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To feel a bit humiliated by his reaction

195 replies

gembran · 06/10/2016 00:20

At work today was sitting with a group of people I normally sit with, 5 work friends I guess you could call them - been in the job just over a month and we all started together. All seem really nice. It's a grad scheme so almost has a university freshers feel to it, we're all young and have fun together in our free time.

I was idly chatting about wanting to use my languages more in the workplace. One guy in the group also speaks the same foreign language as I do, both as a second language. I asked him if he got much of a chance to practise and must have looked keen ("I'm loooking for someone to practise with" hint hint) as two of my friends burst out laughing (nicely) and slightly took the mickey, insinuating that I wanted him to do it. Was good-natured though!

He kind of stammered and then said something about how his girlfriend had just started to learn a new language, obviously just trying to shoehorn her name into conversation and make it clear he wasn't available! Feel mortified as I definitely don't fancy him and don't find him attractive in that way at all - was just being friendly and chatty. He then returned to being bantery and friendly Confused

OP posts:
PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 15:38

male friend

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 15:47

Bump

gembran · 10/10/2016 16:53

Poppy why are you so invested in this - to the point of bumping?!

OP posts:
faffingturtle · 10/10/2016 17:28

Maybe 'Poppy' is your friend from work op ?Wink

gembran · 10/10/2016 17:34

Somehow I doubt that...

OP posts:
LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 10/10/2016 17:39

gembran, you've already had a pasting on this thread. I stuck up for you as did other posters but what on earth do you still want from it now? Surely it's not still of interest to your group? It's really up to you but if you keep posting to this thread then you'll get the shit-stirring posters back.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 20:39

You spent ages talking about this all weekend and we are not to know how you fared today. Did you still feel humiliated?

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 20:41

I will never be in this position so I won't takes notes. I am still mildly curious though.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 20:42

...won't take

Strawberry90 · 10/10/2016 20:58

Op you post on a public site and ask people to care and to respond to you and then you are bitchy when someone asks how you are? Not on.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 10/10/2016 21:02

OP has had an absolute slating on this thread. She's been back on today and hasn't posted about her situation, presumably because she doesn't want to. She doesn't have to.

Despite the rubberneckers.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 22:14

She wasted people's time, in that case. How rude.

Lweji · 10/10/2016 22:17

Nobody should have to update threads to keep others entertained.
Get a life.

Strawberry90 · 10/10/2016 22:18

She didn't have to update thread - just not be rude

Quintessing · 10/10/2016 22:21

Not sure why someones LOOKS is relevant to language practice?

Personally, I dont see much point in practicing a language with another learner/non-native speaker. Different if he was a native speaker though. Then I could see why you would want to practice with him.

JustSpeakSense · 10/10/2016 22:23

I think you misread his awkwardness , I think he's probably a wee bit attracted to you and his stammering and quickly dropping his gf's name into the conversation is a bit of guilty embarrassment.Grin

Lweji · 10/10/2016 22:27

The OP wasn't rude at all.

KindDogsTail · 10/10/2016 22:29

I agree with others saying you should not over think this. He sounds an awkward sort of chap who is not used to girls in general, just his girlfriend.
He may even be a little bit autistic. Just act as though it never happened.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 10/10/2016 23:40

"He may even be a little bit autistic."
Oh that is just brilliant. The OP is the one who agonised over this and now it seems it was a waste of everyone's time.

elodie2000 · 11/10/2016 06:54

I do wish you had snorted loudly 'bloody hell man's name I'm not asking you for a date! I'm asking if you get the opportunity to practice the language?'!
His reaction to you was based on his arrogance. Seriously annoying.
Don't give it another thought though OP. (Although I'd find it hard to! I'm even irritated on your behalf).

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