Ex had my sons hair cut after I begged him not to

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I have a 4 year old boy and he has (had) longish hair....looked like a little rockstar and people always commented on how good he looked.

Anyway, he is having his school photo on Wednesday and I was happy he would have long hair on this school photo as last year I cut his hair the day before photograph day (which I dint realise was photograph day) I was gutted and was adamant to have it long the next time around.

Anyway, when my xh picked him up last night I said he has his school photo on Wednesday and im wanting his hair long for the photo. I got a text this morning saying that he has asked him if he wants his hair cutting and my 4 year old son apparently said, yes, I want to look like a boy. So he booked him in to have it cut this afternoon. I text him pleading that he doesn't get it cut, I rang but he never answered and when he did I begged in tears he didn't do it, that he just leave it for this weekend and Id get it cut after his photo. He said hes going to see what my son wants.

The thing is, my ex has it in his head that only girls have long hair and boys hair should be short. he is very steryotypical Hes due to drop my son off at 7pm tonight, and im dreading seeing his short hair. Im going to show a smile for my son and say wow look how handsome you are, but inside I will be heartbroken.

Whats your opinions??

I text him pleading him not to go ahead with it and called him crying and pleading and he just didn't respond

Oh dear...Its not ...I am new person...not sure why this is under another thread. Sorry for confusion

Yes you're right.I am new here and didn't know how it works.Is there any chance to remove it and make post again?

@eaglejulesk

I text him pleading him not to go ahead with it and called him crying and pleading and he just didn't respond

I'm not surprised he didn't respond, your reaction is totally OTT.

It's only hair, it will grow again, if your DS wants it to, and you can take photos then.

Yeah I get the feeling this is the standard reaction the exh has had to deal with for everything from bed times to holidays and just ignores now

Honestly it’s hair. It will grow. Crying over it like it won’t is so OTT. Your son is telling you both what you want to hear. You’re clearly showing him pictures of what you want his hair to look like and your ex is doing sort of the same thing. A haircut is not a hill to die on.

I’ve committed my cardinal sin of not reading the whole thread, but has done when I wanted to reply and only had the time later