To do my husbands washing?

[Mrsemcgregor]

I was chatting to a friend the other day and she was very surprised that I do my husbands washing. I had never even thought about it, I just bung all the washing in together. She mocked me a bit and said that my husband was a grown man and should do it himself, like I was being completely anti-feminist. Have I missed something here? Am I being a doormat by doing his washing?! It makes no sense to me to separate it out and expect him to do it himself.

So are you supposed to have separate baskets? Our clothes just get all mixed in together. Doing them separately seems like extra work!

Also, am a bit squeamish about dh having to wash my underwear! I know that's just me

I also always iron my OH's shirts. Does that make me less of a feminist? FFS. I like ironing because it's a job I can watch TV to. I do it when OH cooks (me) dinner.

Taking the washing example, should you also make your meals separately??

passing why is it extra work?

Beginning to think everyone doesn't use the "chuck everything in on 40" method!

There's logic to both ways of doing it. If you have separate laundry baskets, then it makes sense to do your own laundry. Especially if you both work, and one of you isn't at home and default doing all that stuff. It's quite different from cooking and sharing food.

If you have one laundry basket, then it makes sense for it all to be done together. Ours is all done together, and I generally do it, but I don't iron DH's stuff.

I'm just a bit at people trying to make out they enjoy laundry. It's never-ending and the most boringly repetitive chore ever. It's not difficult, but what's to enjoy about it.

Because we have one laundry basket, when I do a wash I just shove everything in apart from the wool items. Sorting through what is mine vs OH's and refusing on principle to do his surely would just be a waste of time?

My Dh really wouldn't have a clue how to operate my washing machine. I don't even want him to touch it, he'd somehow manage to break it. Apart from that it would be crazy to split our washing just for the sake of me not doing his.

I sometimes do and sometimes don't. I am resolutely a feminist.

A lot of men being completely infantilised on this thread.

I promise you Dowager, I enjoy doing laundry, I find it soothing. Different strokes for different folks.

Dh is perfectly capable of doing laundry but I prefer to do it. Dh tends to cook because he enjoys it and he's better at it than I am but that doesn't mean I am unable to cook.

I consider myself a feminist.