Would you go and visit your son, in uni, if they needed stitches?

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I'm definitely very protective of him.

It's on his cheek would you go and visit?

Also:

Being bottled in the face is not in any way a normal or commonplace "part of growing up"

Have a lovely evening with your son and bf. Before I had got to your latest post I was going to respond to say that if your son wanted you to go, then you should. My daughter, who was 22 at the time, had a nasty fall and bashed her face, thought she had a broken nose, and skinned her knees badly. I asked her if she wanted me to drive over and bring her back for the weekend, and she said yes straightaway and was home within 2 hours. No matter how old your child is, or wherever they are, if they want you to go to them it's between the pair of you, nothing to do with anyone else.

My daughter is still at uni, doing her PhD, and I will do things which other people think are 'soft', like buying a trolley load of shopping, paying her phone, treating her to an outfit now and again etc. I don't care, she's my only child and I will do whatever I can for her and everyone else can keep their noses out!

Ouch, that's a sore one.
So glad you went and glad it isn't worse. Kiss your handsome boy for us and ignore the noise.
Something similar happened to my lad a few years ago, he was fine, recovered mentally far quicker than I did, so a hug to you too xxxx

I was in the no camp until you said it was assault. Assault is different, that's traumatic for both of you :(
Glad you went, enjoy dinner :)

Katie - it really did look sore! Especially before it was closed!

Thanks everyone

I've been to see my DS at uni twice after accidents....once when he was knocked off his bike( no significant injuries just shaken up) and once when he injured his foot and needed to go to A&E. I asked and he wanted me there.He'd be quite happy to meet for lunch and will phone me for a chat....we are very close, probably makes him a mummys boy, but neither of us care.
Glad you went OP and that your son is ok.

That pic is very identifying. Does your son know you've posted it?

I would definitely have gone too btw

Gah, I tried to zoom in. I'll get it removed.

Yes, he knows he's just been sat reading through the thread, having a right laugh. Telling me that I shouldn't need to ask! Bless him.

Ouch - that looks really sore. Your poor boy :(

Glad you went and that he was happy to see you.

Being assaulted and injured is VERY different to just having an accident.
I'd have wanted to be there asap - don't think me wanting to parent and be with my child will stop just because she hits 18.

Heck, when I got sent to hospital when ill a few years back my mum and dad came to visit me - and I was almost 40!

Take care of you too jimmy
You've had a bad fright and might crash later once the adrenaline wears off. Hope the utter twat that did this gets cock rot. Itchy festering cock rot at that.

Thinking about this as a reverse. If you were assaulted and hit in the face with a bottle, would your children ask someone if they should visit you? Would they do it automatically or think "that's no big deal "? I think my DC would be here like a shot. I did earlier say I would only go if if they asked me me to but I think I was wrong, I'm so pleased you went and I hope he's not too distressed.

Hope he's ok op.

How horrible that there are such vile people out there.

Heir we have 4 and parent like you. They are always your kids even grown up. Always

And op he's a great looking lad.

I'm glad you went.

Family is important at times like these. I don't give a s**t if my kids are at uni or are adults with their own children, if they are injured I will go and see them.

It is not helicopter parenting or molly coddling it is simply being a parent.

Very handsome young man.

I hope he is feeling better.

Well, I think most people would go 45 miles to see a close relative who had been glasses in the face.

I wouldn't hesitate if it were my child, no matter how old they were, as long as I could drive.

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I'd check it was stitched by a plastics consultant since its on his face.

So glad you went op! Your poor son!
Bet he's happy to see you.
There's some horrible people out there.
Ignore thatdoesntsurpriseme vile unneeded comment.
Your son needed you. Hope he heals quickly x
I hope the police know who did it

This is an interesting thread. MN is full of grown women who depend on their mothers after childbirth and for childcare and who pop by their mums for tea and revel in the close relationship they have with their mothers. But a boy who has been assaulted in hospital, cannot be visited by his mother, because that will be an imposition? Really?

I'm a Uni lecturer so I see students of this age all the time. They are very vulnerable especially when they are ill, including boys.

I wonder if people would say the same if her daughter had been seriously assaulted...

I'm really glad you went. Remind him that if he needs support at any time, the Student Union is there for him, whether he feels shaken up or needs to attend court or is worried any way.

Awww bless your son! You sound like a lovely mum. If my child was that age and got bottled I would want to be up there in a flash! Glad he is appreciative of your efforts.

And members of his Department. Please do tell them, we are there to help and we are aware that this part of the University term is tricky for everyone. Even if it was an assault outside of campus, do let people know, and we can help. I have mothered plenty of sick students in my time. On one occasion last year I sent a student home from my class because she looked so so unwell, but had still dragged herself to class. I sent her home, and then emailed her later to see how she was. And I'm not the exception- most half decent Lecturers would do that.

Being assaulted is different to tripping over drunk, much scarier

I said not to before your update but I'm glad you went, and I'm glad he's glad! Enjoy your time with them

Good for you OP, Hope you have a lovely evening.
Sometimes it's not just all about the child, mums have needs too !!