To be grateful for my good looks

[Trefoil]

In very difficult times, being good looking has helped me soldier on

If anyones interested I'm absolutely smoking hot. I spend all day fending off male and female attention of people wanting to get with this. I have had some terrible times in my life but it makes me feel better about myself.

If you think I sound arrogant OP this is how you're coming across. Talk if you want to about your difficult times, there are plenty of people on here that will listen and you will find people who have been where you are but don't start a thread with that title. You'll get nowhere and it makes you sound completely unlikeable. Which I'm sure you're not as I'm a massive Pollyanna.

Self absorbed & full of self pity. Can see why you're such a catch OP.

This is a bizarre post, not sure what is more bizarre:
the OP may not be taking the piss
responses are not taking the piss
Some fucking responses with selfies....

This is MN people.

I'm going to focus on the other bit of what you said Trefoil .... that you are grateful about something in your life.

I think you're on to something good with that, and feeling grateful or thankful or good about stuff in our lives can be a great practice (like a spiritual or philosophical practice, also we have to keep practicing it as it's so easy to forget!)

If you can widen what you're grateful about it will help you even more

I am grateful amongst many other things that people have sometimes found me attractive as that's contributed to some good relationships and experiences through life. But I realise how arbitrary that is.

Me Me Me

I've had a really, really shit year.

But my gorgeousness, inside and out, keeps me going.

Anyone want to see a pic?

Do you know what?
If you're having a really shitty time of it and you've managed to find something to feel positive about, then GOOD FOR YOU
It wasn't phrased in a way that would gain the most understanding of responses but heyho.

You go Glen Coco

Just to place mark.

The best way to keep your spirits up.

More seriously, and if you are serious, OP, you're on a path for depression when you get older. Do try to find something else to feel better about.

I think the OP must be in a bad place to post this so can ee be nicer please? She knew she'd be flamed but is actually asking for help isn't she?

Wow, you are brave!

Better to be proud of being brave than being good looking!

YANBU!

Wish I was better looking :)

thanks for provoking this response which made me laugh:

"You've inspired me to focus on my undeniable qualities op.

My farts could kill a cow dead from a 100 paces. I'll always have my flatulence."

Or just shamelessly seeking attention bummy

WOW this is a weirdy wierdy thread.

I think it's great that you can be happy about that , OP. Fair play to you!

Are we playing a weird MN version of Hot or Not now?

Do you know, OP, I am 40 now and I can honestly say one of the very best things about getting older is not giving a flying fuck what I look like or what anyone else thinks about my appearance.

It is wonderfully liberating. I love it. :)

To be fair a farting contest with a cow where you come out on top is an achievement not to be sneezed at!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder surely? My friends rave about Daniel Craig but I think he has the face of a troll (bless him) what I'm trying to say is that beauty doesn't hold any real value, if a man didn't find you beautiful because not every man will, how would you feel? I am not attractive by the way but I don't think I really care tbh, I care more that people value me for my amazing personality!

Being good looking only works if you have the self esteem to match. I've been told I'm attractive but it means nothing to me when life is otherwise shitty. In fact it's made me even more paranoid about being judged. Looking average and approachable can be easier. And looks are subjective, not everyone finds the same people attractive, even super models.

Although I have wondered if it could help in some ways - obviously in finding a romantic partner but perhaps in getting jobs for example, our society seems very looks focussed and social media is aiding this e.g. LinkedIn for professional networking. So it could help but I don't think it will make you happier.

MN hot or not!

I clean my loo with a bog brush and can only make one meal out of a cooked chicken: Hot, or not? You decide.

I think you must be in a really shitty place for your looks to be the one thing you're clinging to as a positive, even more so to post on MN in this particular section.
If your other threads are anything to go by I'd advise an honest chat with your GP.

Speaking as someone with a face like a blind cobbler's thumb, I'm really pleased on your behalf that your personal gorgeousness has smoothed your path in life.

I am. Really.

I really, really am.

No - that is not the sound of me grinding my teeth. Why would it be?

(Hope your tongue is very firmly in your cheek OP )

I'm sure I read somewhere that when "good looking" people are convicted of a crime they get longer sentences.

It's a curse.

OP, there's nothing wrong with liking how you look or taking pride in your appearance. I spent many years hating the way I looked and it was awful.
However, posters are right that it isn't a great idea to tie up too much of your self worth with how you look. Looks fade and, IME, the greatest satisfaction in life comes from feeling that you've achieved something (however small) and connecting with other people. Being born good looking is just random chance.
Also, I know you didn't mean it like this, but the way your post is worded implies that women who aren't physically attractive shouldn't bother soldiering on when things are tough and should just throw the towel in.