To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

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So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

How awful!
what arseholes!
have you contacted him or are you waiting for him to get home?

Yeah really don't post them. I would absolutely want to as well but it won't be worth it.

Can you get to the bank today and clear the account? And spend the rest of the day collecting all the paperwork you will need? Get the lock smith in?

It can be up to a 2 year prison sentence + a fine if found guilty of posting revenge porn, just don't, no good can come of playing this out on Facebook.

What a nightmare. I would want to
Do the exact same thing as you.

Yes don't post on Internet anywhere anyhow.

Also I think you might get this thread deleted because of the title. It's not nice even though I completely sympathise with you.

Shit. So he had the photos in his messages but no replies from him? He deleted his replies - you presume - but not what she sent to him. Agree not the sharpest pencil in the box. Why not delete all the pics.

Anyway, agree with PPs - don't post publicly. You risk getting into trouble. If you feel you MUST do something you could email them to both of them so they know.

Otherwise get him the fuck out of there ASAP. If he was on an early when's he due back? Is it soon?

No photos.

Revenge porn is against the law thank god

Glad to see you've packed his bags though

Try blunt RUSTY scissors for extra pain though

Don't post on Facebook - text her the pictures from your phone saying something like 'I've found your hooker profile'.

Both fucking vile.

I'm so sorry.

I hope you are able to tell a friend in RL.

Don't whatever you do post them on FB. She's the one who broken the law here for distributing pornographic images, not him. You'll be guilty too if you post them.

However, save them as you'll need them for your inevitable divorce. I do feel for you, best friend & partner relationships are the ultimate betrayal

Don't post them, you'll regret it later on.
If you feel you have to do something then do it privately.. text her on his phone or something.

Any idea how long its been going on for?

That's fucking awful. What a pair of cunts. Don't do revenge porn. If you really want to out her on FB, just say the words but tbh it could go horribly so I would just keep your dignity and kick the bastard out and cut her off. You poor thing

He's due back at 2pm

Don't post the pictures! It will only come back to hurt you the most.

So sorry

I'd get your finances in order etc before you let him know you know.

What a pair of fuckers. Sorry OP

Lock the door and leave bags outside.

Don't post the pics on Facebook, however I'd send them to her, from your number so she knows you know.

If you block the nudity parts you might be OK I don't know. I can see why'd you want to I would certainly make sure you have copies, but act in haste repent at leisure and all that. Don't do anything hasty, or anything that could easily be used to turn this back onto you.
Keep away from Facebook for now.
Have you got screen shots? Get all your paperwork together, do you have a joint account? Do you need to make arrangements for someone to have DC tonight when you confront in? Have you got RL support you can call in?

How did you stop yourself from replying to her?

It's not against the law to send pornographic pictures of yourself?

Dont post the photos. You're angry and thinking with a hothead. They say revenge is a dish best served cold for a reason. You probably haven't uncovered the half of it at this stage. Do some digging, internet history, etc. Gather all paperwork you need and keep it away from his in a safe place. Pack his with his stuff. Make sure you have access to money!!

Has your friend got a partner op?

Do you have copies of the photos? Send them on to yourself now and move some money, if you can.

We have a joint account so I've cleared that on the online banking. I'm just sat here wondering whether to go round her house or not...............