To feel a bit sad about this gift

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OH has had flowers delivered for my birthday. I am very grateful for the gift and I know that I am lucky to have him.

However, I can't help feeling a little sad at the same time. The bouquet is pale pink and pale purple with a few white bits. These are colours that I just don't like. I do not wear anything in these colours, I do not buy anything for the house in these colours, and I avoid dressing our baby girl in these colours.
I have said to my OH so many times when I've bought flowers how much I love really brightly coloured ones.
He definitely knew what he was buying as the website they are from you choose by picture.

AIBU to feel a bit sad that after 9 years living together, he still doesn't know my taste at all?

fast I thought the blue brightened it up a bit

Those who say it's picky and ungrateful :
If you are given a gift that you don't really like, what do you do? Force yourself to like it?

Yes yabu. Very unreasonable!

YABVU and ungrateful. It's not like they last forever and you'll have to look at them every day for the rest of your life

My husband buys me a bunch of flowers often but never yet my favourite ones (even though he knows exactly which ones they are!) Doesn't bother me in the slightest, I just love that he thought to buy me flowers! Remember the old saying 'its the thought that counts'

Well it is.....

Pettiest. AIBU. Ever.

OP Flowers won't last forever so I'd probably just smile and say thank you until they die a week or two later.

YABVVVVVVU. Really.

FFS, it sounds quite ungrateful.

I don't like all colours but I am a flower lover and can appreciate a lovely bunch of flowers regardless of colour.

I never buy flowers for Anyone based on the clothes of clothes I have seen them wear or not wear

It's your birthday your OH has had a bunch of nice flowers delivered, so stop with the ungrateful and put a smile on that face seriously

allnewredfairy does he not buy you a birthday gift then?
Flowers were the "i can't think of anything else" option for my present.

If you are given a gift that you don't really like, what do you do?

Err appreciate the love that it represents perhaps?

Maybe I'm just expecting too much thinking that he might know my taste

Yep, and being precious and ungrateful

If I was your husband and had even the tiniest idea that this is your reaction, I'd never buy you flowers again, I'd maybe not even buy you a present at all, as I'm bound to get it wrong

Here's a grip

Oh get over yourself OP. You sound more and more ungrateful.

Maybe he would like a few pinks and purples around the house and on his child. He's probably bored with your colour scheme.

Super picky and totally unreasonable.

If you phone a local florist you tell them your budget and they send what's nicest, freshest or in season.

If you want "bright" I suggest you send your gorgeous bouquet to someone who will appreciate it, and get down the pound shop to buy some naff spray painted ones in as many lurid shades as you can find.

Those who say it's picky and ungrateful :
If you are given a gift that you don't really like, what do you do? Force yourself to like it?

Something I could exchange? No. Flowers or chocolates? I'd just appreciate the gesture.

What an ungrateful post.

You like flowers, he brought you a bunch of flowers to be delivered on your birthday but they aren't good enough as you don't like the colours. You like flowers so why not just appreciate a nice bunch of flowers from your OH and put a smile on your face ffs

Those who say it's picky and ungrateful :
If you are given a gift that you don't really like, what do you do? Force yourself to like it?

I appreciate the fact that someone cared enough to give me a gift.

Maybe next year he'll get something better suited to you. A nice bouquet of cacti and nettles, perhaps?

I'm also massively confused as to how anyone can really dislike a bunch of flowers...

I can honestly say that I have never disliked a bunch of flowers. Even if I wouldn't have chosen those ones myself. It's just such an odd and petty thing to dislike.

You seem very concerned with colours- to the extent of not dressing a child in pale pink and purple or white? I can't imagine colours defining me in this way.

Sorry, OP, but YABU!

If you are given a gift that you don't really like, what do you do?
Say Thank you and appreciate that someone was kind enough to think of you and buy you a gift. It's the thought that counts. Just because it is your OH, doesn't mean you should be rude. At least he got you something. It would be worse if he didn’t bother at all.

My husband always gets me the flowers I don't especially like, despite me telling him in not that keen on these particular ones.

Still the sweetness of the gesture always dramatically overshadows my mild exasperation that he can never remember that they are not my cup of tea!

Some men never think of it.
You did. You’d come along
And say you’d nearly brought me flowers
But something had gone wrong.The shop was closed. Or you had doubts –
The sort that minds like ours
Dream up incessantly. You thought
I might not want your flowers.It made me smile and hug you then.
Now I can only smile.
But, look, the flowers you nearly brought
Have lasted all this while.

Unlike absolutely everyone else (it seems) I can see where you're coming from. I think flowers are a bit of a rubbish present for your wife (surely you get flowers for people you don't know well enough to pick something more personal?), all the more so if they're not at all to her taste. But then, unlike everyone else, I don't think you should fall over in gratitude at the fact that a man bought you a gift at all. My husband buys really thoughtful presents and to be honest yes, yes I would be upset if he just got me some generic crap. I'm pretty certain he'd feel the same.

That's not me of course, it's Wendy Cope! This thread just made me think of it!