What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly . It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

I had a miscarriage, and someone asked me 'Weren't you using decent contraception?'

I'm married and in late 30's.

To DH "wow, your hair is so grey now!"
To me: "so was it a surprise? I mean, was the baby planned?"

Upon having DD2 a woman commented "it's a shame you didn't have a boy though isn't it"
Someone the other day told me my 5 month old baby is fat...I didn't realise skinny babies were all the rage now

I am an only child and my DM used to comment sadly' Oh it is such a shame I could not have given your father a son'. Recently I brought this up and she was all surprised and said she meant in addition to me, but I mean, really? WTAF is anyone saying that to their CHILD???!!!

The worst was an older woman from a playgroup that I had taken ds1 and then 3 years later Ds2 to. She commented on ds2 and how lovely he was and then added I quote 'not like his brother who was horrible'. Now ds1 was a more challenging child but I was dumbstruck. I have never spoken to her since, the nasty bitch.

I have always worked and have a career and I have had the 'I chose to bring my children up myself comment' at least 3 times. One woman even added that she was so glad that she did as she looks at her boys and is so proud of them (one of them became a dad at 17 with his 16 year old girlfriend).

Not another parent but FIL. DS2 has developmental delays because I don't give him as much attention as DS1 now the novelty has worn off. Obviously It has nothing to do with being in and out of hospital due to infections for the first 3 months of his life.

'You work? Your DC's go where? You don't BF? - I don't want other people bringing up my children... I could never do that to mine...'Sneered the same woman who now shouts loudly about the importance of having independent offspring. Whose young children are farmed out to other family members (and 'friends') 90% of the week whilst she obsessively persues her new career and multitude of interests and hobbies online dating.

Ooh, worrier, u reminded me if another one:

I went swimming with a friend-thru-kids, and she offered to hold my ~8 month old while I popped to the loo. When I got back she was sort of staring at him, and I asked if something was wrong. She said slowly 'this is the fattest baby I have EVER seen'. No humour to it, a sort of grim statement of fact.
He was naturally chubby (as was I as a baby), had a v healthy diet, and naturally became a really skinny kid by 2-3 years. One of hers was always v thin, the other quite a plump toddler at the time. No idea why she felt that was an appropriate way to talk!

I can't believe some of these!
Worst I got was in a children's centre and my DS3 was about 18 months and ran everywhere, he had quite bandy legs. One mother said "I'm amazed he can move so fast with such bent up legs"

Years ago DH was just starting out in his career and we were abroad. I joined a mother and toddler group. One woman joined at the same time and we became friends. She was quite nice and down to earth at first but her DH was on a diplomatic visa and got lots of diplomatic hand outs. They rented a millionaires appartment by the beach and hired a nanny and maid, so living a life she didn't in the UK. She started to get quite obnoxious and stuck-up. I invited her to our flat one day for a play date, she walked in and said "omg it's so pokey how can you bring a child up here?" I kept my distance after that. She befriended a really odd woman who'd just moved from Nigeria. She once said she'd gone back to London to have her baby because and I quote "No one has their baby in Nigeria" one gem of a woman said "Except from millions of Nigerians obviously". Irony is in London the stupid obnoxious twat probably had a Nigerian doctor and/or midwife.

We currently live again and recently I was dropping my four year son off, the deputy head was in the classroom and heard me speaking English to him. She pulled me to one side and told me that I should stop speaking to him in English because I might cause developmental delays. He's the youngest of 4, the other three are in the school and get really good grades so I was totally

Once while out on a Saturday with the kids a woman who I barely knew shouted across the street "Doesn't your lazy husband ever give you a day off?" DH used to work contracts abroad and would be away for 3 month stints and then home for 2-3 months. I didn't grace that with a reply.

My stepdaughter is a stunning, lovely-natured young woman with a lucrative career that keeps her in the public eye. My SIL is a gold-plated bitch. SIL put together a family tree with photos next to names. She chose a very old, grotty photo of DSD complete with glasses and braces whilst choosing ones of her own dds to show them in the best possible light. "-- was such an ugly child, amazing how well she has turned out" was one comment. Grrrrrr!

Can I also add that when DD2 was presented with her first at graduation, I asked her to show the certificate. I was standing next to my ex, her father. He looked at it and said "Oh, so you really did get a first!"

"Do all your kids have the same father?!"

When my DH passed away. One of the dads at school took me aside to tell me that my DC talking about dad dying was upsetting his daughter!!

'Friend' in a head tilty manner, "so disappointing when your children grow up unattractive isn't it?" (about my dd1 who is stunningly beautiful but has a dental problem)

My son had ASD and ADHD. Although I don't speak about it to other school Mum's about it (I tend to keep myself to myself) the school was wildly indiscreet. One Mum I am somewhat forced to encounter on a regular basis likes to make nasty comments...

