To expect DH to shower more than twice a month

[IsItJustFuck1ngMe]

As the title goes really. DH has become very shower averse now there is a slight nip in the air, and has confessed to a shower hiatus extending to 12 days . Has dispensed with regular full showers in favour of a 'whores wash' in the sink.

Maintains he is clean, I disagree and thinking of picking him up and putting him in the shower. DAILY. Regardless of screams and tantrums.

I'm not BU am I? . Unless in fact is a gremlins and melts???

Yup, fucking minging.

Horrible.

What about washing his face and cleaning teeth?

Does he leave a grey, grimy streak on the sheets? Is his pillow greasy? Yuk.

Another thought... do you have children? 1) because it sets a bad example but mainly 2) any child old enough to speak will surely be telling him that he doesn't smell good. Children have no tact filter.

Cold weather is when I want a hot soapy shower the most.

How long has this been going on? Lack of motivation in hygiene can be symptom of mental ill health. I am not suggesting that everyone with mental health issues don't wash, more it can be part of a bigger issue.

Maybe it looks like the reverse of an outline of a dead body when he gets up out of bed, you know like the ones in crime dramas.

disgusting and disrespectful to you. Why does he think its okay for him to lay down with you when you are clean and he is not?

I think I am more shocked that a few have never heard of "whores wash". .

But yes, that is a bit grim.

Even if standards were slipping, he should be showering no fewer than 3-4 times a week.

Does he have depression?

The only time I've known anyone go that long, they were having quite a severe depressive episode.
There is no way on earth any right-minded person would think that is normal or acceptable.
How totally disrespectful to you as well. How have you put up with this?

We're not a particularly clean family but I expect a shower every few days at least. There would be no sex until this is resolved.

This is horrible. Our shower was bust and needed replaced earlier this year and we were both getting up at 6 to have a bath before work. Even when I had proper flu and could barely stand I had my DP help me into the shower every day.

Are you his mum? Is he a toddler that has to be wrestled into the shower?

Thought not. What a turnoff. He must absolutely reek, he wouldn't be sharing a bed with me

I couldn't see the whole thread title and thought it would say twice a week. Which would still be minging IMO :(

There's nothing amusing about that at all. I could only imagine letting myself go to that extent of I was deliberately attempting to repulse my partner or had no interest in being attractive to them (MH issues aside).

I couldn't be with a filthy slob like that.

Years ago my step brother decided that washing was unhealthy , unnecessary and middle class. He reeked very quickly, but took no notice if any complaints from family and friends, until we went a pub called the Rat's Castle . It was as grim as itsounds , and standing at the bar an ancient and crusty customer reeled back from my bro and said v loudly "cor fuck me what is that smell?"
step brother showered that night .

Someone on my bus home smelt horrible, not like BO but overpowering mustiness and skin and raw potatoes...
i hope it wasn't him. Blech.

Yuk, that is disgusting. I thought you where going to say in a week! Thought yuk.

Dirty git, I so hope he doesn't have an arse as hairy as my own DH does - shudders

I've never heard of a whores wash either but I've had plenty in ye olden days of freezing bathroooms and no hot water

Yes it's grim. But how did we cope before showers?

Just saying.

I once dated a man who told me he didn't need to use deodorant because he didn't have any bodily odour at all. The operative word there being once. I did force myself to tell him in a slightly strangled voice from the strain of downplaying it (on the phone whilst declining a second date) that he was mistaken about the lack of bodily odour and that deodorant would be a good idea, because he was a nice guy and I thought he deserved to know the truth. I could never find him attractive after the appalling stench lingered inside my nostrils for days. His delusion wasn't attractive either.

Probably your DH doesn't smell that bad, but he's probably deluding himself if he thinks he smells fresh as a daisy.

If my DH did this he'd be in the spare room.

Eurgh. At least my ex bathed once a week. Still left the filthy bastard.

if DP stopped showering every day and cared so little then I'm afraid I'd have to leave him. Mental health and/or depression aside, there's no excuse and I'd assume that he thought little of me, much less cared about my opinion.

And there's no way he'd be getting jiggy with me! No way...