To expect DH to shower more than twice a month

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As the title goes really. DH has become very shower averse now there is a slight nip in the air, and has confessed to a shower hiatus extending to 12 days . Has dispensed with regular full showers in favour of a 'whores wash' in the sink.

Maintains he is clean, I disagree and thinking of picking him up and putting him in the shower. DAILY. Regardless of screams and tantrums.

I'm not BU am I? . Unless in fact is a gremlins and melts???

I don't really like showers. I just don't like being all cold and wet and naked. I still shower (almost) every day.

I'm having chemo and occasionally allow myself to skip a day if I'm feeling especially unwell. Mainly so I don't faint in the shower and hurt myself. I feel really bad about it though, and would never do it if I had leave the house or had guests coming over.

Is this a new thing or does it happen every winter? If it's new, it's definitely worth exploring mental health problems.

It takes 5 minutes to have a shower.

Lazy bastard.

No you don't have to drink quite a bit for it to happen. Really oddly, my DH only has to have 2 pints, though I accept that's not the norm.

Showering will make a difference because the next day when you're no longer sweating those smells through your pores, there will be no smell at all.

If you haven't showered, yesterday's smell will still be on your body...and the next day and so on...building up to a pungent and nasty aroma that the unwashed will be nose blind to.

Unlike those of us who have to travel next to them/work alongside them...

This thread is GOLD

That is gross. It's not a quirk, it's just revolting. Unless he has MH issues, in which case he needs more support from his doctor.

I would be divorcing someone who refused to maintain basic personal hygiene unless they were either physically or mentally ill.

It's disrespectful, anti-social, unhealthy and just plain revolting. It's not like we are living in a place that has little access to water is it. We are fortunate to have all the means we need to stay clean here. He needs to sort his act out and you should NOT be having to steer a grown man towards the bloody shower and try to get him to clean himself. It's just not acceptable behaviour.

How can backs and chests not smell though? Those areas sweat. You don't just have to go to the gym for those areas to sweat.

Yuck. How utterly revolting.

That is all.

Backs and chests don't smell.

Jesus Christ of course they do.

They're large areas of skin that has various (previously mentioned) smells sweated through the pores.

The build up effect can be awful for other people who have to be in close contact with them.

Seriously...yuk. people who havent washed that day do smell!

It says on the back of one of my soap and glory bottles

everybody uses soap, at least those we like to spend time with do

"Those areas sweat. "

Not all sweat smells. What does back sweat smell like? Never noticed it. Armpit sweat smells, that's different and genitals smell because of the secretions. Feet smell. Can you really say that there is a back of the leg smell?

Oh and the backs of ears can smell if they aren't cleansed, mainly of cheese. the longer the area is left unwashed the more pungent the stench gets.

I'm a soap dodging hippy and this is ridiculous. Is he depressed?
My dad did this when I was young. My mum had to nag him to bathe. His hair was greasy and he smelt.

Gross.
I shower twice a day and so does DH, He would be sleeping outside if he was your DH. Yuck.

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"Showering will make a difference because the next day when you're no longer sweating those smells through your pores, there will be no smell at all."

I've only ever smelled alcohol coming out of someone's skin when that person had been extremely drunk the night before. In that case, showering makes no difference as the alcohol is still in the system and continues to come out through the pores. Same with people who eat a lot of garlic, the smell is coming from the inside.

"Unlike those of us who have to travel next to them/work alongside them..."

The people who smell on public transport are those who don't use deodorant.

Not all sweat smells.

Correct. Fresh sweat doesn't smell. Sweat that's been hanging round for a day or two (or 12!) on a stinky body smells.

That's horrible.
Maybe he's one of the people with the gene/gene mutation that can't smell the main component of sweat so genuinely think they don't smell.
Tell him he is wrong, he stinks and it's just grim.
Yes people did this in the olden days, but it was a proper strip wash and infections and illness much more common

"I shower twice a day and so does DH"

Unless you exercise every day you're overshowering, wasting water and electricity and drying out your skin.

What does back sweat smell like? Never noticed it

It smells like most other stale sweat - disgusting.

Fresh sweat in most bodily areas doesn't smell.

But after 24hrs+ on the body, it really will and it doesn't take more than 5 minutes to shower off.

Backs do get smelly, believe me. And chests have some of th most pheromone laden oils in the body. Fine after a warm evening. Rank after a week.

My belly button gets disgusting when I've done lots of ironing or standing in front of a hot oven :P

Showering twice a day is unnecessary and unhealthy. As is showering once every 12 days. Gross

"Fresh sweat doesn't smell."

Armpit sweat smells straight away.

"My belly button gets disgusting when I've done lots of ironing or standing in front of a hot oven :P"

In what way?

Boaking at 'overshowering'.