To ask if you are scared of death

[Lovinglife786]

I was talking to my grandmother who is terminally ill with breast cancer she has a couple of months left to live it has all happened so quick so it still doesn't feel real,I asked her if she is scared of dying and she said no and I believe her she is the most genuine and honest person you could meet, I admire her so much if it was me I would be terrified I just can't get my head around how calm she is,I just wondered how many people are scared of death aibu to ask

I am scared of dying, not being dead if that makes sense. As some of the posters above have said I would want it to be quick/painless.

I'm so sorry about your grandmother

I'm not scared of death. My son and daughter both died, that's the most terrifying and awful thing ever. Whatever happens I'll be going wherever they are, whether it's heaven, nothing or something in between it will be a sweet relief from living this pain every day.

I so wish I'll be here to see my kids through to adulthood, the thought of them being alone scares me, but I'm not afraid of death itself.

Binkybix
I'm so scared of it that I feel sick and dizzy if I consider it for even a second.

This is me, if I accidentally think about it I have to distract myself - I can't talk about it to anyone for any length of time without become anxious and very fearful. I have been like this since about 7, am now 54, it's not getting any better, except for a very brief period following the birth of DD.

Minmooch

Sorry about your gran OP x

I'm not scared of death but I have no reason to think mine will be anytime soon so that may change. My current belief system is heavily based on reading "near death experiences" & they often describe absolute love and no judgement (! How many religions hang their hats on divine judgement?). I also recall a readers digest article years ago where a young girl had been resuscitated & said she'd "never been more alive than when I was dead".

[Thanks] Elsa

Not death so much, but the thought of having to leave DD terrifies me.

I'm terrified of my baby dying or me dying and leaving him behind

I'm not scared of being dead but I'm scared of the process of dying. I'm also scared of leaving behind the people that need me.

when i had a stroke and thought i was going to die i was scared, but not to die but because i would be leaving my dh and dc

The generation above me in my family (born 1921-1940ish) have almost all gone, and their contemporary friends, people I grew up around and called aunt and uncle, are mostly dead too. It always surprises me how philosophical and accepting many 80+ year old people are about its imminence. I sometimes wonder how you get to that point, mentally. I remember all of these people as lively middle-aged folks when I was a little kid, they were working/raising families/singing in choirs/running half marathons/volunteering for the coastguard/going on holiday. Now, they're dead and they were ready for it...when did that readiness come about?

Death doesn't scare me, but the potential suffering leading up to it does. Leaving my DH and DC behind scares me too.

My dad's impending death frightens me most of all. He's a very ill man with multiple, very serious, health conditions, one of which is unequivocally deadly and WILL kill him if the other illnesses don't get there first. He's suffered more in the past few years than anyone should ever have to. I fear his death, and hope against all hope that when the time comes, all that happens is he goes to sleep one night and just doesn't wake up, because the all too likely alternatives are just too much to bear.

Not scared of dying, scared of going too young and leaving my dses.

Scared of losing people close to me.

I had cancer at 31 and those thoughts creep in to your head of 'what if it's spread', fucking awful. I am fine and healthy since but my children were very little and that was so scary.

I'm scared of dying before my dc are adults. My son's dad died in may and I feel a huge weight of responsibility to see him through to adulthood, far more so now he's lost his father than I did before.

Not scared just absolutely don't want to.

I work with the terminally ill, I speak to them one day then sometimes literally hours later, they are gone. It shocks me every time - being confronted with it.

MotherofPearl

I CBA to check, but I suspect I was quoting Woody Allen too .

Of course the converse of dying, would be to live forever ...

I'm not scared, I just hope I go peacefully. I want to die like my grandfather who died peacefully in his sleep. Not screaming like all the passengers in his car.

(sorry!)

Not really scared of dying if it's painless. But I am scared of a long, lingering death where I cant' do anything for myself, and/or might be in a lot of pain. Or a short painful death, like being in a fire.

My dad had a fall in November and from then, until his death in July, he was unable to take himself to the toilet and was reliant on other people. I don't want to be like that. So I guess I fear old age/decrepitude rather than death.

Absolutely terrified to the point where if I think about it for too long I will have a panic attack. It's the thought of not existing anymore and the vastness of time.
My fear started after my Mum died when I was 8. Even typing this is giving me my fear.

I'm fucking terrifying of dying and have been since I can remember. The reality of death used to hit me like a ton of bricks when I was little and I used to have what I guess is a panic attack. As ive got older Ive got better at blocking the reality of it out before the panic sets in.

Thanks for the replies it's comforting to know I'm not alone

I wasn't afraid of death until I witnessed my dad die. I'd seen many people die before that (h.c worker) and never been bothered . Now I'm scared. I don't know what I'm more afraid of , the point of death itself or what goes beyond (or doesn't ) I am hoping that I get to see my dad again but I'm utterly utterly terrified that there's nothing and it's all pointless. I'm just praying I'm not aware of it when it happens.

I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I often wonder how anyone can get anything done or go through life when this is waiting at the end. If I had faith I think it might be easier but I lost that when my Mum died. I just bury it deep down and try to ignore it.