What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly . It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

Slightly off topic, but I can't stand nasty comments about people without children. Most of the people I would trust with my life, or my kids lives, in an emergency, don't have children.

my son was born 8 week premature, MIL came to the hospital on day 3 and announced that prem babies are only born to mothers who are on drugs and drink. Son in ITU and this is all she can say to me, upon seeing him she declares that he is too dark to be her sons. Then went around and told everyone that my son was disabled. I only found out when we visited my parents and my uncle said so what's wrong with him, your MIL says he is disabled.

About a week after the birth of my third son some witch in the playground came over and said 'Oh, three boys - how awful' !!!

Omg bobbyboy - seriously?! How awful

She has not changed in 19 years, still awful comments. For the first 6 months she called him by a different name as she did not like the one we had chosen. Oh I think I could write a book on the things she has said to me.

Was at a creative/activity group thing once and DD (6) was happily drawing at one of the tables. A mum next to us said to me (in front of DD) "Oh don't worry my kid is crap at art too, I can't tell you how many pictures i've had to throw away." with a laugh.

Nancyblackett80 must be a typo ... surely you are missing a P from the phrase 'My Rick'??...

"Boys rule but girls they suck" said to me at my daughters birthday party by a so called friend with 2 sons!

Same person also said "you like chavvy names don't you coz you've called your 2 chavvy names!" They not even called names you'd associate with the word 'chavvy'

I wouldn't put my kids into childcare, I want to be a proper mum. She refused to work as said she knows how to work the system!

My body wouldn't have dared give birth before 38weeks as it is so maternal.

"Your son doesn't watch wrestling?" "He's not really a proper boy if he doesn't like wrestling!"

Funnily enough I no longer see/speak to that woman again!

Mine was from the midwife just after I had given birth to DS1. 'What a good looking baby, his dad must be very handsome.'
Okay I know I 'm no oil painting but I had just given birth and wasn't looking my best!

I bumped into a neighbour I don't see very often when I was with dd2. She said 'she's very pretty', then in the next step breath, 'she doesn't look anything like you!'

Our children are adopted

Somone at play group

Said so if they start acting up do you get a refund 😳

I have a 'friend' who does the snide comments/smug smile thing. Everything is a competition. From looking a bit deeper she has her own issues, both with her siblings (her DB died young and is, understandably out on a pedestal, and her DSis is golden child) and so I think that's made her competitive. I also know she's having some personal problems. I think it all stems from low self esteem to be honest, which I can understand and empathise with, but it doesn't give you a right to treat others like shit.

The Head of Dd1's selective school took Dd and I aside at a parents evening. She explained verrry slowwwly (in what my daughter called the teacher's Does She Take Sugar voice) and with a caring head-tilt, that she would remove my girl's forthcoming GCSE results from the school's record so that the school wouldn't look bad. My daughter has ASD. She got all As, as it happened.

DS was roughly 18mo at the time, really tired on pick up from nursery, covered his face with a little book and fell asleep on the bus. A lady who tried to interact with him (with zero luck) said in a really loud voice: " he must be autistic, it's NOT NORMAL at this age not to smile or wave back"
And another one, very recent, which really hurt me. It wasn't from a parent but from DS's old nursery worker. We were just chatting about how quickly they grow up and how time flies and I can't believe he's no longer a baby. Her response: "And you missed most of it anyway"
(I went back to work FT when DS was 11mo)

I get told a lot that my ds should have his hair cut. "Oh he's still not had the chop yet", "but he looks like a girl", "don't people tease him" "he'll hate you for letting him look like that when he's older" etc. No. His hair is not quite touching his shoulders and that's where he likes it, he's mid-teen and I think old enough to decide how he likes his hair cut! His friends don't care. An old family friend commented on a photo about how I had two lovely girls. Deleted and blocked before ds could see.

What a horrible thread - therapeutic, though!
So many grim people out there.

Someone I used to know once pointedly blanked my small son. Happily, he didn't even notice (I imagine she'd have liked it if he had? And begged for her attention? Warped). I saw, though, and washed my hands. Life's too good to spoil with those sorts of people.

When I finally got to bring my premature son home from hospital, everyone was pleased and relieved. except my mother, Looking into the cot she said "he looks Like a little rat"

Both of mine were more digs at me than DD actually.

The first was when I went to register her birth and there registrar oohed and aahed over her for ages, saying how gorgeous she was. I was glowing with pride until she looked at me and said "so, does she take after her dad then?" Ummmm, thanks for that.

The second was at a baby group when I pulled out a bottle of formula and another mum literally gasped as if I'd pulled out a bottle of WKD Blue and said "Oh! Aren't you breastfeeding her?! Why not?!" That same woman also nearly made another lady cry with her incessant questioning about why she'd had a Caesarean so I think she was just one of those very bizarre types.

OP, I genuinely would have punched her (I act before I speak though) I would have then said once I had broken her nose smugly "who is ugly now" the fucktard!

Thefishewife yeah my ex used to ask if I came with a receipt (I'm adopted too) and say I came out of the Raggy Dolls Reject bin. My dad nearly knocked him out when he overheard!

"Oh... well I'd never let my child wear anything that wasn't new"

"God, can't believe you had three of 'em"!

A new (male) contractor at work, was talking about his DD who is the same age as mine.
Upon finding out that I was a mother, and DD was in full time childcare, he asked me "what ARE you doing here?" with a disgusted look on his face. Then added that his wife looked after their DD full time and she was a proper mother.

I pointed out that HE was a working parent too and the fact that I have female parts makes no difference. Then (and I'm not proud of this) said that I was pleased my DD would be growing up with a strong role model and would know a woman doesn't have to depend on a man financially.

Just to be clear, I have nothing against SAHM, and I sincerely believe being a role model has nothing to do with employment status, but I was so angry it just kind of tumbled out of my mouth

I wish I could take that bit back.

I'm glad you cant Barbara, he deserved it.

In a general conversation about children

Ye but I meant how would you feel if you had real kids, cos your not really a proper mum are you? Said in real seriousness about my stepchildren!

*disclamer Iv never claimed to be more than my children's other parents who of course take priority over me! but to be told I'm not anything to them and I'm not actually a mother quite hurt.