"Teacher told me that she prefers the challenging children that must be why she likes littlelustre so much"... umm ok.

When they mixed the classes at junior level..." that's probably because no-one wants littlelustre."

About another pupil..." he told me he has ADHD... he shouldn't go around telling people that its so shameful...I don't believe in it anyway... they're all naughty aren't they it's all rubbish isn't it???" in a very pointed way.

At Christmas..." My DS told me that Father Christmas came to the class today" (true) "he said they all got a present, except littlelustre...much laughter".

Now I had never risen to it, never. I'd always smiled, always ignored. But this last one for some reason just cut to the quick. I informed her quite gently that I didn't think her son was telling the truth about that one... cue her becoming massively offended. She now mostly ignores me... bonus!

For some reason she has just never liked me... once she mentioned the PTA and I said vaguely that I might think about joining and she launched into a massive rant about how "Mum's like me" who stayed at home and didn't work like she did should volunteer for the PTA "...after all you don't work do you!? Well? Do you!?" Umm well yes I do actually I work nights that's why I am always around (and hanging) for drop offs etc...not that it had anything to do with her anyway! Her face was a picture when she found out I worked mind you.

Sorry that was long... and quite cathartic actually. Thanks OP.

my sister in law said that considering how ugly twins were when they were born they turned out ok-ish.

also when my two year old found my lipstick and put all over her face she said 'oh look your make up is a bit fucked up'

i haven't spoken to her in three years an never will. i just decided one day that i had enough of shit like this every time i saw her

When I was in hospital with DD, on a pediatric oncology ward, DD literally hooked up to her chemo, a member of the domestic team told me all about how hard it was when she was a child and had a sick sibling as they got all the attention. I explained how I give my DS lots of love and affection, told him every day how much I love him, how we have a very close family and he is much loved by and cared for by my DM and ILs, etc. when we were in hospital. But she assured me that no, that wouldn't be enough as you only want your mum.

Why are people so horrible?

We lived in Romania until DD1 was three, and then moved back to UK. Was telling Mum at nursery this, whereupon she bent down and said to DD "So you were a Romanian orphan? Weren't you lucky that these kind people adopted you?"

This has reminded me.

Miscarriage one. GP did you want it?
MMC, fourth mc, one baby. Sonographer, oh are you upset because you wanted it?
Next pg, having given history to midwife "is it the same father as your other child". She got offended when I noted I'd had one baby and four miscarriages in the previous three years and it would be surprising if I'd had time to divorce dh, meet someone else and get married again as well.

I went if hcps after that. Why so rude?

Dear Lord I am furious reading this. I too must have a resting bitch face as I haven't had much negative comments. I'm lucky and also only started the previous school runs. Although I have found the fathers to be much more pleasant to speak to thanew mum's! What is it with us women that make some turn into complete bitches to our fellow woman? I shall never understand the clique mentality, as I never have been part of one (nor would want too) I m a proud loner lol with red hair and Irish too (win win) Stay strong lovely ladies and rise above these are holes, it must stink to be them. I think you have to be a special type of hateful to say anything negative about a child, regardless of race,religion, ethnicity, or ability. Everyone of them is precious. I'm a Working mum to two delicious terrors, girl and boy. Oh just remembered one comment....Oh that will be you done now (after birth of son) .. you wouldn't want another and get any bigger than you are now!!

I smiled and told her politely that when my arse is the size of her mouth I will worry. Beautiful big bum that my Dh loves. Don't mind me as I jiggle on by (witch) lol

'We feel so sorry for your ds' by a crazy neighbor mum. We always went the same time of year to visit dh's family and this mum thought we were just being mean and not letting ds go to the yearly neighborhood party.

So glad we moved and I don't have to put up with this any more!

I've put my big fat mouth in it before!!! not too long after i'd had ds3 at a party the whole birth talk came out and i turned around (to a now best friend) your lucky to have only had c sections.......to which she replied oh no i had one and she didnt make it
Que mass embarrassment and feeling like a dick! Luckily she didnt hate me

Far from the worst but one that's always stuck with me.

When DS was in reception on a non uniform day, he was wearing a purple t-shirt under a checked shirt and a mother in the playground came up to me and asked "Are you trying to make him gay?!"

Dad in playground assumed my DD was a boy (v short haired toddler and wearing blue) and when I said "she's a girl" he responded, obvs shocked "oh, I'd never had guessed that, she's very stocky, isn't she?"

Not a fellow parent as I'm childless... But I got told by a parent yesterday that as I don't have children I couldn't possibly care about environmental sustainability.

My goodness, how inaccurate. Not having a child is one of the most environmentally conscious things you can do!