To disageee that a bride can't decide?

[mummytofourbabies]

Was invited to a wedding and have since received an email from the bride telling me that all guests are forbidden from wearing a hay or fascination?
Wtf?
Does this actually happen now?

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

You could wear a tiara, mummytofour - a tiara is neither a hat nor a fascinator. Or lots of sparkly hair clips.

I think it is ridiculous for a bride to dictate dress code in this way.

[GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER]

Whoever said 'the more bridezilla-ish the wedding, the more the marriage is likely to fail', I agree 100%.

All that spoilt, narcissistic sense of entitlement can never bode well.

I blame L'Oreal.
Years and years of 'Because I'm worth it.'

[MrsCaecilius]

Ha ha ha! Think you were right first time. Wear hay.

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

Take a copy of the Times, and fashion a load of these during the ceremony

[MiddleClassProblem]

Maybe she has a phobia

[JJbum]

Did she ban hats and fascinations or was she just advising guests of how dressy/not dressy the wedding was going to be? I have been to weddings where the bride and groom advised that hats weren't required (can't remember exact wording as hats aren't compulsory anyway) . I've been to others where it's been advised that men don't need to wear ties or suits.

In those situations the mothers of the b & g had decided not to wear hats/fascinators or the b & g knew their friends hated hats/ties/very formal wear and wanted to let them know they needn't feel obliged to be very formal/smart and could dress more casually. In all cases it was much appreciated by the guests.

[MiddleClassProblem]

It's called cocklaphobia according to google!

[Cherryskypie]

I'm with them on the fascinators. Stupid, pointless things that make the wearer look like a tit.

[AndShesGone]

That's so rude. I always wear a hat to a wedding. People always used to.

[Isitjustmeorisiteveryoneelse]

Balaclava? You could pair it with some of those mittens that come on a string.

[BackforGood]

Please, please, please take along 40 paper hats for everyone to wear.
Or tiaras.
This really is ridiculous, and it might let her realise it without messing up everyone's hair like a beanie or something would

[ErrolTheDragon]

If its in a church, then women are supposed to cover their heads, arent they? (I know thats not adhered to but still....)

You could always wear a headscarf.

[nonicknameseemsavailable]

love the balaclava/party hat/crown suggestions. PLEASE do something like that

[Only1scoop]

I'd turn up like Carmen Miranda
Wouldn't be able to help myself

[erinaceus]

They can't decide, no, nor can they forbid. However, they can request, and she might have whatever reason she has for expressing strongly her preference regarding hats or fascinators, such as a phobia or a desire to be the only person in headgear or whatever reason. I was obliged to advise my guests not to wear stilettos, a stipulation of the venue, which was an odd moment, and led to a number of humorous notes in RSVPs.

Depending on how you feel about this person, you could follow one of the above amusing suggestions, or just forgo the headwear. Being a bride does do funny things to people, semi-regularly, both from my observation and based on my own experience. For example, see above regarding my request vis à vis stilettos.

[tribpot]

I would love to see how she intends to police the headwear of her guests upon arrival. It's not often that a bride acts as her own bouncer but I suppose anything is possible.

I think I'd have to go in a Dangerous Liaisons-style wig, or elaborate 'face frame'.

[ZippyNeedsFeeding]

Deeley boppers! With flashing lights. Tucked into handbags and whipped out just before they start the vows.

[mummytofourbabies]

haha mrsdevere actually This is quite a respectable family

I'm slightly rough around the edges though which is clearly shown by my awful text speak

[mummytofourbabies]

And to the poster that mentioned about it being on the invitations, it wasn't, she emailed around after the invitations went out

[QuestionableMouse]

I'd wear a headband or flower bobble. I might have problems being told what to wear...

[Somerville]

How on earth could you know that it's the same wedding, Haggis? Or, indeed, who the OP is?

[crayfish]

How do you know it's the same hat-free wedding and how to you know mummy isn't invited?

[RatHammock]

Well this just got interesting.

[pugsake]

I really wanted too wear a crown at my wedding (Misses point)