To think he shouldn't be kicking up such a fuss

[Notonthetrain]

I had arranged to meet a friend this evening, and wasn't planning to get back late, so DH was going to take me to and pick me up from the train station. Train station is less than ten minutes away.

Now he is refusing to. If I want to go out I need to be responsible for myself, which is all very well and good except if he'd said something earlier I could have made arrangements earlier. Now I'm stuck

How come at the start it was his car and now it's 2 cars?

OP, I think he's got you believing you're bad with money and that you make silly decisions and that he's responsible, sensible and so on.

But what if that's not true? What if you're not irresponsible and he's abusive, controlling, likes to be the big man and you the little surrendered wife?

At the moment you can't see a way out of this because he's blinkered you. You don't believe you can make good competent smart decisions. I bet you could though, if you were out of his shadow.

Go and stay with your strong confident friend. Talk to her about how you're feeling. Ask for help in gaining confidence to make your own choices.

Coconutty, he's got the keys to OP's car.

OP I was in a marriage like your's I lost my life from the ages of 16-25 because of that man!

That's 9 years I can never get back but I am so glad I ended his abuse against me,next it would have been our 2 very young sons of that I'm sure!

With my ex husband it started of that he had control of all of his money and mine,then he stopped me from learning to drive,then he wouldn't let me see or make any new friends,I only saw my family if he was with me,then he made me quit my job.

It was like being a child again except in this relationship he was sexually abusing me as well!

I left that relationship 16 years ago and I've re married and now have 5DC but I'll never forget what he put me through,it's damaged part of my heart and soul but I refused to let him win then and he won't win now!

Your Husband is a bully and so was mine,the best way to get your own back on a bully is to remove all the power they think they have over you,after all you need to remember no one can have power over you unless you allow them to!

Then the next step is you go onto make a wonderful and happy life for you and your DC,give yourselfs the permission to have the life you deserve not this life that your barely living!

op..

Look at freedom program you can do it online.

Call Women's aid for help..

Your children are learning this is normal..

You do need to start making plans, do you have someone who would store information or a locker are work..Birth certificates, NI number..His ni number evidence of his income.

I agree keep deleting your history..

He doesn't want you to have friends as you are more use to him isolated.