AIBU to think its just bizarre behaviour and rude to do this?

[Sparklyshoes16]

Today I went for meet up with a few friends and one of them didn't want to finish off their lunch so turned round to me in front of our group and said "I'm so full, here you finish this off", I declined and carried on with mine. We then ordered cake and coffee to finish off before going home, she had a very small bite of what she ordered and then again in front of everyone said "here you might as well finish this" again I declined and carried on eating what I had ordered. It was still sat there when we had all finished eating and she said "stop staring at it and have it if you want it" very loudly. I firmly said I don't want it and carried on talking/eating to everyone else I wasn't even looking at it. She has done this a few times in front of other people and I'm not sure why as I have never finished off someone else's meal (only my own family when I've been really hungry ). I'm quite large and she is VERY skinny so i don't know if it's just some sly dig...my other friend text me and asked if i was OK as she had noticed it became a little frosty...I don't want to reply as she is known to make a drama out of things...just feeling a little bit hurt...were all meant to be going out tomorrow night for another friend's joint birthday meal but don't feel like going as don't want any comments whilst eating.

Brilliant! Well done Sparkly!

Good for you, despite not posting on the thread so far I was wondering how you got on last night.

Well done for dealing with some quite nasty provocation. These people aren't your friends, if I were you I would go radio silence from now on.

If a friendship makes you more sad than happy, it isn't worth having. Move on with your head held high and don't engage if they text you

Well done sparkly, I think you will have taken the wind out of their nasty sails. You sound lovely by the way.

I agree with helmet and I don't think personal insults are called for even if someone started it first - that being said, they are really unpleasant women and you did brilliantly to stand up to them. They were treating you appallingly, well done for calling an end to it

Well done lovely. I think personal insults are fine if you don't make the first one. My dcs have fended many a bully off by answering back with an equally sharp personal comment.

You shut the bitches down good on you.

Totally ignore them now. Never speak or text them again. Delete their numbers and if you FB then block them.

I agree.
I really hate insults based around being fat/Thin/ugly/old etc and I don't actually care that they started it.
but I do think it's fab that the op found a way to stand up for herself. In spite of all the posts suggesting cutting quips and tinkly laughs it's all bollocks - people in real life don't do that. Or if they do they look like arseholes. So countering their nastiness must have been hard - well done.

Blimey work in a hospital you would see loads of cutting quips and up front banter. Bullies need cutting down to size early and decisively.

Think the op was very restrained. In my friends and acquaintance circle the nasty sly digs would have been sat on by others at once.

Well done OP and OPDH!

Well done OP you have more patience than me. I wouldn't have been able to resist calling them bullying little school girls and telling them to grow up and fuck off.

You go girl! Well done! Life's too short to waste on people like that.

sitting on bullies is not the same as cutting quips and tinkly laughs.
One isn't unusual the other exists mostly in retrospect.

Well done, Sparkly - I was hoping you had played a blinder, and you did!

Fantastic Op. You managed to show them up for who they really were to everyone around them.
Up till that point they were so consumed with making you the butt of their little in-jokes they were oblivious that they had already ruffled a few feathers in your group with their general behaviour. Their intent to single you out throughout the night just got the groups backs up more and by the time you spoke out, I think it was only then that they realised that they'd pissed the whole group off.
If they've any shame they won't show their faces again.

Yay, very well done OP. Would I be remiss in offering untouched by human hands

There should be a clapping smiley. What a pair of bitches. Well dealt with OP.

superstar OP

Watch out for more backstabbing now...They won't go down quietly.

Berylstreep it was a raised to you all instead ofas I don't drink lol my body can't do hangovers anymore . Definitely keeping silent now and have put them on a separate friends list on FB (stirring ex friend will make a song and dance and twist things if I delete them...to other friends)...I've already had a few texts from 'stirring ex friend' this morning asking is "everything ok Hun" so not replied had a couple of missed calls from stirrer too...Helmut I would never be intentionally mean to someone but the comments on here made me realise it's really wrong what's been going on and the only way to deal with them two was a sharp come back as that's the only type of language they understand!! I very rarely say anything as I hate confrontation.

I'm not sure why stirrer decided to mention stuff about my top...I'm not like them and buy new clothes every minute or have nails done every week to be honest it's just not me...I prefer to save up and spend money on weekends away or days out with the family...Nothing against those who do just not for me! I am human and girlie and like to look nice so I save up and get expensive make up instead as I feel if it's going on my face then I should invest but that's just me.

After dispatching your frenemies with your spot on comments motorway driving will be a doddle. Well done

"everything ok Hun ????" What is she on ?
ignore ! it will be hugely more effective than replying :o)

You were fab!!!

I knew she'd text you! Continue to ignore!!

Great updates, well done OP!