To think that the practice nurse should think before speaking

[YoureMyWifeNowDave]

I've just taken DS for his 8 week jabs and as I went in the nurse says hello and then asks who I am as I am "obviously not mum"!

Admittedly I am an older mum (I'm 44) and my hair is a little grey as I have started having allergic reactions to hair dyes but she made me feel absolutely ancient

AIBU to think that she was a little out of order here? Luckily I am not suffering from PND but if I had been feeling down I think this would have really upset me it did tbh

Today I got asked when my 'wee baby' is due .....I'm 56 !!!
after having my DC (four of the darlings) my stomach muscles split and by the time I found someone who took it seriously and could do something about it (one GP said 'it's too big an operation' ) I looked seven months pregnant all the time !! I was 50 by this stage ! Needless to say I was pretty gutted today - I'm also 10 stone , so not very overweight either ! Took the wind out of my sails, I can tell you !

It's called politeness really. Professionals, if they wish to be bought professional could do with adopting it.

The pp just reminded me - when ds was a tiny baby and the community midwife came she asked my mother if she was nanny. My mother, just said "no". My DH when asked if he was "dad" when ds was very poorly and admitted to hospital just said "yes, his, not yours". I just get inwardly cross.

Are you at my practice OP? . Similar happened to me last year following birth of my DS, I was 45 and had an infection, saw practice nurse and gave her my history of recent birth etc and she said 'how old are you? !! I just replied with my age and she was genuinely shocked, I felt a bit crap about it but I try not to let stuff like that bother me
Congratulations on your baby, I've realised that I'm not a minoroty and there's loads of older mums!

Headofthehive55 Wed 21-Sep-16 16:42:23
Are there many people that prefer to work than shop then?

Yes - me by a long way (misses point of conversation )

Yanbu though be prepared for the future.

My dad was an older dad. Though 54 when i was born i had to constantly correct my friends from the age of 4/5. Its one of my earliest memories and the first time i ever felt the burning heat of pure embarrassment, it was constant until he died and probably the reason i had ds young and will not have any more past 35.

People make mistakes and assumptions so not really a major issue on the nurse's part, id let it go.

I had to take my DD16 to minor injuries and the nurse asked me if I was her partner! We both laughed thought it was really funny and I told him I was flattered! The nurse was mortified and said he finds it hard cos they get all sorts of dynamics coming in. It wouldn't have occurred to me to report him though, he meant no harm. It doesn't sound like the nurse in this post meant to be nasty, it was a mistake, I would leave it.

People often think my daughter & granddaughter are both my kids. This upsets my daughter greatly 🙁 I'm a young grandma (44) but people shouldn't make assumptions especially health care providers! !

3090 a breach of your rights....ogle give over. The woman was thoughtless but hardly breached anyone's rights. That makes a mockery of people whose rights have actually been breached. Stop fringe so melodramatic

*being

When I was 25 and pregnant I was buying a train ticket and was asked if I was half fare!

Sorry just realised I was only 24.

Ummm. Thought people were taking about practice nurses?

...talking

Sorry to hear that OP but I do hope you won't do as some other poster suggested and take it as a "breach of your rights" and report her to her manager. It's not ideal but not a reportable issue. I really hate when people start going down that road. If her standard of care of your baby is inadequate that's one thing but to report someone because they asked who you were, while being a bit tactless and thoughtless is hardly a reason to start bleating about "rights".

Not about rights Hollie but as nursing care is based on communication and mutual respect, it doesn't really cut it does it. Manners are free - one thing a cash strapped NHS can provide I'd have thought. This sort of thing crops up too often so how do you propose things improve without complaints? In the real world complaints are regarded as free market research.

Hollie my practice manager would laugh such a complaint out of the practice. When things go wrong and there are serious breaches serious incident reports and complaints are essential to help prevent future mistakes. I have often in my role as advocate supported patients to raise concerns.
roses I am still searching for a big enough sachet of ketchup to go with that chip you seem to have

Yes, I don't blame you for feeling upset. Diplomacy is a wonderful thing isn't it? if you meet people everyday and you suffer from 'foot in mouth' then that's obviously a handicap. Hopefully she'll learn from her mistake and not do it again.