What do I reply to this/is there an innocent explanation?

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I want to keep this brief
I was texting a friend I've known for 4ish years through DD, a friend I have been there for through the breakdown of her marriage/health problems etc and visa versa. I only say this to explain it's definitely a friendship of sorts as opposed to just meeting for the kids.

In one of my messages I said "that's great, looking forward to it. Could really do with a chat"

I then got a screenshot back of my message with the caption "bet it isn't going to be half as interesting as it sounds"

Neither of us have replied and she's gone offline. I'm so embarrassed and I so want her to explain it away.

Wow what a little cunt.

Cut this bitch out of your life, she's slagging you off. You deserve better OP

This happened to a friend of mine.

She was making a big effort to keep in touch/visit a friend. On one occasion said friend went to the loo and the land line rang. This was years ago so there was an answering machine that one could hear and she heard "Hope X isn't boring you senseless, haw haw"

She sat there frozen and had to act normal till the (now ex) friend came out of the loo and made her excuses that she wasn't feeling well etc. They never spoke again. But I think she regretted not saying anything, even something small and sarcastic. It was really left unfinished and unsatisfactory.

Definitely send coconuttys reply whenever she comes on line again.

I'd be tempted to text back "I bet your other friend thinks you're really big and clever and so so cool, what with you acting like a 12 year old."

At least you know

She has obviously been talking about you and passing on everything you tell her which is very unkind!
She really isn't your friend you deserve to surround yourself with radiators not vampires so fuck her!

I would send a message saying thanks a lot for letting you know what she is really like and then delete all contact.

for you.

Jesus I wasn't even the one chasing this friendship at all. I am/was fond of her but am usually so busy and not the greatest for staying in touch. Did think we'd become actual friends though.

I just sent a screenshot of a bank transfer to her for money for tickets she had wanted me to pick up for us and DC for a Halloween event and night away. I said "popped money for xxxx back into your account"

She's seen it and not replied. Thank god DC are at different schools, I never want to see her again. I feel surprisingly humiliated!

Leave it there. She can come to you.

There is no innocent explanantion.

That message was for someone else. Rude twat.

As has already been said that certainly reads to me that whatever you discuss is being shared with someone.

You need to reply. She needs to know that you know.

"Charming. I assume that was meant to be about me rather than TO me? Needless to say I think we'll cancel."

I would ask her OP. Just a simple what's that mean . And wait for her response!

Excellent response, OP.

Can't believe she was asking for a night out together and doing that. But then some people just really don't ever learn that bitching about others is rude and childish.

Step away and congratulate yourself for a dignified response.

Could she have meant it to go to her partner? Yes, it's horrible to receive, but I think people would be lying if they said they didn't occasionally have a bit of a moan about their friends especially to their partner. I don't agree with everything my friends do and sometimes they get on my nerves and I have a bit of a vent about it to OH. She's probably horribly embarrassed.

It is awful to see something like that, but I think some of the replies you're getting are probably really over egging how much nastiness there was in her intent sending it.

She's probably still running round the house now, scarlet faced, going "Fuuuuuuuuuuck!".

Coconutty's response is good, or you could just say "What do you mean?" to see what excuse she manages to come up with when she eventually stops squirming.

X post with loads of messages.

Sorry cross post! Your reply is perfect.

So are you going to be with her at this Halloween event and night out? That's going to be a bit awkward if nothing is said.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. It's unlikely that you're the only friend that she does it to. She sounds like a bitch. You're well rid

I also read this as a (very poor) attempt at a joke, rather than a bitchy message meant for someone else.

I'd send Coconutty's response.

I think bitch friend gave OP money for the hallowe'en thing which she has returned in order to cut all ties as she says she never needs to see her again now x

Don't feel humiliated! So you've put the money she'd sent you back in her account as a way of letting her know you won't be getting her tickets or going with her?

Do you have an idea who she's been bitching about you to?

Aargh random x, I'm not a Hun!

Ah, sorry I hadn't read properly. You've refunded the money to her, so now won't be going. Fair enough.

X post again!