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To think my sister is tight?

369 replies

BatsHitKrazee · 09/10/2016 08:37

I have two sisters - we are all close in age.

My younger sister is 29 , I'm 30 and my older sister is 33.

My younger sister and I live at home with our parents whereas my older sister has a family of her own with her husband .

At Christmas , myself and my younger sister buy our two nieces Christmas presents costing around £15-£20.

My parents (their grandparents) also spend around £20 each on them but they don't buy for my older sister or her husband.

My older sister refuses to buy for us two other sisters even though we buy her children !

Instead , she buys a "family" present like a hamper or something for around £30-£40 for us and my parents to share.

My mum has tried asking my older sister to give us an actual present or some money but older sister ignores her and buys a family gift.

WIBU to give older sister plenty of notice and ask her nicely if she could get me and my sister something specific this year?

Or should we cut back on what we spend on our nieces?

I feel it's unfair that she isn't buying us a gift but we are buying for her children !

OP posts:
LucyFuckingPevensie · 09/10/2016 08:57

I was going to say a reverse too.
Saying that I have met people who really are as deluded as the op, so it wouldn't surprise me if this was genuine.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 09/10/2016 08:57

What everyone else said.

Ohb0llocks · 09/10/2016 08:57

I think you're cheeky and ungrateful Biscuit

AtSea1979 · 09/10/2016 08:57

You spend £15-£20 on DC, how many are there? And I hope that's at least each child. Though £15 for a niece/nephew when you don't have kids of your own seems quite low.
I buy for the DC and my brother and SIL.

ToxicLadybird · 09/10/2016 08:58

No way is this true. Nobody could be this unbelievably immature in real life. Basically you're whinging and stamping your foot because your little niece got a better Christmas present than you.

If it is real, grow the fuck up.

IfartInYourGeneralDirection · 09/10/2016 08:58

I'd prefer some money to go shopping in the Christmas sales

So would she, give her some cash

wobblywonderwoman · 09/10/2016 08:59

You are ridiculous.

YOU are tight not your sister. Very spoilt.

DonaldStott · 09/10/2016 08:59

Nrtft but I just cringed when I read your OP.

ALemonyPea · 09/10/2016 08:59

Are you sure you're 30 and not 13?

KC225 · 09/10/2016 08:59

Don't you enjoy buying presents for the children? I didn't have kids until 40 but throughly enjoyed browsing around for the latest toys for my god children. Yes, I also expected something in return a possible thank you drawing and their mum and telling me how much they enjoyed it. Maybe I was lucky because I was never disappointed.

As has been you have been told, your sister is running a household with all the time and money constraints, enjoy the hamper and be gracious.

CremeBrulee · 09/10/2016 08:59

You're being ungrateful and granny. Just because you still like with your parents, you are not a child. Start acting like an adult.

WipsGlitter · 09/10/2016 08:59

You sound very childish!

Just stop buying anyone presents as it causes such resentment!

JustSpeakSense · 09/10/2016 08:59

What do you buy your older sister for Christmas?

Or do you just buy the nieces presents?

KellyBoo800 · 09/10/2016 09:00

Oh grow up.

Me and my brothers won't be buying each other proper presents this year. I'll be buying for my older bothers baby and his stepson, and my younger brothers stepson and stepdaughter.

They will be buying for my stepdaughter.

We will more than likely get a bottle of wine or some beer for each other. No doubt the equivalent of your share of the hamper.

Would you really deny your nieces a gift out of spite because you're throwing a strop? Very grabby.

SharkBastard · 09/10/2016 09:00

You're tight! I guess you don't pay full market rent on housing?

Fucking odd. Grow up, bet your sister is glad she's not living with you grabby entitled lot.

myknickersknackersknockers · 09/10/2016 09:00

You'd prefer money to go shopping in the Christmas sales???? Ha ha ha ha you're having a laugh now aren't you?

Ohdearducks · 09/10/2016 09:00

So you want to punish the children because you can't get what you want? You sound awful and you don't even buy for your sister but expect her to buy for you? Grow up!

VioletBam · 09/10/2016 09:01

If you think she's tight and yet you admit that London is expensive, why don't you stop being tight too and move out instead of mooching off your parents?

Owlytellsmesecrets · 09/10/2016 09:01

I became an auntie aged 9 and used my pocket money to buy my DNep presents. By 13 I had 3 children to buy for.... But I did! I loved buying for them and seeing their little faces when they open the present. My DB bought me something but I was still a kid. When you turn 18 presents stop!!!!
Also GP's here spend £40-£50 on our kids... Both sets!!!!

Saying that they are still paying for 2 daughters who should have moved out 10 years ago!!!

Grow up!!!! You are a 30 year old brat!

Vixxfacee · 09/10/2016 09:02

Lolz

MakeMyWineADouble · 09/10/2016 09:02

You want money for the sales? Then tell your sister she can save her time and effort put £10 in a card!! Your sister is fine you however sound very petty adding up who spends what!

Ohdearducks · 09/10/2016 09:02

Biscuit dunk that in your tea.

SheldonCRules · 09/10/2016 09:02

Your parents obviously have sheltered you from the costs of adult life.

Even if she gave you cash, £15 won't go very far in the sales in London anyway.

Maybe she thinks that you need to learn a life lesson or that you are tight for spending so little on a niece when you have no household to run.

Mum2twoUnder4 · 09/10/2016 09:02

Your user name is correct. Bat shit krazee

m0therofdragons · 09/10/2016 09:03

We do this in our family - only those aged 18 and under get gifts. If you had dc she'd buy for them but you don't. She pays for her house and dc while you live at home aged 30. Yabu.
Who the fuck lives with their parents at 30? I'm 34 and don't know anyone who did this.

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