AIBU to expect my OH to accept this

[Playingitbyear]

When DS was born, we found that we all got the most sleep by co-sleeping. Then when DD was born, she would only sleep on my chest. 1 1/2 years later, I still sleep in her room on a mattress on the floor with her head on my chest.

If all four of us were in one room I don't think any of us would get much sleep.

Obviously OH and I haven't had sex for a long time. When we talk about it, I say it is temporary and that everything is on hold until the children sleep in own beds/rooms etc, and he is kind of ok with that. I didn't think it would take this long either!

Anyway, has anyone had a similar arrangement with their relationship still intact? And got their sex life back after a long break? Is this weird or normal? And AIBU to expect my OH to accept this?

DP and I have learned over the years that it's very easy, especially with small children, to lose the bond between us as a couple. We try very hard to make time for each other, even if it's just 10 minutes a day to catch up and have a chat and a wee cuddle. Sounds daft, but it's got us through some tough times before.

Your wife clearly asked if your situation was weird or normal and now you're pissed off because people have answered her!!! You might want to ask yourselves why anonymous responses on an internet forum have hit such a nerve and why your wife felt the need to garner opinion on this in the first place.

In her OP, your wife clearly said you were 'kind of ok' with your set up but you've given a different impression in your update so I think you need to start talking to each other properly instead of turning to an internet forum when you can't handle the responses.

So op came on and made a post asking if swbu, most posters agreed swbu, She then has a tantrum and runs to her dh telling them she is getting picked on and her dh makes and account to come and put us in our place?

alrighty then

This is just bizarre!

Try a snuggle pillow on your chest that she rests in then move her with her pillow, gradually move to being on the pillow Next to you and gradually increase the distance.

Cosleep in their rooms rather than yours so you gradually remove yourself rather than them feeling pushed out of your room, that would free up your bed for sex

Cosleeping shouldn't stop sex - sofas are good too :)

This thread is bonkers.

Sleeping with your kids on the floor is bonkers

Not having sex when you are in a relationship and both want sex, because of some notion that it is in the best interests of a toddler is bonkers.

Not giving a shit that the poor bloody kid hasn't had a decent nights sleep in her whole life is bonkers.

Asking for advice when receiving advice is a private hell is peak bonkers

At least this thread has contributed to some quality time together as you're both on the same thread.

Not sharing beds doesn't equal not having sex btw. Or any other forms of intimacy. As I'm sure you know by now.

Enid

Oh fgs OHof why did you feel the need to create an account and write on this thread?

Please get some perspective here: there are children starving in Africa and babies being bombed in Syria but you are crying that this anonymous online thread has become a personal hell for you this weekend? ...