AIBU to think regifting is actually just plain cruel and heartless, let alone tight-wadding?

[dogsdieinhotcars]

I mean, if someone has bought you a gift, and you rewrap it for someone else...how bloody rude and tight-fisted! I'm all for recycling, up cycling and all that shit, but honestly, how is this not just f***g rude?!

Wasn't the gift receiver (in the thread that inspired you) the ops mil? Surely that would count as someone she knew well enough?

I don't think giving an unwanted gift to someone else is wrong- I do think taking the credit for the time/money/effort a person put into buying a present is wrong. My idea of regifting is 'so and so gave me this lovely something for my birthday but it doesn't fit and she didn't mention a gift receipt- it's your size/colours so thought you might like it instead'. I'd never pretend it was me who went out and bought the present, it would make me feel weird.

I'd also never regift to a mutually known person- or the original gifter might eventually see the gift being used by the the new giftee and be offended!

I think re-gifting is fine for loads of reasons, many of which have been mentioned already.

Having said that, you have to be careful how you go about it and have a good memory: I volunteer in a charity shop and friends donate through me so the stuff goes on my gift aid number.

The other week a 'friend' donated a bag which included presents I'd given her - all unopened. Same person gave me a book for my birthday, complete with inscription to her!
I've re-gifted things from her as she keeps giving me stuff that I can't use e.g. skin products (I have eczema), even though I've mentioned I have to be careful - it's like she just doesn't listen.

I emailed friends a few weeks ago saying we have an abundance of stuff and not that much space and asked them to join us for a Christmas get-together, which is a gift for us all. Said friend has not replied......!

fgs don't pass it off as your own gift paid with using your own cash it's so rude

Are SAHPs not allowed to give gifts?

fgs don't pass it off as your own gift paid with using your own cash it's so rude

Whats rude is valuing a gift from someone based on how much they spent on you. How crass.

Researchers have looked into this: most people are not bothered by their gifts being passed on. Check out this paper: www.people.hbs.edu/mnorton/adams%20flynn%20norton.pdf

Speaking personally, I love the idea of regifting! I put a lot of effort into choosing gifts, and would be gutted to think I'd lumbered someone with something they didn't want. I'd be much happier to think they had passed it on to someone who really wanted it. Sometimes when I'm not sure, I even include a message to that effect, to make them feel free to do it (the study also showed people tend to feel very guilt about regifting).

As a recipient, there are some things I couldn't bear to give away because they have great sentimental value. But rather than accumulate things that, however nice, are just not needed, I'd definitely prefer to find them a happy home. We really need to stop getting 'new' everything.

Ultimately it's the thought that counts, not the object.

For I think if you regift- giving something something unwanted as a birthday or Christmas present- rather than just giving it to them
Randomly outside of the present giving arena- it's because you want rid of the gift and you want thanks for it. I suspect such people hate the idea their friend might get a present "for nothing"

I have an 'in and out cupboard' mainly duplicate kids toys but recently regulated Chanel 5 to my mum - it doesn't suit me, bought for me by work colleagues who thought I wear it - but I wear Coco. Anyway, I said I was delighted, refuted to mum who was delighted, and I bought myself some coco. All happy - can't see the problem at all. If the gift is nice but not for me or a duplicate its refitted, if it's not something I would purchase as a gift then it goes to charity.

Hate re-gifting. Donate unwanted things to charity, don't wrap it up for someone else. Bloody cheeky!

Why is it cheeky Playdoughinthecarpet

As long as it's done discreetly and genuinely because you think someone will like it it's a good idea rather than going to waste. On the other hand I've received an odd gift once wondering why the person would give it to me and thought they must have had it as an unwanted gift.

Agree with playdough, give things away save them going to waste but don't wrap and pretend you like the person enough to purchase them a gift. At least be honest.

storyofstuff.org/movies/story-of-stuff/

Just leaving this here - absolutely worth a watch and a re-watch.

We all have too much stuff - I advocate only giving consumables as gifts (if a gift really needs to be given) and we should all doing the entire planet a favour and stop giving STUFF to people - most of it is unwanted and unneeded, clutters our homes with tat and ruins the planet for everyone.

How did we all get so caught up in this circle of insanity? Watch The Story of Stuff above.