To disageee that a bride can't decide?

[mummytofourbabies]

Was invited to a wedding and have since received an email from the bride telling me that all guests are forbidden from wearing a hay or fascination?
Wtf?
Does this actually happen now?

[DPotter]

OOo Alpaca - you can't wear green to a wedding; says my mum. I have no idea why......
I have a dear close friend, desperate for me to get married just so she can wear a hat.
Thing is, if she, the bride, had said nothing, the proportion of people wearing hats / fascinators would have been small. Last wedding I attended, with previously mentioned friend - she and I were the only ones wearing hats!

[Prawnofthepatriarchy]

£50 a head on costumes instead of a gift? I've never spent £100 on a wedding present, even for family. Some people are either very well-off or very entitled.

Or both.

[GabsAlot]

i missed it all what was the rason in the end did we find out

[TheCompanyOfCats]

No, they both went quiet gabs, sadly. I suspect that an offline argument has taken place.

[GabsAlot]

oh dear thanks anyway

[AlpacaPicnic]

Can't wear green? I've not heard that one before...
Honestly, when will the rules end? Can't wear green, can't wear white, can't wear hats... Just turn up naked just in case!

I'd love an invite to a winter wedding, I love winter fabrics, velvet, satin etc. And I long for a chance to swish about in a dramatic cape...

[mummytofourbabies]

Sorry to disappoint, no offline argument, ha! Never heard anymore other than what was posted here.

[TheCompanyOfCats]

How odd Mummy, do you think she had her wires crossed then?

[mummytofourbabies]

I know she had her wires crossed as im very much definately invited to the wedding I'm talking about.**

[DPotter]

My Mum is an absolute font of weird superstitions and 'rules'.....None of which anyone else has ever heard of

[OddThomas7]

A few years ago I went to a wedding where all guests were requested to wear one of two colours. The vast majority did, and it certainly made for distinctive photos, but I was a bit when I heard the bride complaining that one guest had worn sandals in a different colour.

[665TheNeighbourOfTheBeast]

Green used to be the colour of mourning before queen Victoria made black for mourning fashionable - so I expect that's why no green,

[MiddleClassProblem]

Omg so even your footwear had to be in the theme?

[OliveBranchCollins]

Green is a fairy colour, they'll come and steal you away at the reception (according to my Irish Granny)

[Memoires]

665 did it? Wow, I didn't know that. It's my favourite colour! What colour was traditional for weddings? I was watching Victoria, and they were discussing her dress and asked what colour she wanted. She chose white, but it did make me wonder whether white hadn't been the norm before.

I got married in blue because that was the colour of the newest (and therefore least tatty) dress I owned

[GrandMarmoset]

My daughters dress code was whatever you feel comfortable in. It was absolutely hilarious- morning suits, fairy wings, Jim jams, sarongs, jeans, glam dresses. You name it, people turned up in it. It was a very relaxed village feast type affair with high judges seated next to fire eaters and it just worked. My daughter couldn't have been less bridezilla but all the guests said it was the best wedding they'd ever attended. It was pot luck and they did it for a hundred people for under £1000. I think people need to relax more. I was a tad nervous every about the whole 'go with the flo' attitude but it was fantastic.

[tribpot]

I'm not sure about mourning, Wiki indicates black pre-dates the Victorian era but Victoria popularised white for a wedding dress. Ironically white was the traditional colour of mourning for queens in Europe.

[flirtybird]

My daughter is getting married in church next year and has said hats and fascinators are optional but not necessary as they can cost a small fortune. I will wear a fascinator as mother of the bride but it will come off after the day reception!

[Kent1986]

Who cares, it's her day she's paying for it!

I put a little rhyme thingy in mind saying something like - we'll be in our tweeds so feel free to wear summer dresses and chinos.
I didn't want people to wear black suits as is wasn't that type of wedding, the groomsmen didn't even wear suits they had tweed waistcoats. But some people did wear dark suits but that's up to them, as long as everyone's comfy and smart who cares.

I do draw the line at people wearing jeans, joggers, polo shirts or such like to a wedding though, I really do think that's crass and I cringe when I see the lack of effort some people make.

[PregHead1337]

I got married in green after a bunch of lovely mumsnetters helped me find the perfect dress. I wore my favourite colour and everyone else wore what they wanted. The main thing is the people there, not what they wear. I can see the inconvenience of hats for photos, but I personally couldn't give a toss.

Loving the idea of tiara boppers though 😆

[GrandMarmoset]

DPotter, it's a Celtic thing. My grandmothers would never allow anyone to wear green, let alone to a wedding. It's considered bad luck because it makes the 'Wee Folk' jealous. Seriously.

[DPotter]

Thanks for the background info 666, Olive and Grand. Mum is Irish so that fits!

[Batteriesallgone]

Only on mumsnet do you get Guestzillas moaning about people's weddings, I shouldn't have to travel, I want to wear a hat, I want this and DON'T YOU KNOW HOW EXPENSIVE IT IS TO ATTEND A WEDDING YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR OUR PRESENCE (but not presents, didn't get you anything coz you asked for cash grabby bitch)

If you don't like the rule don't go. And don't be a bitch and deliberately wear something you know they won't like and ruin the group pictures

Okay projecting over, as you were

[user1471533439]

I got told by the bride not to look too pretty