To ask what wedding mistakes you made....

[ILiveForNachos]

With the kitchen and bathroom threads it made me think of the the things people wouldn't do if they got married again (or things they would do if they had the chance again)......

I wish we had asked 2 best men. The best man has since divorced and dh is to painful a reminder I think (as big history there dh was so close with them as a couple) so he has more or less distanced himself from us. Other close friend who would also have been best man is still involved in our lives 20 years on.

I wish I had taken more time to find my dream dress. I suspect this is what gives me the addiction to " say yes to the dress type programmes" I wish i could have had that moment. I look at my wedding pictures and think " thats a nice dress" and it is. Just I dont love it and I never did.

I wish I had checked with the caterer that my mother had not changed the menu (she did) Nothing big but changed.

I wish I had ensured they understood the British way of Champagne and toast and that my dad had known to tell them to send it out.. (mixed cultures)

I wish I had been more vocal about not liking the bridal bouquet that was nothing like what I ordered and included freaking fern (a flower / greenery I loathe and had specifically said not to add) I can remember standing at my mothers and stepdads house trying to pick them out with my mother fretting I would ruin the bouquet,,

I would not have chosen the bridesmaids I did; just have my sister. I didn't even get invited, to the services of my bridesmaids weddings they never remember our anniversary. I would have spent more on my dress if I'd known not 800 on theirs.

I would also have changed the reception venue.

I wouldn't have gone on my hen party the night before the wedding. I was pathetically hungover and have a bloated face in all my wedding photos. There was even a picture of us in The Time and I look HIDEOUS while my super photogenic DH looks like a model

I would have stood my ground and spent less, or even eloped. I couldn't make my husband understand that the wedding he wanted, would set us back for YEARS in regards to buying a home.

I would also not invite whoever drew a penis in sharpie on the table cloth. They lost me my deposit... and meant I had to have a very embarrassing conversation with the venue about it!

OP, I married him.

then divorced him, the shit

Oh, and I would have had a sweetheart table. Got stuck sitting next to my batshit crazy step-mother-in-law and wanted to stab her with a fork for most of the wedding breakfast. Especially when she yelled at my mother during dinner.

Sounds stupid but I only wish someone had told me how to hold my flowers - they're too high up in all the photos and I had no idea!

And I would have had a go at the caterers when they sold our wine back to our guests when they ran out. At the time I couldn't be arsed and didn't want to ruin the evening.

Don't regret: doing my own makeup. Not inviting anyone from work. Having a pick n mix stand. Waiting for the perfect dress. Buying comfortable shoes I LOVE! Paying for a really good photographer whose style was in tune with ours (think dramatic fashion photographer as opposed to rigid standing in a line).

The only thing I know I got wrong was not thanking my wife for marrying me.

Also do not regret paying for all the accommodation for 25 people for two nights. It was a whole weekend of fun.

I would have gone to a venue where we didn't have to do so much ourselves (setting up, evening buffet, moving stuff on day, clearing up at fucking 7 am the next morning)

I wouldn't have had speeches my DH & his best man got really stressed about this.

I'd have sorted the cake myself, left it to a family member & it was nothing like what i wanted.

Not had a baby 3 months beforehand & therefore hate looking back on photos as I'm so much bigger than comfortable!

Had a honeymoon or at least a night away, I was utterly drained afterwards!

In hindsight I wish we'd gone abroad

(It was however a nice sunny day, the food was lovely & everyone had a lovely time, I think)

Regret the choice of husband, but I've rectified that now. It was his third wedding and my first. He wouldn't allow me a proper wedding that I had always wanted as he thought it was uncouth, given he had done it twice before! It was my first ffs (and at the time I thought only!). He wouldn't let
Me invite anyone outside of immediate family. We as £5 fish and chips at a local restaurant and everything was done for under £1500. Wasn't even allowed a proper wedding dress. Worst mistake was the photographer. A local student, he didn't take a single picture in colour. And the framing was nothing short of hilarious. If I didn't laugh I would cry. Balloons cutting off heads, kids popping out behind us. But the best was outside the registry office where a third of the picture is of a tramp rooting in a dustbin behind us! Crap wedding, crap marriage, crap divorce, much happier now. And next time I'll get the wedding of my dreams I hope.

I adored my wedding, the only thing I would change is that I didn't write down a specific list of photos that I wanted. Not just groups of people but also things that people had made that weren't specifically photographed.

MadHattersWineParty we had a student and paid £200 and he was brilliant - top quality photos. I gave him a list of must have shots and then told him to blend in and take what he thought were good photos behind the scenes - all very natural and excellent. Definitely no regrets.

ILoveDolly - your post made me cry.

I would have taken a moment to re-adjust my strapless dress before sitting down for the wedding breakfast and speeches. Discovered after sitting down dress was a little lower than I'd thought, most the photos for the following 2 hours it looks like my boobs were going to escape 😳🙇🏻‍♀️ (Sister in law tested they were taking bets) Couldn't leave the table without everyone being obliged to get up and food being delayed had to brazen it out.🙈

*teased not tested

I wish I had a dance with my Dad

Letting my husband choose our 'just got married' song as the ceremony was finished . It was shit and even he regrets it. I hate the Stone Roses even more than I did before we got married ! Apart from that ...nothing

Bump, I love this thread!

Ah yes, the first dance song was another thing I regret, mainly because I love music and my ex-h has no interest in anything other than a few shitty bands, and even then he has no idea wtf the lyrics are saying, so of course he chose a song about DEATH. But hey, summed up my marriage well.

I went for a cheap photographer and regret it. We have got a few good shots but I wish we had spent more and had a better one

Ha, the first dance is probably the closest I get to a regret. Neither DH or I are dancers so we deliberately chose a short song for our first dance. Didn't think anything about it other than 'ha, two minutes and eight seconds isn't too long' to have everyone looking at you.

Longest moment of my life. Awkward self conscious shuffling and us looking at each other going 'why did we not think this through this is hideous' while wearing wide fake smiles. Would totally ditch both this and the top table tradition given my time again.

That's one thing we did get right - no first dance for us.