To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

Pink
because I knew he would never leave his boring life with you, I'm not looking for fuck buddy

I hate to say this my love, but this looks like damage limitation to me.

I think she, her DH and your H have been involved in some sort of sexual relationship. None of them want to rock their very comfortable erotic boat and they are looking for ways to minimise the damage done by your finding the phone. It is oo pat to be true.

Can I just ask why my latest post has been deleted? I genuinely don't know why?

So sorry OP. My heart goes out to you. Thinking of you. There is nothing I can say to make things better. I hope you get this sorted.

There are no excuses for him. You don't really get photos like that and be too..., too, something, to tell your wife, and write back a very clear NO. You don't weakly protest whilst receiving more photos and saying ooooo no you're making it hard to resist. That is nasty weak behaviour where he has embraced the situation and has saved the photos, covered it up, and colluded with your best friend to betray you and let you live a lie.

There's no excuse in the world that makes this man innocent.

However, you also need to give yourself space to weigh up what you want to do. Sounds like it's the right thing for you to show your anger and split quickly. And that's ok.

Good luck, you'll get through it however hard it feels right now.

*Pink
because I knew he would never leave his boring life with you, I'm not looking for fuck buddy

I hate to say this my love, but this looks like damage limitation to me.*

It looks like laughable posturing to me, quite in keeping with a woman so dull she has to send her flange to every married man she knows to validate herself. She probably thinks she's really cool for using the term "fuck buddy* (OH MY GOD A SWEARWORD FOR A CASUAL SEX PARTNER, SOUND THE KLAXONS AWOOGA AWOOGA) and she's even explicitly called OP boring, just in case anyone didn't get how totally hip and sexually adventurous and streetwise she is.

Honestly, the more this dimwit says, the thicker she sounds. I've wiped more intelligent life from my daughter's nose.

Evening all.
We have received a tremendous number of reports about this thread tonight, many taking issue with the title, some with the OP, and many more with the misogynistic language being used. We are going through the thread as much as possible to keep it from being deleted altogether, and we have altered the title. In the meantime, it is a support thread, and any concerns should, as mentioned earlier, be dealt with by the reports system.
Hope you are as okay as it is possible to be, OP.

Oh Pink

This will pass. I promise. The pain you're feeling now will fade and your life is going to be far more fabulous without these arse holes in your life

Pinkbabe1 I was just about to ask MNHQ the same question?

Why was OP's post at 21.09.07 deleted?

Pike I'm a Christian, not a saint!

Pink I hope you are tucked up in bed, you've had a big shock today and probably need some rest now to have a clear head for tomorrow. Take care

Pink
Can I just ask why my latest post has been deleted? I genuinely don't know why?

This has also happened to one of mine, and I didn't think I'd breached guidelines, though I accept that some people may not have agreed with me.

I hope you've been looking into solicitors Pink... Get every thing in motion so if he tries to grovel you can show him that it's too late. Stick to your guns; I'm a firm believer that a leopard never changes its stripes and the fact that he's been so secretive about all this screams guilt.

As for her... Cut her out completely - screen shot her texts etc in case you ever need them.

MNHQ so misogynistic language isn't OK but the constant labelling of men as abusers, rapists, child abusers and bastards (even when they're not being) is ok?

Pink, you have had an awful shock today. I hope you are ok. Sending love xx

Don't think anyone did that on this thread aye take it up in an email with HQ.

Take care Pink.

Look after yourself and your children. These re your only responsibilities.

JenLindley I've requested it be removed and done exactly that.

In error, Pink, it should be back now.

Good woman yourself.

No troll hunting. I've reported my concerns and posted simply about my confusion about the timing of the posts and the convenience of events.

Given the number of people invested in this thread I'm sure the OP will be happy to explain to those who have supported her...