To be grateful for my good looks

[Trefoil]

In very difficult times, being good looking has helped me soldier on

I'll always have my flatulence.

That's totally realigned my thinking. Suddenly I have a huge well of gratitude in spite of my ugliness

I bought frumpy boots in Clark's today because they're practical and comfy. I'm 42 and give no fucks anymore. Bloody liberating!

kondos Hot!

My turn -
I don't open the door when it's dark, I also can't clean my Windows very well but I can hold a good conversation with my cat.

catgirl
She also rang in sick once because she had accidentally drunk 2 Berocca's and thought she was overdosing on vitamin C

Oh - lordy!

I didn't mean it like that all Miss Hoolies Cardigan - sorry if it came across like it.

What is the point of this thread OP? Clearly you've had a tough time, but you're not apparently asking for support so, why?

What is the point of this thread OP? Clearly you've had a tough time, but you're not apparently asking for support so, why?

Oops sorry for posting twice

MyCat... you're smoking.

Op this is an odd and insensitive thread.

Looks don't help your mental health or keep your children alive.

The amount of times I've had Doctors turn round and tell me I shouldn't be depressed as I'm pretty is a complete joke.

And remember looks fade.

I didn't mean it like that all Miss Hoolies Cardigan

Made me laugh much more than it should have.

It was just a straw to clutch at tbh - but I must be mistaken

I actually feel pity for you OP.
I genuinely can't imagine looking at my life and thinking Oh well I'm good looking.
be smart, be brave, be funny, witty, sarcastic, whatever you want to be! And yes you can be good looking as well as that, But to only cling onto that? sorry, something is very, very wrong.
One day you will gain weight, or get wrinkles, or hair on your face or something. No one stays stereotypically beautiful forever, thats why its whats on the inside that matters the most, sorry to be cliche but inner beauty doesn't fade. What those closest to you can see and enjoy, not your body and your face.
I know OPs posting quite strangely and has had a bit of a roasting but honestly I think you need help OP.
Please see a doctor.

"a face like a blind cobbler's thumb"

Trefoil No, I know you didn't mean it like that, don't worry. I genuinely hope you're ok.

Trefoil, why is it a straw to clutch at?
Is everything crumbling around you?
What's gone wrong?

Why do you think your looks are something to hold on to? What benefits have they brought you?

OP,

A man who only shows you attention based on your looks, isn't a man you want to be with.
It's not great to put all your self worth in your looks, or judge your self worth by how much male attention you get, because looks fade and then what?

Just by starting this thread, you've shown you are brave and resilient. Not many people would start a thread on AIBU declaring themselves beautiful, and even fewer would hang around and engage with it and I bet there's other qualities you have that you don't see, try focusing on them.

Is everything crumbling around you? Utes and has been for some time

Yes**

Thanks Pidgeys - there have been times in my life when I've felt brave - facing the world when feeling terrible . My life improved significantly - now I've stupidly wasted everything

Good for you Trefoil but we have a saying in Ireland "Beauty won't boil the pot".

Tell us what's up, Trefoil.

Lweji - I stupidly wasted opportunities - my fault I know - then I got kicked very badly when down

I think it's fair enough to say you're grateful for you good looks, come on. We all have certain areas in life where we are blessed by luck - and it IS indeed luck because we have to quite a large extent, no influence over our appearance - and other areas where we are less lucky. Of course you can strive to make your life and the lives of those around you better, but some areas are hugely influenced by luck.

If you are lucky to be blessed with what society at the time of your birth considers an attractive appearance (don't forget this has changed a lot over time) then use that natural advantage to focus on toerh parts of your person than your appearance, and to make life better for others. Since you have naturally good looks, you have no reason to spend so much time focusing on that aspect. As many people have said, looks fade over time, (or so this ageist society thinks, and even a "beautiful2 older woman is not really perceived as such) so better spend your time budiling other areas of your life.

Take mn as an example. It would be dead in a day if there was a compulsory picture for each poster.

If you spend a week you'll warm to some posters more than to others. It is irrelevant if the warm hearted, witty, acid tongued, sweet or crude ones are of great physical beauty.