To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

so sorry pink-theres alot of threads with people going thro9ugh break ups right now if u need supprt

wondering how he knew and if it wa just pics why not just tell u straight away

So sorry you're going through this. I'm glad you've felt the support of MN and hope you find some RL support soon. Stay strong. You've been amazing all day.

Pink I have in the past had INCREDIBLE support from MN so can I suggest that you please please start a fresh thread in Relationships - and post that thread/link to here - so that you can continue to be supported?

My concern is that thread is very VERY fast moving and may hit 1000 posts before you can link new thread to this, which would mean far less of us would be able to find and support you IYKWIM?

Echoing other posters, just how did he know you knew? Am guessing it can only have been from OW and in turn only if he did have a second phone, latter - if correct - suggesting a massive level of duplicity here

We are with you, please lean on us

pink

I absolutely promise you you will be happy again !! I found out dick head ex had cheated more than once just before I found out I was pregnant . I was so so so depressed I moved back home to parents facing the whole pregnancy alone something that should have been a happy time was pretty traumatic to begin with . I know it's a different situation but what I'm getting at is however shit it seems now things will get better !!! looking back now I wouldn't even change what happened my life is in a totally different place I have my beautiful ds and an amazing partner who would never do the shit my ex p did to me !

You deserve a million times better

Stay strong

Stay strong

Pink you are handling this with such dignity. Keep posting for support and stay strong. Sending you and

Stay strong.

Dear Pink, to lose your husband and best friend in the same day is a huge blow, but you are such a strong woman, and frankly these two pieces of crap do not deserve you, and are beneath you. You will get through this. You deserve so much more. Hold on, happiness will come back, it will. Sending you big fat hugs and

💐

I do think it's quite common to have a second phone, both for cheating arseholes and for people who have a different phone for work.

how did he know you know

Jesus fucking christ. Are you people for real?

i am sorry this has happened, but I think you should hear him out before you decide what to do. There is a lot at stake here. Do not rush into anything.

Clopy people aren't posting here to help the OP or support her. They are here for the drama and excitement. That's why most people have placemaeled slyly.

Op I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

I cannot believe how vile your friend has been and how blasé her husband was.

As for your dh, what a stupid, stupid arse allowing his family to be destroyed for a bit of fun.

You will be ok op, you will get through this and come out fighting.

Derek some people may have been posting for the drama and some for the support...

You'd have to be a thick not to be one or the other... This sort of thread always divides people, like spectators at an execution.

What an absolute bitch your former friend is. You're better off without the pair of them.

OP - you are amazing. If anything like this ever happens to me, I hope that I handle this with half as much grace and strength. I can't imagine how much pain you are in right now and hope that you find the strength you need to move further with the decisions you need to make (and only you can). Mumsnet is an invaluable source, isn't it? I am sure you will get lots of support here, and I hope you have some genuine people in your life that you can lean on and have a laugh with. You're going to need all of it. I'm so sorry this has happened, and I don't want you to ever wonder what you did wrong, what you did to deserve this and why you didn't see the signs. You have been the victim of two stupid, selfish people's behaviour and you can hold your head high and know that you deserve much better than that. I hope your kids are happy at MIL's place. (Have you told her what's happened? Bet she's thrilled.....not.) I would definitely be searching his car for a second phone. She must have contacted him somehow. From that you may very well learn more. Also - how do you feel about him sitting in the car all that time instead of coming home to you and fighting for the marriage he claims he's done nothing to injure? I'm sorry - I'm not sure I buy the "I didn't sleep with her" bit.

It's all so very sad Pinkbabe1, I wish you all the very best. What an idiot he's been. I'm just wondering by her response to you if she was jealous of your marriage and set out to do this to you all along. She's clearly a twisted bitch. You've made your decision now anyway. Good luck with it all.

And of course Derek you're here to support and help the OP. Because you'd never do anything else now would you?!

pink well done for staying strong. Is he staying elsewhere for the moment?

Wow. So sorry op

I'm glad you've found some resolve to take action.
While you're feeling like this, PLEASE send yourself (via email) copies of 'the evidence'.
On an iPhone, it's easily done - press the open box with an arrow pointing up (bottom left) and then select the email icon. Email to an address that he can't access.
He's in shock at the moment at being discovered, but may turn nasty and delete everything in sight. Make sure you protect yourself.

I know it derek

I can only assume East Enders wasn't on tonight.

Asking questions like that when the OP has just posted such a devastating update is just crass private

No I was here to point out that men arent always the pricks.

Haven't actually posted anything to the OP.

I don't get any drama or excitement from this thread. I also think she might have enough support without mine