To be grateful for my good looks

[Trefoil]

In very difficult times, being good looking has helped me soldier on

Trefoil, maybe you could ask for this thread to be moved out of AIBU (which can be notoriously harsh sometimes) into Relationships or even into Chat, whatever seems appropriate?

I'm sure there are people here who'd like to help you talk things through

Oh I agree pacillin and the person I've been most impressed by in life it was his personality not looks - he made me feel great about myself

And OP, it's never too late to turn your life around. Focus on what's truly important in life: True happiness, which comes from good realtionships with other people, ultimately love. Nothing else matters, really.

*paxillin

I wish people would stop being cunts to the op

London - I know I've messed my good relationships up though through my stupidity

Good for you OP.

I'm sure you have more than good looks, though.

We never know where opportunities would take us, or missed opportunities.
What seems like the end of the world now could be a blessing.

It's like that person who runs for the plane or train and is so happy and relieved that they caught it, while someone else is incredibly upset that they missed it, but then the plane or train crashes.
You simply don't know what would have happened if you had taken those chances. And you don't know the great things that can still happen.

You have your whole life ahead and it can be great if you let it.

On your looks I mean, not the relationship stupidity!

Trefoil.

Please think about going and talking to somone.

This straw your clutching to is lovely (who wouldn't want to be good looking!) but it is temporary!

After you access help you'll see a whole world of other straws open up and you will need them one day so get help to see them now while there's still time to catch them.

Does that make sense?

Everything Iv said on this thread had been said with kindness ok.

Do you mean you cheated?
Or did you let go of good people and now regret it?

You can start new relationships, use what you've learned from your mistakes. In time, you can rescue and revive old relationships, too. You haven't murdered anyone and there is a comeback from most other things. Start online if rl seems daunting, hang out on the mn relationship board, see if you can help others.

Also, OP, pay no attention to all the harsh comments. Peoplem on MN can be rally harsh sometimes, it's just what the internet sometimes does to some people, offers them an outlet for all their pent up aggression and negativity, and a comment like yours on how you feel lucky to be considered attractive is bound to get a lot of people angry, as it's seen as bragging, and will feel offendd because they don't feel good about their own apperance (sure they have no reason to feel like this, but society puts so much pressure on women to be beautiful that if we don't live up to the unrealistic standards we feel so bad about ourselves and get super mad at someone who is confident about their apperance) and the or for other reasons find the comment shallow.Try to maybe start another thread in another section on the site about the real issues that you seem to have, giving more context.

I was attractive enough right up into my forties I suppose but in my early sixties those days are behind me plug ugly.

As a PP said it is very liberating. Not a single fuck do I give.

I am sorry you are feeling low OP - and I hope that in years to come things come together for you and that you are happy in your own skin.

Lweji - I suppose with hindsight I let a god person go and now regret it. I may have taken this person's presence for granted.

Good * person

ummm...

Why don't you start from the start Trefoil? It sounds like you have a lot going on.

Or even better start a new thread about why you are feeling so low right now. We are mostly a helpful bunch here on MN but I'm not sure people will read this whole thread and realise you've actually posted because you are actually unhappy.

Oh and I hope to God this doesn't become a bloody selfie thread.

Cringe.

Well I won't be posting any selfies! I admit ive found MN supportive overall

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I imagine the people demanding photos just want to lay into you anyway, Tre.

There is nothing wrong with a woman being happy with the way she looks - As long as she never says it out loud in the company of other women.

me too op me too

Nothing wrong with being grateful for being good looking let's face it, it can certainly be helpful.

If someone said they were grateful for being smart or healthy or any other attribute would they get such a negative response?

Hmm ... I think you need to find something new to aim for in your life - new job, new hobbies, new friends?