To think it's polite to say hi and bye when you're arriving/leaving my home?

[Itrytoohard]

I'm fully prepared to be told I am BU based on DS1s looks he gave me but it's been bugging me.

DS2s girlfriend came over late last night, about 10:30ish and didn't say anything as she stood in the hall whilst ds talked to me then ran off upstairs without saying a word. She then came down at almost midnight in her tiny pyjama shorts and Tshirt to say hello and apologise for not saying hi almost an hour and a half ago and said she had to go upstairs and get changed because she was freezing. Yes I'm sure she was so cold she couldnt pop her head round the door and say hello because she had to change out of her freezing cold coat, jumper and leggings into her shorts.

I wasn't expecting her to come sit with us and chat for hours, no. I knew she wouldn't because me, DP, DS1, his girlfriend and DD were taking up the 2 sofas and she's a total bitch a bit fussy when all the sofas were taken up and expects someone to sit on the floor so she can sit down I just wanted a hello.

Then an hour ago she left for college and didn't even say goodbye. I didn't know she had left until DD said her ped wasn't outside anymore.

I just feel it's rude.

Also, I don't dislike her. I understand my post might look that way but I just needed to vent and she's doing my ducking head in at he mo.

Yes they were pushing their luck but they still can home before the time you agreed so you can't punish them. If you wanted them home earlier you should've given an earlier time.

Yes they were pushing their luck but they still can home before the time you agreed so you can't punish them. If you wanted them home earlier you should've given an earlier time.
But the time given was 7/8 so to me that would mean 8 would be the very lastest at a push. I would think I was pushing my luck if I arrived home at 7:30, I would be straight out taking the piss coming home at 2 minutes to 8.
I do agree you can't really punish him though, perhaps just explain that you find that a bit cheeky and when you say 7-8 you mean 7 but won't go mad if it half an hour later, but 58 minutes later is not okay.

Sounds as if she wants him to not interact with anybody!

I remember being painfully shy and awkward as a teenager, particularly around adults and realise now that I must have come across as so rude and aloof. I just had a distinct lack of social skills.

Ah, just seen the rest of your posts.

I don't have any ideas for how you could deal with this, but I totally agree that everyone coming and going should say Hi and Bye. Those are the rules in our house. In fact when one of DS2's friends came round a few months ago, he didn't. I told DS2 that and everyone of his friends since has greeted. That's all we need.