Would you go and visit your son, in uni, if they needed stitches?

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I'm definitely very protective of him.

It's on his cheek would you go and visit?

If he's less than an hour away I would.

I think a sports injury or accident is completely different to a (possibly homophobic) assault.

Why does he need money, ask if he needs you to go and see him, otherwise, no, hes an adult!

Absolutely not.

It's not just the stitches, its him being hit in the face with a bottle! I would be there and making sure it is reported too. Hope he's OK.

I don't really get why it seems so unacceptable to visit children at uni. Surely it is normal to visit family and they should be mature enough to be able to be seen with parents!

Ignore all the rude comments about him being a mummy's boy. He was assaulted and hurt. I hope he's ok and not too upset.

If the OP had said 'my daughter is at uni and was mugged, do you think I should go and see her?', would we have had the same responses, do you think?

I'd go. He's been assaulted and although he may be putting a brave face on it, he might still be a bit shaken and like to see his Mum. Plus it'll help put your mind at rest. Take a food shop and take your ds and his boyfriend out for dinner. You sound like a lovely mum who is careful and thoughtful about giving her child space.

What a horrible thing a pp said about being a mummy's boy. My dh is very close to his mum who is also lovely. Dh takes after her a lot and is a kind and considerate person with a lot of respect for women. There should be more mummy's boys in the world!

Those saying 'no he's an adult' - would you refuse to go and see a friend who'd been hit in the face with a bottle because they were an adult?

I hope he's ok, op.

I onitaly thought no because im used to sports injuries. Both lads have had plenty of smashed ribs ,stitches etc because of tjeir sport. an assault is different. I would go out for that.

He's been assaulted, that changes everything. I'd be there like a shot.
(With a full boot of Pringles, bacon and wine)

I am always amazed by the attitude on here that, once kids are 16 or something, they are totally independent and offering them any help or support is stifling, mollycoddling and how will they ever cope as adults . It's bonkers.

I am 49 and in these circumstances I would still want my mom.

So glad you're going to see him. Wish him well from me

Some horrible comments on here about helicopter parents and mummy's boys. Hope this isn't stealth homophobic bullying from some posters btw

It doesn't make a difference whether it's a boy or a girl. If my DD or DS had been assaulted and needed stitches, I would be in the car and on my way. Glad you are going OP. It could be that DS is happy for just a cup of coffee and some cake. Or he could really be in need of his Mum there and not be able to verbalise this. Hope he's ok and recovers quickly.

Sorry he was hurt OP.

I had stitches on my forehead in my first year. My parents did not come and visit. I would have been mortified.

Hi OP safe journey, hope your DS and his BF are ok and your DS is recovering well; another one saying give them both a hug from me and not to let this make them afraid of going out.

I broke my arm once and my parents turned up at the hospital. I was mortified. I wouldn't go unless he asks you to.

I would go! I couldn't give a shiney one to what people say or think about that!
Just for my own piece of mind, even if it was for 5 minutes.
Hope your boy is ok OP.

Glad you're going, I definitely would too.

I hope your son is ok

In the nicest possible way, it sounds like this visit is primarily to satisfy your needs, rather than his.

There's nothing wrong with that, but I think you need to weigh up what you want with what your son might want.

I would certainly offer to.

My parents dropped by when I was attacked by a dog. I wasn't badly hurt, more shaken, and I'd been at boarding school age 10 so was far from being helicoptered but I was very touched that they came.

If you are hurt and shaken or in hospital etc, it's nice when someone shows that they give a damn. End of. Ridiculous to spit "mummy's boy" accusations about.

God, my mum would come and see me if I had stitches on my cheek following an assault and I'm 47!

How weird to think that close relationships = mummy's boy.

I would totally go unless he expressly said I wasn't wanted.

If he's only 45mins away I'd go without a 2nd thought.
You could say "I know I'm daft but I just want to see you in person".
No student has EVER turned down the offer of someone taking them out for a free lunch, or pub meal in the evening.
Just do it

After reading the update that he was hit in the face with a bottle, yes I would go. I do hope your son is ok, OP, and any scaring is minimal.

Ignore the "mummy's boy" and "helicopter parent" comments. I'm really close to my 2 sons (19&21), it's great.