To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

What a bitch. I'd text her back saying 'I suppose it's just as well - you've really let yourself go haven't you??' then block.

So sorry this has happened to you

Wow, notice how as soon as the troll hunting thread got deleted you've all crawled from back under your rocks to post absolute nonsense on this post because it doesn't seem believable nobody gives a shit for your input so go back under your rock and hope someone starts another thread about "bullshit posts" ^
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If she was trading him why did he let her?

By doing so he's shown he's at least attracted to her.

It's just sordid and depressing.

I feel sorry for her husband and kids she sounds a bit sociopathic.

for you OP.

Offer still stands re: Facebook too.

For whatever it's worth, I'm inclined to believe that it was just the pics. She sends them widely, it's clear she just wants reassurance that she can get attention from men by showing them her minge (duh). It's not about actual sexual pleasure or emotional connection. That would complicate things and probably shatter her delusion of herself as some sort of non conformist sexual cavalier by forcing it into reality. She lives in her head. No room for anything or anyone else.

But it's your life and decision, of course. Just please don't let the thought of that witch influence your choice. Do what is best for you, with no regard for her or the minge she uses in lieu of a personality.

Teasing*

Fucking hell Pink you must feel like you've done 10 rounds

"all it ever was was her teasing him with pics" - what an idiot - he ought to have told you the first time & might have been able to sort it out - yes you would have lost the BF but not much of a loss really

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Hugs OP. You are so brave.

Pinkbabe1, just was wondering, how good was yours and 'H's relationship before all this today. If it was not so great, then OK. But if it was brilliant, and he's a great husband and a wonderful father to your children, then (after what you've said, and what you'e said your 'H' has since said, and what the ex-friend and her 'H' have said), leads me to believe your husband (although obviously a stupid twat), might not have actually done that much wrong - or along the lines of looking at porn (which lots of people seem to find acceptable). I'm not saying I'd be happy, nor that you should be, he should have told you immediately friend sent picture and none of this would have happened, but I am saying if this was sort of 'forced' upon him and he was too ???? to refuse, is there a way that there may, after some time, be a future for your relationship. Not everything in life is as simple as LTB, and if your 'H' has told you the truth, and if there was no actual physical action, if it was your ex-friend that started it, and your 'H' was just weak and pathetic, is there a way forward for you as a couple. I guess I'm saying, if he's always been a great husband and father and faithful and loving, and as your ex-friend is just obviously a really awful devious, jealous person, then can't you put her behind you, forgive 'H' (eventually) and go forward together?

Hello Pinkbabe. You poor love.

It sounds like you've got your shit together, and are strong. She's a nasty piece of work, what a horrible betrayal.
Get evidence of everything, he may delete and you may need it.

Unfortunately I'm not the sort of person who is good in a crisis. By now I would have gone round her house and shoved his pone up her arse. So, kudos to you for rising above that level.

*phone, not pone.

and I also agree with monsterinthecupboard. FWIW.

Big hugs pinkbabe, what a strong lady you are! Your ex freind must have very little self esteem if she feels the need to get attention that way, it's her loss she's lost a freind in you xx

Exactly monster. Marriages are really really hard work. This is very raw now but there may be a way forward.

You can't be forced into repetitively looking at pics though.
Maidstone time they do it tell them it's inappropriate.
If they do it again - block them.
That's what most decent husbands would do surely?

I agree there is a chance they could get through this if OP wants to but just wanted to point the above our.

So sorry Pink . Fwiw I think you are very brave for sticking to your guns and I think it's the right choice. You mentioned that in his replies he said they should stop but it's difficult when it's handed to him on a plate. I think it's worse that he had a conscience about it but still chose, yes CHOSE to carry on. And he knew it would be the end if you found out and he still took the risk. Half the thrill was the fact she was your friend otherwise he could have accessed any porn photos for cheap thrills. Pathetic. So yes, you've made the right decision. As for her... What a cruel, selfish, egotistical, classless, sly, twisted woman she is. Be happy she is out of your life.

I'm so sorry for you how fucking vile of your 'friend' and your arse of a husband if he is involved, which seems very likely by the message she sent. I haven't rtft as its so long, has she got a partner because I would be sending those pics to him.

Pink I so admire your strength. As I've said, I watched my dad pull stuff like this on my mum for years, they're finally divorcing in their fifties! After years of unhappiness. It's no way to live.
It's never too late to start again. It will always hurt, but it won't hurt like this forever. You will get through this and you will find happiness

Pink I'm glad you found him and were able to tell him exactly how much he's hurt you. I'm so sorry this has happened to you, you deserve better. The dignity, class and courage you've faced this with are a credit to you.

Pink I just wanted to say I've read all 39 pages of this and I can't believe how shit they've been to you. Hope you're OK

Stay strong, I hope you have some family support?

Oh pink I'm so so sorry, I'm glad you have found him and that's a worry you don't have to carry on with.
You do what's right for you. As I said upthread this happened to me also and you WILL be happy! It takes time, it takes nights of tears and days of brace face, but you will get over this, I promise!
I will never forgive either of them and they moved quite close to me - wankers - but I met my DP because I was single, I didn't mean to fall in love as I was off it for good, but I did, I look at my DP and my heart sings. What I will never get over is the betrayal of my BF, she was closer than a sister, and as a result of that I'm guarded in friendships but I'm learning to relax a bit.
As you say, this too shall pass, but add something on the end... this too shall pass and I'll be happy as a pig in shit!