AIBU to think its just bizarre behaviour and rude to do this?

[Sparklyshoes16]

Today I went for meet up with a few friends and one of them didn't want to finish off their lunch so turned round to me in front of our group and said "I'm so full, here you finish this off", I declined and carried on with mine. We then ordered cake and coffee to finish off before going home, she had a very small bite of what she ordered and then again in front of everyone said "here you might as well finish this" again I declined and carried on eating what I had ordered. It was still sat there when we had all finished eating and she said "stop staring at it and have it if you want it" very loudly. I firmly said I don't want it and carried on talking/eating to everyone else I wasn't even looking at it. She has done this a few times in front of other people and I'm not sure why as I have never finished off someone else's meal (only my own family when I've been really hungry ). I'm quite large and she is VERY skinny so i don't know if it's just some sly dig...my other friend text me and asked if i was OK as she had noticed it became a little frosty...I don't want to reply as she is known to make a drama out of things...just feeling a little bit hurt...were all meant to be going out tomorrow night for another friend's joint birthday meal but don't feel like going as don't want any comments whilst eating.

[IDontCareILoveIt]

Don't let her stop you going out. If it was me I'd say

I've got plenty thank you, maybe next time you should just order a kids meal then you wouldn't be wasting so much!

Then if it continues point out that she could do with finishing her meal as only dogs like bones

[RB68]

I would have said - what after you have pushed it around your plate like some 3 month old fish for half an hour - no thanks, take it home yourself for later

[whippetwoman]

This is definitely her issue and based on what you have said, it does sound like she has problems around food. I am skinny and have been very underweight and not in a good place at times, with food issues, but I have never drawn attention to not eating - that seems to be about dominance and control. It's possible she is controlling about food because inside she feels out of control. She wants people to know she has self-restraint, she needs some kind of acknowledgement and also to feel superior.
It's mean behaviour but inside she may well be rather unhappy and jealous of your happy normality. This is just based on my own food history and what you've said.

You sound lovely and I wish you were my friend!

[rookiemere]

I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from pointing out that it was silly to order a dessert when she was unable to eat most of her main course.

I would go tonight for sure. At least now you're forewarned. I think Elspeth's response is perfect - light hearted but gets the point across.

You could even start on her before she ordered. "Are you sure you'll be able to eat all that Fakefriend? Remember the other night when you could only eat about half your main course, maybe a small salad would be better for you?". Or not as that would make you as bad as she is.

Take comfort from the fact that you sound happy in your own skin, whereas she has some deep rooted weight issues. Plus you get to eat - and enjoy - your own meal. She clearly doesn't.

[Hrafnkel]

Sounds like you are being Wendied

[PoisonousSmurf]

She's a cow and is trying to show how 'perfect' she is. Maybe your other friends could tell her that she needs to stop being such a sad person!

[ChasingAPinkBall]

I don't think she's weird, I think she's a prize bellend! I'm inclined to agree with you that she's trying to 'steal' your friends. Like someone else mentioned, she's being a bitch 'queen bee'.
I've introduced friendship groups and now we have one large group, I'd be devastated if they went on a night out and didn't mention it to me! To be fair though that wouldn't happen, we always try to find a date we can all do.
Shes an utter cow. I'd arrange a night out with the other girls and not invite her. You have to be the Queenier Queen bee! Or find new friends 😕

[Sparklyshoes16]

Yes she definitely has issues with food BorpBorpBorp Since I've known her she always has. I've tried talking to her about it a few years ago but realised I was making things worse so just thought to try to be there when she comes round to the idea she has issues but then today I just thought this is not very nice and felt very uncomfortable.

[Realhousewivesofshit]

Still think Elspeths response is the best.

I disagree with Borp I think she is a total bitch and it most certainly is personal. Anorexics don't act like this in my experience.

[witsender]

I would reply to text sickly sweet saying you're absolutely fine, just really worried about Bitchface and her behaviour with food etc.

[JacquelineChan]

I would beat her at her own game and say ''you look like you need it more than i do !'' and laugh like it is the world's funniest joke

She wants to make a point that you eat more than her - get in there before she does . Bet she won't do it again. What a silly woman she is !

[billabye]

I'm also thinking she's trying to Wendy you. What a nasty bitch

[ConvincingLiar]

"No thanks, if I'd wanted two slices of cake I'd have ordered two slices of cake."

I like this as a response. Complaining about germs will allow her to think you'd have liked to have eaten two slices. She does sound unpleasant.

[rookiemere]

I prefer the earlier response ConvincingLiar because it gets across the point that offering others - or more particularly one person - your leftovers, is kind of gross.

[ConvincingLiar]

We'll have to disagree. I would be happy to share some food with some people. At least everyone can agree that her behaviour was not on.

[GabsAlot]

im big myself but i still think she has eating issues

u say your husband notice she done it to someone else-she obviously feels bad about not finishing her food and wants to get rid

the way she goes abut it though is wrong

[ItShouldOfBeenJess]

What's 'Wendying'?!

She sounds horrid, OP and quite clearly jealous of you for some reason. I wouldn't necessarily assume because she's very thin, she has an eating disorder (unless she's skeletal) - I think she's just an utter tosser. My sister was hospitalised for anorexia in her late teens; if anything, she went out of her way to hide how little she ate - she would never have let on to others that she was leaving food, etc, or deliberately highlighting the fact.

I hope you have a good evening and try to rise above it. Other people are quite clearly noticing her behaviour.

[Drbint]

I'd say, "Just because I'm fatter than you doesn't mean I'm greedy," but I have no tact with this kind of shite.

[TheRollingCrone]

Yes you're being Wendied . I like some of these retorts. Let her know, and your friends. I like the asking everyone "Oh look Sophies not finished her food..again" She sounds awful

[MrFMercury]

Plenty of great suggestions here but don't make comments about her size because if she did that it'd be totally out of order. I think she's maybe jealous that you're comfortable in your own skin and these constant comments/trying to make you eat more is a deliberate attempt to make you seem greedy. I wouldn't talk about her to any one else, I'd just point out you ordered the food you want and perhaps ask if anything is wrong. That puts the focus back on her and she either opens up or more likely hopefully shuts up.

[Mozfan1]

Leave a couple of spoonfuls of dessert and offer it to her before she has the chance to do it to you

[Mozfan1]

Make sure they're really dreggy and gross

[SquinkiesRule]

It does sound like you are being Wendied, she's forming her own personal friend group of people she thinks are thin enough and you are being pushed out of your own friend group.
I'd definitely answer back, don't let her catch you off guard. Organize things with your friends but don't include her.

[AnythingMcAnythingface]

I'd be doing two things.

1. Person who texted you reply: "what do you mean?"
   Get them to outline to you what happened
   
   
2. Tomorrow night at dinner when she is ordering say, "are you sure you're going to be able to eat all that? I don't what you trying to palm it off on me again whenever you've had three bites (Unsubtle meaningful look at person who texted you)... it was a bit awkward really! (tinkly laugh). "