What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly . It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

lollylou That's bloody awful. Did she hang around just to say that?

barbara I'd have done the same thing!

NeverEverAnythingEver

The lady was was shopping too, (sale rails) due to her age, I thought she might of have a touch of dementia with her repeating herself.

Had a touch of dementia * apologies

Some shocking things on here. 😱

After give birth to ds2 that morning I was at mil waiting to collect ds1 from school (she stayed next door to school) I went up to collect him and a school mum looked at me and said you still look pregnant, if I looked like that I wouldn't leave the house I was left standing there with my mouth opening and closing like a fish lol

Ok my two:

I'm a single parent - 'it's quite trendy for people these days' I think she was trying to be nice

Mad child minder became quite heated with me for taking money out of her professions pocket because my parents provide my child care - yup because I'd really want someone as unstable as you caring for my child

Just after DD was born and they'd not seen her, "Has it got a hare lip too?"

Ugh.

Someone I know screenshot a text convo and posted it on fb, outing the perpetrator.

His wife had just given birth to dd2, their dd1 has an eye problem (she is a beautiful child).

His wifes friend accidentally sent a text to her meant for someone else. It said 'did you know * had the baby, hope it's not bonk eyed like its sister".

Not ok. at the texter being outed though!

Krissy- it's awful isn't it? I've had strangers say the exact same thing to me when I was trying to NG feed DS at a cafe.

Another mum at Babygroup when my first child was 7 months...

"Gosh, he's crawling already? Although they do say that children who don't get a lot of attention have to crawl earlier bacause they don't get things given to them."

Firstly, nobody says that!

Secondly, he got (and still gets) loads of attention!

My mum is constantly trying to convince me that DS is autistic. There's nothing at all about his behaviour or development that would lead me to think he is, but she raises it all the bloody time.

She's a drama llama & works in children's services so I can only assume she needs to feel some sort of personal experience.

when our 3rd son was born, my DH went out to buy some smaller onsies as we didnt have any really small baby clothes (first 2 sons were very big) anyway he was stopped by 2 of his mums friends, and on hearing our news, said they were sorry to hear that we had another boy. One patted his arm in a sympathetic way. My hubby was really upset, and came home near to tears.

what they didnt know was that the pregnancy was pretty traumatic with lots of early labour at 12 weeks, then 19 weeks when they tried to prepare us for a baby that wouldnt live long after birth so early. In the end I had a 40 week pregnancy, and really good labour, but he had the cord wrapped around his neck. And 24 hrs after birth he had b strep infection. So in all we were so, very very happy that he was OK and got to take him home.

our last child wasnt planned as such, and we had plenty of jokey 'are you trying for a girl '? comments.

we ignored. totally.

having four kids anyway makes everyone think you are bonkers. We always felt very lucky.

"She's so skinny, don't you feed her?" about my 7 year old daughter by a "friend" of my partner.

"Oh she has two mums? Who's the dad then?" Said by a neighbour whom I barely know except to say hi to in passing.
Like aye mate, I'm going to stand here and explain to you about donor sperm and lesbian parenting when I've hardly ever spoken to you before. Twat

"Well that won't be happening in our house!" When I said my 14 year old had gone out with a group via public transport to buy fast food.

I wasn't sure which bit was verboten!

Like strandedstarfish we have one dark haired & one blonde, and I have had numerous strangers ask if they have the same father, as my DH is dark haired (or was before he went grey!), as am I (although can't quite remember the real colour anymore!).

The worst comment I had though was years ago when I was feeding 3mo DS1 in John Lewis. He was an emergency cs and I had major problems trying to get him to latch on despite wonderful help from the midwives at the hospital where he was born. Because he was becoming jaundiced they firmly advised to give him a bottle after trying to breastfeed. For 3 months I desperately tried to express enough milk to supplement using formula, but my milk never properly came in and so I was spending hours when he was napping trying to express what I could. I had finally been made to see sense that he was thriving on the formula & it was silly trying to do something that was never going to work and had stopped expressing. A few days later I was shopping in John Lewis on Oxford Street. In those days they had a separate curtained-off room for breastfeeding babies from the part where you could bottle feed (I suppose so that Dads could use this part). Whilst I was sat in there feeding DS1, two women came in with their babies and proceeded to breast feed them in the other section. One then loudly said to the other that she "really couldn't understand how anyone could bottle feed their baby". I was so upset I went straight home and started trying to express milk again for another month before finally coming to my senses for a second & final time.
DS1 later had speech & coordination problems & I think the failure to latch may have been a very early symptom. DS2 was the complete opposite & I had no problems breastfeeding him, so I do have experience now of the difference.

Dd1 is a redhead. Mum at nursery saw the class photo and commented 'ugh, check out the ginger'. I told her that was my child, she then bent over and pulled off dd2's hat (she was a few weeks old) 'Is this another one ? Oh it's fine, it's not'

Since we had 2 Dd's, after the second was born we got a lot of. 'What a shame, is Dh not upset he hasn't got a son ? ' , 'You need to have another baby, Dh needs a son'.
We are very lucky to have our girls. Dd2's birth was very traumatic. Mw's missed that her heartbeat had almost stopped, she was born dark purple with cord round her neck. Thankfully she is fine. Dd2 was lucky to make it to term. So no I won't be having another.
All the above regarding Dh not having a son was from so called friends by the way who knew the circumstances of both girls pregnancy/birth.

School mum talking about how she needed to find a job now her second child was in reception - I suggested the after school club as my son uses it and she, being a pompous bitch said, ' I don't want to pay someone else to bring up my children.'. Offensive, dramatic and not terribly practical since she kicked her rich husband out and needs a job. Such a shame .

"OMG! Your DH is white! I thought he would have been "coloured". Is your ds adopted? How come you adopted a black child??

Just fuck off you infantile specimen and don't bother speaking to me again! .......You are no longer welcome in my life!

One parent of a child in ds1's class said had she met ds2 before her second child, she wouldn't have risked it! Ds2 wasn't naughty as such just a typical toddler at the time, but he was the complete opposite to ds1 who was so easy. I was quite hurt!

Someone asked what was wrong with my son so I in turn asked what was wrong with them. The woman was quite taken aback and replied that there must be something wrong with him. So I again said that there must be something very wrong with her for her to ask a question like that about a child.

My Ds has a few development issues and he wasn't doing anything out of the ordinary when the idiot asked her rude question. Some people are plain rude and nasty and the way to deal with them is to smile sweetly and ask 'did you mean to be so rude!'

Not on the same scale as others but a relative told me i was a lax parent who didn't watch my kids properly - at the time i had a 2 yr old, 1 yr old and was pregnant. The comment was utterly unjustified but at the time it really upset me and mde me anxious in social settings with the kids for a long time. I always say to my kids now that kindness is important

I had a few out of the same parent. She had actively seemed out my friend and I as she wasn't getting on with the mums she had known before nursery.

One was "I don't get why every one loves Garry!" Garry was my friend's son. He has a likeable personailty and was very much a child people were drawn to. I had known him since he was a baby and loved him. Found what she was saying very rude while she continued to be so two faced.

Then she told me "It's time you got the dye out and cover that grey, it's really annoying me!" Cue wide eyes from the other mums.

I just remembered a few years ago I was explaining to a colleague that my IVF children are twins because I had two eggs put back. "Oh they aren't proper twins then"