Women on here

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Being reasonably new to this site/chat app ...
Having read a few threads in the last couple of days and coming across a lot of unnecessary comments .. AIBU to ask why it seems a lot of women on here seem very quick to throw nasty, horrible insults at other women on here?
I know people are asking for opinions, but, not character assassinations...!
Shouldn't us mums/women stick together and help eachother with advice instead of throwing horrible, bitchy, comments around?

to take HIM off her hands.

Personal attacks aren't allowed on MN. I wouldn't be here if it was moderated more than it currently is. We're all adults and if people are so horrified by the tone of Mumsnet well then other websites are available.

Has it been as long as a week since one of these threads?

'I lurked for a long time before joining. I wasn't sure I wanted to after reading some of it.'

So why did you? You don't seem to approve of it very much

You don't come on here for unqualified approbation - that's what your drunken friends on FB are for.

You come on here for the Unpalatable Truth.

And, my word, you will get it!

Lemonypea

I speak to people in real life like I speak on here and I think most of the regular posters probably do

Please don't equate a few fuckwits to the vast majority of articulate, funny, intelligent people on here.

Please don't equate a few fuckwits to the vast majority of articulate, funny, intelligent people on here.

There are mainly nice people on here. But you do get some people that are really very rude and needlessly too.

Mumsnet must be one of the busiest talk fourms in the UK. There are thousands upon thousands of people here. Of course you're going to find some unpleasant and some irritating.

I once shared with MNHQ how blunt posters had contributed to the decline of my mental health and then deregistered.

They very politely acknowledged my concerns and didn't point out that maybe it was the relationship posters were commenting on that was the problem.

I think "Women on here" are all sorts. Find it odd to generalise.

Will OP ever return...? Maybe she's finally found the other 99% of the site that isn't AIBU.

people are spectacularly missing the point

AIBU ? - see it's a question - if you post asking AIBU? you will get answers - which you might not always like

in real life if somebody asked me I would answer the same way

if you don't want to get feedback don't ask for it

Will OP ever return?
She's possibly being fanned over at netmums, having peeled grapes handed to her.....I hope she's happy. God speed op.

A hundred years or so ago I started a thread trying to explain that being a twat on AIBU wasn't compulsory. I took a shed load of abuse for being 'the thread police' iirc. I'll try and find it.

As someone upthread said. Some people sadly can't tell the difference between robust debate and just being arse hole. It's not the majority though and they are always pulled up.

For those wondering how the op can tell it's mainly women around, I know the answer!!
Men can never be capable of spitting that much venom

There is the one guy posting naked apart from Lego underpants

No way!

Actually, the level of analytical debate has made me more assertive in RL; not rude, not aggressive, but less apologetic for when I hold an alternative view to the one proposed AND I have the evidence to back my view up.

I cannot really bring myself to be surprised that the OP has not been back...

I definitely get a sense of offence waiting to be taken with some responses on AIBU. Although generally on mumsnet there loads of posters who are able to urge the OP to get real with compassionate straightforwardness. Rough with the smooth I guess...

Its funny that people seem to think its fine to wade in and criticise everyone on mn just cos a few people can get ott in their 'robustness' yet they never have the decency to discuss the issue properly or agree that not every thread is 'nasty' and disappear forever. Erm isnt that what they are usually complaining about in the first place?

Its like 'thats you told' and off they go to their next project.

Does "women sticking together" mean allowing a complete stranger to police my behaviour and tell me off?

And I prefer to be called a cunt. I find bitch offensive.

hth

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PoppyBirdOnAWire Sat 17-Sep-16 11:15:12
Is the fives thing meant to be funny at all? If so, stick at the practice. Oh, and don't give up the day job.
PoppyBirdOnAWire Sat 17-Sep-16
Is the doves thing...

Wow Poppy, you gave up the moral highground pretty fucking fast

Yes, of course there are arseholes. And the ones who hang around Aibu just to pick the op apart are a special breed of that.

But whining about the 'wimmin of mn' as if they are sone homogenous group whilst simultaneously ignoring things like the bereavement section, the woolly hugs, the stacks of posters who are endlessly supportive and the companionship to posters who struggle with difficult circumstances in real life, is just lazy.

If people are being dickheads I wish posters would challenge it then and not start threads trying to talk about everyone here in such a dismissive way.

I'm not trying to offend anyone, I'm not calling individuals "bitches" I used the term as a description of comments! and in no way am I expecting a campfire where we al burn our bra's and sing kumbaya ...
I have no issues being blunt and honest, and absolutely - opinions differ, in no way am I saying we should all be in agreement.
I'm simply stating that there is a lot of nastiness rather than just help, and opinions.
I also didn't mean to offend any men on here by using the term "mums" .. !
I'd also just like to say that, I wholeheartedly agree there are plenty of other places to go, I'm not unhappy here - I was literally just asking what the need for insults & nastiness was, instead of help, JUST opinions, and support!
No offence meant, just an observation.

One person's blunt comment is another's nastiness.
Horses, courses...

I take it the OP has challenged unpleasantness on the thread and made appropriate use of the report facility?