AIBU to think regifting is actually just plain cruel and heartless, let alone tight-wadding?

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I mean, if someone has bought you a gift, and you rewrap it for someone else...how bloody rude and tight-fisted! I'm all for recycling, up cycling and all that shit, but honestly, how is this not just f***g rude?!

I have been given things before knowing it would make Somone else smile

Other wise it just gathers dust like the popcorn maker dh brought me and ends up I at car boot after a number of years

I don't understand why people don't just give the unwanted gift (ie tiggys wine) to someone who will like it as a nice gesture, then buy them an actual present you have paid for/ chosen for birthdays/ Xmas

You don't understand why someone wouldn't give a present and then another present?
What does the paid for bit matter? Unless you are one of those people who judge your relationships on how much a present giver spends on you, which is as gauche as it is a bad test.

yes, I dont understand that bit either. why not give them the unwanted gift you know they will love straight away?

Does that apply to home made stuff too?

I mean most people have flour and eggs at home which is pennies anyway. So if gifted some home made fudge made from store cupboard ingredients do you expect an extra present on top because no cash was actually parted with?

No I don't get it user. Say I get a purfume I hate but think Jane will love that. I wait 3,4,5 months or whatever and wrap it up as an Xmas / birthday present? No course not. I give it to them next time I see them saying its not for me but I thought you'd like it. Then buy them their Xmas/ birthday present as usual. That's totally normal

what kind of weird fudge recipe is that?? flour and eggs??? :)

I don't really understand how that example follows from what's been said Giles

DD2 was born in the summer. A teeny little twin born 3.5 weeks early. None of the gorgeous little summery outfits people bought her fit her and by the time that they did it was the middle of winter. So many of them were lovely. I thought I was being kind passing them on. Sometimes as a favour and if really lovely as a gift for a new baby. I now realise I was being heartless . Oh well, you live and you learn .

I'm all for recycling, up cycling and all that shit, but honestly,

Except you're clearly not!

YABvu

I always regift smellies. And any kind of candle or incense. I have allergies to soaps, and aspergers so hate smells as well, yet people (including family) still buy me them!

I regift, or donate to kids school fayres.

Saves me money and saves chucking in the bin.

You are assuming the presents are bought with some thought.

My SIL buys all those stupid gift sets from Boots. none of them have been any good and sometimes we have had the same one twice or its things I am allergic too.

It's either pass on, charity shop or bin!

that was the only regift I had that really hurt my feelings. a new baby outfit from one of my best friends that was a regift. it was like she couldnt even be bothered looking for a personal gift, just grabbed something she had left over. it wouldnt normally bother me, but for my new baby/hormones aflutter it hurt :(

My in laws always give me shit presents (boots 3for2 woop) but I don't just give them as a shit present to someone else

I have a drawer of things the kids have been bought and never opened or had an interest in. Great for school party invites! Often regift out the drawer....

Well clearly not buying something is an issue and stuff wed make anyway from stuff we likely already have, well there's been no actual buying so would we have to give the stuff the day it's made and buy a present on top?

Cos let's face it even if someone had to buy the stuff in chances are it was part of their weekly shop anyway and ergo doesn't count as specifically purchased fir that person?

Plus people make loads and give to many so really the cost is minimal based they just make a batch then set aside accordingly?

Ps I do know own you do the make fudge with flour and eggs fudge was just an example. Insert cookies or jams or chutneys etc

I remember my SIL giving me a bag which came free from Avon with purchases above a certain amount as my only Christmas present. That stung more than a regift. As everyone else had lavish things.

But I wasn't invited to her hen do or invited to be part of her wedding so I should have guessed she hated me then!!

My mum gives me heaps of unwanted gifts every xmas and birthday. In spite of me saying I don't need anything/I'm fussy/could you get me x instead of a bag of Boots gift sets I don't want. I always re-gift, but mainly to the village fete raffle. It's not cruel. Surely we can reach a point in our adult lives when it's ok to know our own mind and make generous, positive choices about giving?

Yes bombadier I was upset when my oldest friend didn't quite regift but bought us a cheap t shirt and legging set from primark. First baby, beautiful lovely gifts and hers was totally thoughtless

Tbh wouldnt really love a bit of homemade fudge - fine if it were a work colleague or someone I didn't know well but it would be a bit crap from family or close friends

So freebies can't he presents

We can't regift as that's rude/tight

No money or vouchers

If we give a regift there has to be a present on top because we didn't spend any money.

Cooking is crap too

And to top it all off no one has the decency to buy a house to store all this crap in that we don't want but can't get rid of...

Fuck... we are all screwed...

Well no. Normal people aren't screwed because this is just normal to them and not a big drama. Here on the other hand....

Oh with the three fir twos...do we check receipts to make sure we don't pass on the free one or do we just hold onto the one that got deducted ourselves? Or do we give alongside another present?

Just don't get the 3 for 2s. No one wants them

Ah but what do you do if someone gives you one?