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I've just called the police for my neighbour

109 replies

MsJamieFraser · 21/09/2016 22:14

Dh coming home from work and sees our neighbour running out her house with him screaming at her, but because she seen dh, she ran straight back in the house, this was 5 ish, neighbour was sobbing her heart out.

All night we have heard raised voices, and loud banging etc... We know they have kids but didn't hear them, so assumed they where out.. However dh didn't want to call the police as so far we only heard their raised voices and loud bangs, until we heard the kids crying hysterically.

She will know it's us, but it was game over once we heard the kids, we know he has a history of depression, however it's been 5 long hours.

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Original poster
MsJamieFraser · 21/09/2016 22:14

Sorry her dh was screaming at her, not my dh.

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BastardGoDarkly · 21/09/2016 22:16

Oh bloody hell. You've absolutely done the right thing, have a Brew

Musicaltheatremum · 21/09/2016 22:17

You have done the right thing. Those poor kids. And of course your neighbour

Greendress123 · 21/09/2016 22:18

You have done the right thing x

WhatTheActualFugg · 21/09/2016 22:18

Are they there yet OP?

Can you hear both adults?

goodbyestranger · 21/09/2016 22:18

Thanks for letting us know.

Why on earth would one of you not go and help her out? It must have been obvious hours ago that help was required - your DH could have gone, you could have called the police.

SarcasmMode · 21/09/2016 22:18

Definitely done the right thing.

Those poor kids.

Frogers · 21/09/2016 22:20

I think you've done the right thing.

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge · 21/09/2016 22:21

GoodBye no one ever does anything, calling the police is a massive deal and the op should feel proud.

goodbyestranger · 21/09/2016 22:25

I'm well aware people don't do enough ReallyShouldKnowBetter but I happen to think they should, and calling the police and then asking for congratulations immediately on MN certainly isn't anything to be 'proud' of. Quite shockingly self absorbed really. Feel sorry for the lot next door though, sounds a mess.

flippinada · 21/09/2016 22:26

How awful, your poor neighbour and her poor kids :(

While instinct might be that OP and her DH should intervene, it could well have escalated the situation. Anyway, calling the police was the right thing to do. I hope they turn up soon.

PickAChew · 21/09/2016 22:30

I expect OP is more seeking a handhold than congratulations, goodbye. Witnessing something like this is frightening, especially when you know you cannot safely do anything directly to make it all stop.

flippinada · 21/09/2016 22:34

I don't think OP is boasting or looking for congratulations, more reassurance. This sort of event is actually quite shocking and scary, and people don't always react how they 'should' (whatever that means) or in the way you would expect.

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge · 21/09/2016 22:34

GodBye well done you for being well aware Flowers poor op has been flung into a situation she didn't expect, did what she felt best and then posted for support.

Nothing self absorbed about that, I wish my then neighbours would have got involved to cal the police, dread to think what would have happened if the DH had tried to knock on the door Shock

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 21/09/2016 22:36

I'm sure you did the right thing, OP. You had no choice. Anything could have happened, and if something terrible happened you would never forgive yourself.

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MsJamieFraser · 21/09/2016 22:38

goodbye, Hmm dh seen a snap shot moment, he was coming home from work, he didn't want to make assumptions, nor as she willingly entered back into her home, he did not think it correct to intervene.

Possibly we should have called earlier, but we didn't. Poor call.. poor judgement, who knows.

Police are here now

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WorraLiberty · 21/09/2016 22:40

I would have called the Police too if my neighbours had been at it for 5 hours.

So what if they know it's you? Surely they don't think they're being reasonable to keep a loud argument up for that long?

flippinada · 21/09/2016 22:40

Glad the police have turned up OP. Good on you and your DH for not being bystanders.

Nakupenda · 21/09/2016 22:41

You've got my sympathies OP.

My neighbours scream at each other and the kids cry hysterically but I just have no idea what to do?? It's not often, once a week but it terrifies me and I feel if I called the police and they showed up and everything had calmed down I'd just look like an idiot Confused when they do have a screaming match it doesn't last long as she storms out and drives off... and he proceeds to put the kids out in the back garden and wanders around with headphones on Hmm

BackwardElephants · 21/09/2016 22:41

How frightening for them, and you. And we'll done for calling the police.

TaterTots · 21/09/2016 22:43

GoodbyeStranger - that sort of one-upmanship really isn't appropriate. OP could have put herself in danger too if she'd stormed in. Far better to let the police handle it.

OP, ignore the likes of GS. You did the right thing. I know what it's like as I had to do the same with my neighbours. You don't want to interfere, but when I saw their elder son (who can't have been more than 7) get his little brother out of the house to keep him safe, that went out of the window.

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MsJamieFraser · 21/09/2016 22:44

I'm not really bothered that's she knows it was me, I just hope it does not affect our relationship (she's really lovely) I feel I have broken her trust, but know I haven't, in fact I don't feel I have broken her trust but feel I have broken something with her.

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Chala86 · 21/09/2016 22:45

I think you did the right thing OP. I wish a neighbour had done this for me when I was younger. Flowers

Justaboy · 21/09/2016 22:46

Calling the police and letting THEM deal with it is exactly the right thing to do in this instance. You do not want to get involved directly in these situations. They will see there's a problem and I rather Suspect get SS involved and on the case too.

And i also think the poor woman involved will thank you too if its been going on before.