I've said similar to a friend in the past, she's cut visits short as she has to rush back to do her dhs work clothes, while he is sat at home watching tvs and relaxing.
Yes she stays at home, she doesn't mind doing everything during the week but would like some help at weekends, which I think is fair. She does everything for her dh and ds, because he'll say it's practical, but things like packed lunches, she has ds to do so does his at same time, except he wants his making fresh on a morning,so she gets up to do it. The practical thing would be for him to make his own and do ds at same time. He won't have it though, his jib is earning money, everything, everything else is hers.
It's funny when she was the breadwinner, everything else was still hers, he'd make out that it's easy looking after him and his ds, unless it's him, then putting a load on is a very big thing that a man shouldn't have to do. She had operation once in which she couldn't walk for a few weeks, her dh was fucked, he didn't know where his fucking clothes were kept, never mind his ds, didn't know what school uniform was, what time school started, how to turn a cooker on, how to sort laundry never mind a machine. Rather than be ashamed that as a fully grown adult he couldn't look after his ds, he rang his mammy, who went and stayed and did everything.
Doing dhs washing in an equal relationship is fine and sensible, but there are some men who think that as they earn the money they don't have to lift a finger in the home, the weekend is for them to relax. I do think those types of men should be able to do washing, not necessarily their own, but the families washing every now and then. I don't think there's an excuse for men like my friends dh to not know how to look after their themselves or their dc should something happen to Mum.