To feel a bit sad about this gift

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OH has had flowers delivered for my birthday. I am very grateful for the gift and I know that I am lucky to have him.

However, I can't help feeling a little sad at the same time. The bouquet is pale pink and pale purple with a few white bits. These are colours that I just don't like. I do not wear anything in these colours, I do not buy anything for the house in these colours, and I avoid dressing our baby girl in these colours.
I have said to my OH so many times when I've bought flowers how much I love really brightly coloured ones.
He definitely knew what he was buying as the website they are from you choose by picture.

AIBU to feel a bit sad that after 9 years living together, he still doesn't know my taste at all?

YANBU - I mentioned to my DH a character in a book I'd read, who rather decadently had fresh flowers in the home evey week. We aren't as poor now so DH regularly comes home with a big bunch of flowers lovely... But we did have to have the conversation. I love bright flowers, and tbh He bought a few bouquets I didn't really like.. It's pointless getting, and giving, a present that could have very easily been well received and loved. He buys them because he wants me to be happy, not just grateful he nearly got it right... My DH was glad I mentioned it as now he knows I genuinely love the flowers and they take pride of place on the sideboard. It'd do us both a disservice to keep up the pretence. He wasn't offended, or hurt.

It's not about the fucking flowers, Imo, it's about the bad residual feelings. Don't you feel warm and fuzzy when someone remembers something small about you, and uses it to make you happy?

For all those slating OP as they don't even get flowers off their own OHs are being ridiculous. Very petty and unnecessary. You deserve better too, actually.

I understand how you feel, presents that are obviously not what you'd like are frustrating from a partner that you hope would know you. But he's tried so enjoy them anyway.

Some people express their love and appreciation by carefully picking out thoughtful and meaniful gifts. Others express their affection differently. It's obvious which one OP is - and that's why it matters. Those who are saying YABU probably don't put as much of an emphasis on the thought behind gift giving. as a sign of love - hence why they're indifferent.

And those posters whose loved ones can't be arsed shouldn't be expecting everyone else to put up and shut up with that crap treatment.

Why, just because they're flowers, shouldn't the OP have a preference?

If he'd bought perfume she didn't like, or earrings if she didn't wear them, would that be ok?

How much thought did he really put in to them?

To add to the list of crappy presents my DH has brought: he has just got back from a week in Belgium with work and decided to bring me some chocolate. Of course Belgium is world famous for its chocolate. It is not famous for its value packs of Quality Street (which he also brought last time and which I hate). Ho hum. Yes, I can confirm it makes you feel sad to get a present that is not only something you don't like that but something you have specifically said to not buy ever again.

On the bright side at least they will die eventually

This made me I do love a positive spin!

Some people express their love and appreciation by carefully picking out thoughtful and meaniful gifts. Others express their affection differently. It's obvious which one OP is - and that's why it matters. Those who are saying YABU probably don't put as much of an emphasis on the thought behind gift giving. as a sign of love - hence why they're indifferent.

I put huge amounts of thought and effort into my present giving. However, I am grateful and thrilled with any present I receive. I'm lucky DP generally gets it right but I wouldn't love him any less if he didn't.

Well I don't love him any less but it does make me feel crap. His presents always make me feel "generic". In fact, when he got me perfume (that I had asked him not to get as he had given it to me on three previous occasions and I couldn't get through it all before it was going off) he said "anyone would be pleased to have it". And that's exactly the point. His gifts make me feel like "anyone" not "someone".

Some people are more difficult to buy for than others. I worry when buying BIL or FIL presents.

Some people are more difficult to buy for than others. I worry when buying BIL or FIL presents

Why doesn't you DP?DH buy for his family then?

I hate flowers so I would be shit at buying the right ones.

Are you always such a spoilt princess?

Although I'm sure you should LTB.

What is it with some of the women on here whining because their birthday isn't perfect and they haven't had the presents they want? You are an adult - get over it!

Why doesn't you DP?DH buy for his family then?

He does but he doesn't know what to get them either. We are also a family and a partnership so the presents are from our family. He often buys things he thinks my parents or sister would like and vice versa.