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Partner seems to think he's my landlord AIBU?

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user1476961324 · 20/10/2016 12:15

TLDR: My boyfriend wants me to move into his house, and is asking for me to contribute what he would consider ‘market rent’ if he rented the room out.

He owns the house outright, and the associated costs (bills etc) are paid by a family trust. I.e. he has no living costs to be there. He’s an adult, FYI, we are in our thirties.

He has recently asked me various questions about how much people rent rooms for, what bills cost etc. I thought he was just interested, as he has never had to pay these costs.

He told me today that he thinks that I should pay £850 per month to live in his flat as that would be the market rate if he let a room out.

I had volunteered to pay half of bills… but £850? It’s only a two bed flat, with no mortgage. I’ve told him where he can stick it.

Am I being unreasonable, or is he?

OP posts:
harshbuttrue1980 · 23/10/2016 17:57

Aeroflot, you keep accusing people who disagree with you of not reading the full thread. You don't seem to read much of it either. I know the OP is planning to share the cost of food and bills, but that she thinks that she shouldn't have to pay for the actual roof over her head. I suggested she pay £400 so she saves money compared to her current situation, but he benefits too.

Atenco · 23/10/2016 18:50

I suggested she pay £400 so she saves money compared to her current situation, but he benefits too

I must be a weird sort of romantic, I thought the benefit to him was being able to live with the person he loved.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 23/10/2016 18:52

I'd be rethinking the whole relationship. Doesn't bode well for the future. Glad to hear you're not moving in with him on those terms. Very wise.

Wildwillow · 23/10/2016 20:32

Run for the hills. This is not the basis for a happy relationship - you know that, its why you're on here in the first place. Trust your gut feeling.

dogsdieinhotcars · 23/10/2016 23:39

Blimey, is this thread still going? Surely user must of ended the relationship by now?

madparent1 · 26/10/2016 11:54

Contributing to overheads/ household running costs are one thing but this is something entirely different. I suspect he has not thought this through properly or this was something suggested to him by a third party.

He has nothing to pay. So half of nothing in my books is nothing.

Where greed is....love most definitely is not!

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