To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

The double betrayal is just appalling. I am so sorry. Please try to keep your cool and make sure you don't hurt / damage anyone any more. Damage limitation for all the innocent parties. I hope the spineless git is home soon to allow you to start working through your emotions.

What a horrific day for you OP. I reiterate what other posters have said - tell people why you've cut off contact with this woman. If she's been sending pictures to your husband, who knows how many other of your friends' husbands she's been sending them to. She's a psychopath

Hope you're OK OP

Can you ask the husband who else she's sending photos to?

Hi everyone - firstly I would just like to say Thankyou for all of your amazing support. I have cried tears upon tears reading these messages from you all - I don't have any girlfriends apart from my ex BF but I feel so supported by you all.

My DC are staying with MIL. At 6.30pm I decided to go out looking for H as I still hadn't heard from him. After over an hour of searching, I happened to drive past a spot where local dog walkers park heir cars and I spotted his car. He was just sat there in the dark. To cut a long story short I have torn strips off him, I've shouted, I've screamed, I've cried till I thought I was going to die. His response was he knows he's lost me because he knows that I am 100% against anything to do with other women, he just couldn't face coming back home to admit that his life with me and the kids are over. He said he swears on his kids lives he's never had an affair with her and that all it ever was was her teasing him with pics.

I can't forgive him so I'm making plans to divorce. Thankyou for all your support - at the moment I feel like there will never be any happiness again but as the saying goes "this too shall pass". X

Pink she really is a piece of work isn't she? You are well shot of her. How dare she call your marriage boring. Call me old fashioned and a prude but I believe marriage should be between 2 people, not sending photos of yourself legs akimbo to all and sundry (unless you are single or both parties agree).

Does he MiL know why she picked the DC's up from school? Are they home?

Hope your H is home now and that you are able to sort this out one way or another.

Here's another bunch of for you in case you shoved the first bunch where the sun don't shine.

Thinking of you.

pink I am so sorry this has happened. Wishing you strength for now, and happiness in the future

How did he know you knew?

How did he know you'd found out?

So sorry Pinkbabe

How DID he know you knew?

So sorry about all this. Does he have another phone? How did he find out?

I'm so sorry to hear that. Pretty spineless of him and he was that scared of losing you he never should have engaged with her

Haven't commented yet but I've been following this thread all evening and just wanted to add my support here, OP. Wishing you strength to get through this

What a horrible Woman. So so sorry x

I'm so sorry your whole world has been turned upside down. I'm glad he didn't give you lots of bullshit or talk down to you like XBF.

Just figure out what's best for you and the kids. Just so you know we're not all like that bitch and I hope you find someone to confide in and a new friend. We are always here too. You are so strong. As you know, the hurt will pass but right now just let it out x

I don't believe a word he's told you.
Stay strong and get rid of both of them.

You are better than both of them op x

I am glad that you have finally been able to have it out with him & good for you for not falling for the what I would say is BS!!

Did he not even say why he still had the pictures of this woman on his phone? Or better yet why he had these pictures and didn't tell you that she had sent them if it was all her?

You're incredibly strong, and doing amazingly.

much strength to you pink babe.
You have handled this admirably. Would be proud to be your friend.

I'm sorry, OP. Take care of yourself.