To expect dh to wank in a toilet?

[BummyMummy77]

We've finally bitten the bullet and are undergoing infertility stuff.

Do has to provide a sperm sample. Which he's fine about.

The problem is we live a long way from the hospital and the sample needs to be nice and fresh. 30 minutes at the longest.

So I've said do should do what most guys do and bash one out in the hospital loo.

He's having none of it. Says its disgusting and we need to stay in a local hotel.

We're totally Saint right now and it would take the place of money set aside to worm and de tick the animals and living in a place with 80% Lymes in ticks this is kind of important.

Am I being insensitive and unreasonable?

Would be much appreciated if females readers could ask their male oh's what they think.

Tia.

Sorry OP, should have read the whole thread, just did !
Tell him to knock one out, behind the car ...

Behind the car?! Like a furtive little bear??

Just make sure no one's left any tempting picanic baskets lying around.

I agree with sugarpie find a nice spot and sort him out in the car. Trust me, it can be romantic!

😂😂😂, oh dear Bummy, don't let me hear anyone say, that you haven't got a sense of humour !

My DP's response is that he would do it in a Tesco's toilet if needed for fertility treatment.

Why do some posters slag off their partners in one post and then get annoyed on future posts when people recall who they are and the relationship problems they have talked about at length previously? I think some people just want to be told what they want to hear. It all seems such a terrible waste of MNetters' time and effort to give so much good advice, only for it to fall on deaf ears.*

^this^

How do I moan a lot about dh? His parents yes. He made one off comment. Which he has apologised and apologised for and has bent over backwards to make amends for. Which at the time I said was totally out of character for him. When on earth has he become the anti Christ that shouldn't be allowed to have any children?

Must be fantastic to have perfect partners and 100% perfect relationships.

Just asked Mr Kungfu

" It wouldn't bother me which, although probably take me a bit longer doing it at the hospital. "

Are you sure it's not stage fright for him? Knowing people are waiting on him to finish masturbating so they can have his sperm.

Great that your dh suooorted you in the end against his mother and apologised. I don't remember you posting this information on the thread the other day. It would have been useful to give an update as some people will remember you. Nothing to do with having perfect partners.

I thought I had. Well at least I said that he'd apologised lots and had pulled her up on it and told her she needed to apologise.

It was only late yesterday he told her he was cutting her off and I forgot to update, sorry.

We did IVF. DH says that once the baby arrives with the attendant sleepless nights and nappies and stuff, wanking in a toilet will look like a fun way to spend 20 minutes rather than an imposition...

Also if you do IVF or IUI your DH will have to produce a sample to quite a tight timetable, while you are in an operating theatre... so no bad thing if he has a bit of experience of performing under pressure, so to speak.

And sorry if I was snippy to anyone genuinely being concerned, I've just noticed a couple of posters who seem to post largely judgmental and condescending things on other's threads also without any seeming intention of giving kind advice but just to put people in their place and be spiteful.

Again, sorry to those who weren't.

We won't be doing ivf I don't think. It would put us in huge amounts of debt for a long time, I think it's around $5000-$10000 a cycle. It would put too much strain on us as a family I think.

I'd just like to know if there is any reason so I could stop the heartbreak of trying every month.

And we're starting clomid which id rather not be on for too long for various reasons.

You did update but it wasn't clear about your dh in relation to mil and I thought it was fil, who apologised. Anyway, great you are feeling better about things. My posts were out of concern btw. I can understand why you were on the offensive. Not nice to be on the receiving end.

I mean not nice for you to be on the receiving end.

It all seems such a terrible waste of MNetters' time and effort to give so much good advice, only for it to fall on deaf ears

What a load of precious bollocks! No-one's obliged to offer advice and no-one's obliged to take it. If you can't bear to have your pearls of wisdom ignored don't cast them before the Mumsnet swine.

Quiet car park?

Although probably not if he'd want to avoid arrest.

Yes, I understand you need to know if there is a reason for infertility. I did IVF as I mentioned earlier. Dh and I paid for it. Not that expensive but it was almost 10 years ago.

It was fil. No word from mil hence dh cutting her off. Makes me feel so sad for both him and ds but enough is enough, she's had more than enough chances. It's damaging for dh, ds and our relationship.

Fall on deaf ears? What was I meant to do?! Divorce him because of a comment he's apologised for and knows he was wrong about?? When it was totally out of character??

She's only got herself to blame.