To think my sister is tight?

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I have two sisters - we are all close in age.

My younger sister is 29 , I'm 30 and my older sister is 33.

My younger sister and I live at home with our parents whereas my older sister has a family of her own with her husband .

At Christmas , myself and my younger sister buy our two nieces Christmas presents costing around £15-£20.

My parents (their grandparents) also spend around £20 each on them but they don't buy for my older sister or her husband.

My older sister refuses to buy for us two other sisters even though we buy her children !

Instead , she buys a "family" present like a hamper or something for around £30-£40 for us and my parents to share.

My mum has tried asking my older sister to give us an actual present or some money but older sister ignores her and buys a family gift.

WIBU to give older sister plenty of notice and ask her nicely if she could get me and my sister something specific this year?

Or should we cut back on what we spend on our nieces?

I feel it's unfair that she isn't buying us a gift but we are buying for her children !

I think your sister's gift to your family of a hamper or similar sounds lovely and a great idea. Do you really begrudge spending a little on her children and expect her to make it back to you? Because that's what it sounds like. Even my 4 year old understands you give presents for the joy of giving, not to receive. If my (adult) dbro sent me an unsolicited gift request I think he'd find himself with nothing!

Demanding gifts is not in the spirit of the season at all, get a grip.

Are you serious. You sound like a child.

Get a grip, you're 30 years old. Move out and stop being a money grabbing mare.

She might be tight, she might just be on a tight budget what with not living subsidised with mummy and daddy anymore.

You don't give to receive anyway.

If there is something specific that you want, go and buy it for yourself.

I think your sisters reasoning is fine. You buy for kids - that's who xmas is about.

Is this a joke? I find it hard to believe a 30 year old really thinks like this.

I've just re-read this. So your parents don't buy your sister a present. And you don't buy your sister a present. And she buys you a lovely hamper. And SHE is the unreasonable one?!
my sister has two kids, I only have one. I still happily buy for both of hers, and her and her DH even though we only get three presents in return. Maybe I should ask for a cheque to make up the inequity?!

Grow up and stop being so grabby.

What I've taught my children is the only thing you say when someone gives you a present is thank you.

You are being a bit u, I'm afraid.

You are 30 and you're sister is 29 and you're both still living at home? Is there a reason you are unable to live independently?

YABVU. You're older sister lives out there in the real world where money is tight. It's very common in lots of families for people to buy gifts for children and not for adults. Get over yourselves. It's not as if she doesn't get you anything at all, is it?

Why should she get you and the other ADULTS a present when none of you get her anything?!

I bet she laughed her socks off after that conversation with your mum.

You live with your parents - fair enough. I'm sure there are reasons. But don't then pretend to have any clue what it's like financially to run your own home and raise kids. She buys you a family gift, and that's more than enough. Buy her children presents if you care about them and have the money, or don't, but it's not a tit-for-tat thing.

Was there a mistake? Did you mean to say you were 13 not 30?

Of course you are being unreasonable. And ridiculous. Adults get presents for children purely to give the children joy. Not in the expectation that they as an adult also get a present.

The fact your sister gets you all a shared family present is lovely but wouldn't be expected in most families I know.

You live at home, do you understand that this will mean you have more disposable income than your older sister?

Was just going to ignore thread but am actually going to say I can't be bothered to reply to you.

This is pathetic! You don't give to receive when it comes to kids. And she gets a hamper which you say cost £40 do she spends the same amount anyway. Getting your mum to tell her to buy you something or give you money is pretty shit! You still live at home at 30 which says it all really.

This has to be a reverse.

I can't believe anyone would be so grabby.

Reverse?

You need to grow up! Christmas is not about presents. I'm quite shocked that your mum said anything.

And buy you poor bloody sister a Christmas present!!

Definitely reverse.

Otherwise, there's a big wide world out there. You need to move into it.

OP I hope for your sake this is a reverse

Are you 13?!
I would hate to have you as a sister.
Are you the golden child? Does your mum have favourites? Take a long hard look at all of your behaviours and make sure you sister is not the black sheep and you aren't all toxic.

30 ..... grow up, find your own place, learn how to budget amd start living life. Your poor parents must be wondering what they did wrong.

Oh and stop being so grabby. If you resent spending money on your neices that much get yourself to a discount site like the book people and cut your spending!!

Wow some harsh responses here!

We live at home because it's closer to our jobs . London is also very very expensive !

As for the hamper - she fills it with jams and coffees and biscuits etc. It's nice enough but I'd prefer some money to go shopping in the Christmas sales.

My sister doesn't know we feel like this as we haven't said anything to her other than my mum asking her to give us a gift.

They may be children but I still think my sister is being tight !

Yabu. Seriously. In our family no adults get presents. Your older sister in the real world renting and paying bills. You sound very grappy. Xmas isnt about presents, its about spending time with love ones, food and xmas movies on tv. Cant wait!