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Original poster

To think he shouldn't be kicking up such a fuss

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Notonthetrain · 15/10/2016 17:41

I had arranged to meet a friend this evening, and wasn't planning to get back late, so DH was going to take me to and pick me up from the train station. Train station is less than ten minutes away.

Now he is refusing to. If I want to go out I need to be responsible for myself, which is all very well and good except if he'd said something earlier I could have made arrangements earlier. Now I'm stuck Sad

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ImperialBlether · 15/10/2016 18:07

The way I'd look at it is, "Sorry, then, DH, I'll have to use your beer money for a taxi there and back."

He has a drink every night and now you want one and he's trying to make you drive? He's a selfish pig.

Original poster
Notonthetrain · 15/10/2016 18:07

Unfortunately I really don't think I can, and believe me I am angry and upset too Sad

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Donthate · 15/10/2016 18:07

Taxi and wave to him from the back seat. Arse

Donthate · 15/10/2016 18:08

Ask your friend if she can lend you the money for the taxi. Transfer the money to her on payday.

bellabelly · 15/10/2016 18:09

You absolutely MUST go out as planned. Have a great time and leave him to stew in his own stupid juices. Walk to the station and taxi home.

ChuckBiscuits · 15/10/2016 18:09

Drive, and then stay at hers and get your car in the morning.

ElspethFlashman · 15/10/2016 18:09

So you're just going to stay in?

Booboopidoo · 15/10/2016 18:10

How much would a taxi cost OP? I would move heaven and earth to find the extra cash for the reasons pp's have already mentioned. Think carefully about the argument you've had, did he start it? Sorry but it does sound like he's sabotaging your evening to me, how is he usually if you want to go out without him?

Original poster
Notonthetrain · 15/10/2016 18:10

I really can't walk - it's just too far. And I can't afford a taxi. It would be at least £20 and I don't have enough money left.

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ihatethecold · 15/10/2016 18:10

How controlling.
So you have a friend that you can text and ask for a lift to the station.
I would happily drop a friend off if they needed a lift.

leaveittothediva · 15/10/2016 18:13

He's digging his heels in cause you have argued. Walk to the station, or bus it. He's mean.

sophiestew · 15/10/2016 18:16

I would literally sell a kidney in order to go in this situation.

OP if you really don't have an extra £20 to your name I am not sure what to say. He is clearly deliberately sabotaging your night out. If my friend was in this position I would fund her night out and help her plan a bloody escape route

MoreCoffeeNow · 15/10/2016 18:18

Drive. If you miss your night out he will do this again and again.

Original poster
Notonthetrain · 15/10/2016 18:18

I can't drive ...

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Rosamund1 · 15/10/2016 18:19

Maybe he started the argument on purpose so he wouldn't have to take you/ so that you could not go.

Similar to people who have confessed to 'breaking up' / arguing around birthdays/Christmas/valentines simply to avoid having to bother planning and buying a special gift.

Donthate · 15/10/2016 18:20

Just go. Whatever you have to do, do it. It is too easy to make excuses.

bellabelly · 15/10/2016 18:20

You must have been planning to spend some money on your night out? Spend less on drinks and save some for cab. You said it's only 10 mins drive, not sure how that could be 20 quid fare, especially if not getting back too late.

Original poster
Notonthetrain · 15/10/2016 18:21

There and back would definitely come to £20. I'm just upset.

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Madinche1sea · 15/10/2016 18:22

How very rude he is! Why won't he take you? Surely you have arranged to meet people and they'll be waiting for you. Just go now. Walk to the station - or are are you wearing heels? If so, don't let him stop you - just get a cab to make a point. But you must go. My DH may be many things, but he'll never let me hang round outside stations at night and will always pick me up from anywhere. What is his problem?

Donthate · 15/10/2016 18:22

Yes, use your drink money for taxi. Drink water all night if you have to.

EnoughAlready43 · 15/10/2016 18:22

Crash at your friends.

Also he shouldn't need a drink every night. Has he a drink problem? He's a prick too.

And you should try to learn to drive, if at all possible.

AyeAmarok · 15/10/2016 18:22

You have options but it seems you're just going to let him ruin your night.

So his plan has worked, and he'll do it again.

LetsJunglyJumpToIt · 15/10/2016 18:23

You have to find a way to go. What a fucking arse.

bellabelly · 15/10/2016 18:23

If she's drinking water all night, she might as well drive.

OSETmum · 15/10/2016 18:23

He's done this on purpose to try and sabotage your night out. Has he done this before? I'd do anything in my power to go out, even if it means driving and not drinking, just to show you can.