were appropriate to age and I thought the child would like them.

It is important to note who gives you what....once we were re gifted a gift we had originally regifted!!!!!

I'm a lollipop lady and as much as I was really touched by receiving so many end of year gifts last July, had I not re-gifted...

2 giant Toblerones
1 box of Maltesers
2 boxes of Milk Tray
3 Milka bars
1 box of Thorntons
1 box of Jelly Babies
1 tin of Foxes biscuits

I would have ended up a fat, toothless heart attack, just waiting for type 2 diabetes to kick in

I kept the 3 bottles of wine, the Asda voucher, 2 bunches of flowers and a lovely coffee mug with 'World's Best Lollipop Lady' written on it.

OK I kept a couple of bars of chocolate too

But honestly, I couldn't have kept the whole lot.

However, it didn't mean I don't appreciate the thought which was absolutely lovely.

I'd say it's much better than just throwing it away.

I tend to donate my unwanted gifts to charity shops rather than regift them however either are better than having them cluttering the house or throwing them away.

A third world problem Astro??

I don't get what the limited list has to do with anything. That relies on the idea that you are somehow always giving your nearest and dearest stuff they love. I hate to break it to you, but thats just not the case! I've received awesome presents from friends I don't know that well, and some shockers from my own mum, who might know me pretty well but keeps buying stuff she likes rather than what the person she's buying for likes. It's hard to buy presents. Either you say none at all, or stuff stays down the back of the cupboard forever, or you register. Why so het up?!

WorraLiberty you must be a lovely lollypop lady. All those gifts. Giving away choice is different anyways. Xx

Really not following your thought here, how is it cruel and heartless, I've been lovely to the giver and the person receiving it is grateful too? If it's really shit then I won't pass it in.

I once bought a 0-3m dress for my friends baby, I got it back just one month later when my dd was born. I'd never be that crass.

Regift, not register. Fucking autocorrect.

Chocs not choice!

I re-gifted loads of shite my mum bought me. And if I was still in contact with her, chances are I would continue to re-gift from her. What are you supposed to do with shite you don't want? Keep it because.. Chuck it in the bin. Charity shop?

Here is just a very small example of stuff she bought - wallpaper, when I don't have wallpaper anywhere in my house, and I stripped every last strip off because my eldest has something against wall paper. Curtains that were not only the wrong size but pink, I hate pink or full of flowers, or the ones that were pink with flowers, I didn't need curtains btw. Countless ornaments, I don't like ornaments, more shite to clean plus the eldest would use them to chuck at people.
Make up, which I don't wear. Dresses, I don't wear them. High heels, I don't wear them. Countless handbags and purses.
The clothes that were too big. Not just a bit big but massive, like a size 16 when I was a size 10. Or I would hold the item up and the waist would be just under my chin and still fabric trailing on the floor.
Or the jewellery she knew I was allergic to.
I could go on.

My het up. Really. Just thinking out loud. Yes, mums can be odd gift givers!!

I'd rather people just stopped buying stuff rather than spending hard earned money on things people don't want.

I'm with Giddy

Ok dogs but it's not always tight.

I was given a set of Jo Malone candles. An expensive, thoughtful gift.

Except I know from experience that scented candles set off my migraines.

I have a lovely friend who adores all things Jo Malone. So she got them at the next opportunity.

I could have sold them on eBay and bought myself something else with the proceeds but that would have felt wrong.

They probably buy out of fear.

I can stop the traffic with a raised eyebrow

Giddy I do agree in general that we are too consumerist as a society however many people's livelihoods depend on things bought as gifts.

WorraLiberty is a lollipop lady? .

I honestly had no idea and for some reason lollipop lady is not what I had in mind when I pictured you.

You learn something new every day

However please feel free to send any unwanted boxes of chocolates and bottles of wine my way

You're not the first person to say either of those things AVirgin!!

Amelia I do know what you mean. The hideous picture carted back from Europe or the mass produced tea cups bought because the person didn't approve of my mugs probably didn't have much effect.
I just get frustrated at the waste. I'd prefer it if people gave a fiver to be spent on wanted stuff but I know that's not a popular view.

I can totally see Worra as a lollipop lady. Encouraging and funny with the littlies, gimlet eye with any stroppy tweens.

'Cruel and heartless'. Jeez, I hope you don't ever have any real problems!

YABU and rather melodramatic

I agree with Giddy.

Gift buying seems to have got totally out of hand. It is a waste of money and resources to keep buying things people don't want or need.

But re-gifting seems a perfectly reasonable thing to do if you don't like a gift. As others have said, it's better than it going to waste or cluttering up your house.

My mum is a teacher and gets lots of toiletry sets. She kept some unused for so long they went off regifting them would have been much better!

It's not really tight. When you receive the gift it becomes your asset, if you like. When the need for a gift arises, you could spend your money on a gift, or you could give your newly acquired asset. You've still given away roughly the same value.