To disageee that a bride can't decide?

[mummytofourbabies]

Was invited to a wedding and have since received an email from the bride telling me that all guests are forbidden from wearing a hay or fascination?
Wtf?
Does this actually happen now?

[mummytofourbabies]

*Not a hay a hat

[mummytofourbabies]

Yeah I'm going to roll along, and not wear a hat.but never ever heard of the bride telling you what you can and can't wear before

Abit extreme if you ask me

[BarbarianMum]

YANBU! We had a 20s/30s style wedding. Following the theme was totally optional, and the way it was interpreted by those who chose to was totally up to them. Some went for the whole gangster/moll thing, some just chucked a feather boa over a little black number, some wore their regular wedding guest outfit and one guy came as Indiana Jones.
Telling your guests what to wear is just wrong. We didn't even tell our bridesmaids!

[NewPotatoes]

Show up in a floor-length veil?

[KurriKurri]

I'd wear a massive bale of hay

But more seriously it seems to be a thing now - I would completely ignore it, no you don't get to say what people can wear - what are they going to do - rip it from your head before they let you in?

It's nuts - another example of the strange controlling tyranny that is the modern wedding (I jest before anyone gets shrieky)

[Ifailed]

Is the wedding in Maui?

[HapShawl]

It's not a venue where headgear is not allowed (struggling to think of many tbh)?

Maybe they are supplying hats!

[Somerville]

Is that really the wording? That the bride forbids it?

If so, YANBU.

I have been to a few weddings where no hats were necessary but it was always conveyed in a polite way. Generally a verbal message being passed round through bridesmaid and families that 'the ceremony isn't a hat affair.'

[AcrossthePond55]

Could the venue be such that hats/tall fascinators would block other people's view? Possibly block the videographer's view?

[OreoCat]

As long as none of my guests had turned up in a white dress and a veil, I didn't care much what they wore

Not in a horrible way, just wanted those people there to celebrate with us!

[OvariesBeforeBrovaries]

Unless it's a stipulation by the venue I can't understand this "bride and groom dictate dress code" nonsense. If someone shows up to my wedding in a white dress and veil I'll kick off, apart from that I don't care

[Prawnofthepatriarchy]

This is totally ridiculous. I was just pleased that the people I wanted came, not trying to control what they wore.

I have a theory that the worse the bridezilla the more likely it is that the marriage fails, ugly and early. It's down to being super controlling plus high levels of narcissism. It's not all brides, you get grooms who do it too, to be fair.

[NightWanderer]

Maybe the bride is cocklaphobic?

[gonetoseeamanaboutadog]

This reminds me of Ladies of Cheshire when the only stipulation re: a birthday party was that Ampika had to wear clothes...she went naked.

[LikeDylanInTheMovies]

Maybe the bride is cocklaphobic?

The honeymoon will be a wow if she is allergic to cocks.

[MrsBertBibby]

But how will she get all those pics of tipsy dudes wearing fascinators?

[mummytofourbabies]

No the wedding is not in Maui.

Not supplying hats, no banned headgear from the venue either.

She didn't word it so harshly but at the end she wrote "if you turn up wearing one u don't get in-simples" think it was made to sound jokey-clearly not jokey though.

Could possibly be because of the view
Being blocked, I'm not sure actually?

[mrszc]

What a fucking Bridezilla

[BennyTheBall]

Every time I think I have read all the batshit crazy wedding threads - another one comes to amaze me.

I think fascinators are the naffest thing in the world - but I might be inclined to wear one to this wedding.

[LineyReborn]

Maybe she just hates wedding hats and fascinators because they're a bit shit.

[mummytofourbabies]

Arfar

That made me giggle. What a great idea I might just do that.
I could get a gang of paper hat wearers on side. As I know a lot of them are kicking off about her dictating!

[reup]

Did she actually use a u and write simples? I would be reevaluating the friendship.

[privetdrive]

YABU. It's her wedding, if she doesn't want hats/fascinators then it's her decision, however extreme you find it.