To think he shouldn't be kicking up such a fuss

[Notonthetrain]

I had arranged to meet a friend this evening, and wasn't planning to get back late, so DH was going to take me to and pick me up from the train station. Train station is less than ten minutes away.

Now he is refusing to. If I want to go out I need to be responsible for myself, which is all very well and good except if he'd said something earlier I could have made arrangements earlier. Now I'm stuck

He's being an arse. It sounds as if he's spoiling for a row, you're pissed off = recipe for a HUGE row if you stay in.

Ring your friend, tell her the situation, and she'll probably say not to worry, she'll get the drinks in. Then next time you meet up, you get the drinks in. Use £20 for taxi to and from station.

Oh yeah, and you said in your second post you could drive, but you wanted to drink. So that was another option.

Although now you say you can't.

I can't drive because it's dhs car.

Yes you do need to be more proactive. Sorry but you do.

I'd walk out of sheer bloody mindedness!

Sorry missed a bit. I am insured to drive on it but it's his car and he's pissed off with me so ...

He's deliberately sabotaging you.

You HAVE to go out. Make a stand.

You said you could drive but wanted to drink.

If it's only 10 mins away I don't understand how that's going to cost £20.

If you don't want to go out fine but don't blame your DP for not dropping you off.

It's shit he's going back on his word but you could go if you wanted to

So you want to moan about something you are not prepared to do anything about? Pretty pointless posting really

I'd take the car and head off.
no argument brooked. i'd just go.
god, he's a cunt isn't he?

It's not pointless to me NewStart

I would call more.local friends, have a night out with them and crash at theirs.

gives him time to pack his stuff up and leave then. Knobhead.

But you won't help yourself, you won't do any of the perfectly doable alternative options that will enable you to go out. Instead you're just posting sad faces about not "being able" to go now.

You ARE able to go. You just don't want to. That's totally different.

Can you get a bus even part of the way and walk the rest?

So is he saying you can't take 'his' car ?

£20 taxi fare for a 10 minute drive sounds well over the top!

Are you very young? You seem immobilized by his control of you. If he doesn't want to drive you, you make your own arrangements.

Why on earth are you allowing him to so much control? OP please know this isn't normal in a loving relationship. Stop being a doormat and take control of your own life. It's not even 7pm. Get a taxi, it'll cost but it'll make a very clear point to your "d"p or you can sit there moaning and being a victim.

Basically yes oldraver, he has the car keys.

So get a taxi then!

I don't have any money. Look the point isn't the night out, I'm a bit upset now anyway. It's HIM.

Have you thought about your friend? She's had her night out ruined Too.

Now you're making excuses that you're not that close. Do you want to go or not?

Have you actually asked your partner if you can take the car and he has refused? If so then he really is preventing you from going out and you need to have this out with him. It's okay for him to be pissed off after an argument but not to blatantly control you like this.

Can you do a combination of a bus and walking?

It won't be, she is meeting her friends.