What do I reply to this/is there an innocent explanation?

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I want to keep this brief
I was texting a friend I've known for 4ish years through DD, a friend I have been there for through the breakdown of her marriage/health problems etc and visa versa. I only say this to explain it's definitely a friendship of sorts as opposed to just meeting for the kids.

In one of my messages I said "that's great, looking forward to it. Could really do with a chat"

I then got a screenshot back of my message with the caption "bet it isn't going to be half as interesting as it sounds"

Neither of us have replied and she's gone offline. I'm so embarrassed and I so want her to explain it away.

*should have said I sent it to friend it was about!

Could she be making you out to her friends as the one chasing the friendship? Some people do this for an ego boost.

She obviously likes you enough to want to go away with you and DC for a night away at Halloween. I bet she's kicking herself now.

Do adults actually do this - screenshot from 'private' conversations and send to others? I must be very naive. That's really crap.

Mikado, yes, my in-laws do this alot. But they're complete drama llamas. I think it comes from insecurity.

OP, fwiw I think you've done the right thing. What a bitch she is! Try not to take it to heart, it says far more about her as a person than you.

You shouldn't feel embarrassed OP! She should! What a horrible lady. Obviously slagging you off to somebody else. She can do one.

I can't believe the 'friend' hasn't said anything!
You would think she would call and apologise/lie about being caught!

gonetosee, why? Have I missed something?

I'm perplexed as to why there would be a screen shot but has it even been established the text was meant for a third party? She may have not responded as she may be wondering what on earth is going on

However, I think your response was childish.

I think that's bollocks. You've handled it well OP - shitty thing to happen and you've kept your cool.

Are you sure she wasn't attempting a joke with you? As in, I'm intrigued but it's probably something normal so no need to worry?

Oh god, what an awful situation! Do let us know if she responds!

Well done on being mature about it, OP! I don't think I would have been able to suppress the urge to call her a bitch. Hope you manage to chat to someone if you need to chat.

I had this happen to me. Supposedly best friend but another woman sent me a bunch of screenshots of messages they had exchange and my bf had been an utter bitch about me. Really nasty, nasty things about my dd.

I felt completely betrayed and wonder how much of my private life has been discussed with all and sundry.

Strange thing is, she's split from her husband now. Me and dp are now back in touch with him, he's lovely, really chilled and laid back. Ex bf is not happy at this but we didn't fall out with him, just her. Seemingly she only has about 2 friends left as she's lost so many over the years from her endless bitchy comments and two faced behaviour.

Crack on and find another friend. A nice one.

How horrible :(

Sorry OP. You've done the right thing.

Well handled op. Please don't feel embarrassed, some people are just utter dicks!

Has she replied??

If it was all innocent she would surely have replied straight away, asking why you were returning money!

What an utter cow!! You're well shot x

I'm perplexed as to why there would be a screen shot but has it even been established the text was meant for a third party?

It seems likely, as obviously there would have been no reason to go to all the trouble of taking a screen shot just to send OP's own text back to her.

I guess I always try not to think the worst unless no other explanation can be found

I also have screen shot someone else's text and resent it with a comment so really can't understand

I am that grown women behave in this way.

I also have never -that should have read

If the reply was meant for OP then bitch friend would have just replied, no need for a screenshot. It was obviously meant for someone else.

Sorry OP, sometimes even grown-ups act like utter utter nobs. Sounds like you are better off without her because your text was pretty innocuous so god knows what other stuff she has been telling other people.

op beware of the friend that talks shit about other 'friends' behind their backs.

She sounds like she does it to you all. I know a woman like this.

She did you a huge favour exposing herself. What a knob.

You have however remained dignified. The shame is all on her toes.