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[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

I hope your ok pink

Please don't let him minimise his behaviour /blame you

I know it's early days but just because you have kids a home together etc and he will no doubt try talk you round you dont have to forgive him and put up with what he has done . The pair of them are Discusting ! Your "friends" response is absolutely awful but then I guess we shouldn't expect anything more dignified from someone who would do such a thing to a best friend !!

She really is vile, I agree with a lot of other posters you really are handling this amazingly x

Polly
^Emptying the joint account is not retaining the high moral ground.
Take enough for your own needs but not more than 50%^.

OP has children - she needs more than 50% to make sure that they don't suffer financially in the short term at least.

She has a self perception that doing this makes her edgy and exciting, and so desirable that she can tempt even married men, even after five kids. It would destroy her to perceive herself as the desperate, pathetic loser she is, so don't expect any self examination on her part. She's got her personal narrative and her identity hinges on it.

Quite apart from everything else though, she really does sound, quite simply, as thick as shit. Your husband explicitly told her that her availability was the only attractive thing about her and she still thinks she's some sort of Belle de Jour, possessed of rare, great and ancient tricks of erotica, rather than a moron with a phone and a fanny.

I would actually struggle to hate someone so certifiably stupid. I'd feel guilty making fun of someone so cripplingly thick.

What an absolute nightmare to be in op. You are totally better off without those two vile people in your life. Stay strong.

After that I would be telling everyone I know about her disgusting behaviour. She is scum on the bottom of your shoe op. Fuck her. Fuck him. They are the lowest of the low.

Hi pink, you're awesome.
They are deplorable
Stay strong

Oh gosh, double betrayal. YANBU, obviously.

OP, do you have some RL support?

Stay strong

Wow just spent an hour rtft. So sorry this has happened to you. I've been through similar and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Wonder if he's in a hotel? Crept back to work?

I'd have to have the last word with 'her' to be honest..... can you warn all other wives?

OP, just read all the thread.

She's very sad and living a fantasy, I think the poor woman is unhinged. Just block ignore her completely, like you've vapourised her from your life.

The longer he stays away, the more guilty he seems. Surely, knowing your wife's best friend is sending photos, would prompt a decent guy to tell his partner immediately? His silence is damning, and I would rip the coward to shreds when he slinks home.

Ex BF's husband appears very passive, I think he's complicit in her shoddy behaviour.

Good luck, start a thread in Relationships if you think, further down the line, that would help. You've had great support and advice here

I can't believe he's gone awol. What a fvxking coward. Seriously if you do something this awful to your wife surely to god you do the decent thing and face the music?

Do we think there is any chance he didn't engage in this at all but was simply at a loss as to what to do about it?

"Your husband explicitly told her that her availability was the only attractive thing about her and she still thinks she's some sort of Belle de Jour, possessed of rare, great and ancient tricks of erotica, rather than a moron with a phone and a fanny."
This.

Given the circumstances I think you've dealt with the situation really well

Be fucking angry but don't let him know - get your revenge. Think clearly.

Penile you truly do live up to the epitome of misogynist. Why do you need to attack a woman in obvious pain? Rarely do i feel the need to post but you truly are being a nasty bully. I haven't rtft yet but what i have read paints you in a very poor light

wow, just wow! Pink you sound so very calm and rational. Hope you can stay so clear headed.

Totally heart breaking! The two closest people to you.

Stay strong for your kids. You're handling this really well.

However I would be tempted to warn all her female friends about it.

Just read this entire thread, nothing useful to add except I'm so sorry this happened to you and she's a vile vile person

Hope you're okay and safe

penile bowed out from the thread a good while back now jude.

So sorry. You don't deserve any of this OP. Take care of you xx

I can't believe your 'd' h is putting you through this worry on top of everything else. Hope you're getting some rl support

They are both vile cunts. sounds like you are better off without them both. You are a much better person than I am. I would have sent some rather nasty texts or cunt punter her, although I'd probably lost my foot. Head up OP you are a strong dignified woman and you can handle this shit! xx

Have you checked all the phone numbers stored in his phone? Would he store the number for a secret phone in there? To be able to transfer pics etc.