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AIBU?

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to tell guests to buy themselves a takeaway?

497 replies

OohMavis · 17/09/2016 07:08

We have DH's family descending upon us today to visit and meet our four-week-old. They will expect feeding. They're not 'shove a pizza in the oven' kind of family, either.

Would it be rude to point them in the direction of the fish and chip shop and chinese takeaway over the road? We have a small house and there will be five of them. No dining table.

There will be tea and biscuits but that's all I'm planning on having in, our weekly shop is Monday.

Aibu?

OP posts:
DeathpunchDoris · 18/09/2016 19:42

Tea or coffee and biscuits or cake - sorted. They have primarily come to see you and your baby - and should regard anything else as a bonus.

shabbyshibby · 18/09/2016 19:56

YANBU. With a new baby, people who are privileged enough to visiting at this stage should be providing food for YOU, not the other way round.

shabbyshibby · 18/09/2016 20:01

Btw feck the nursing cover! Your home, your baby, you have nothing to hide. If it makes them uncomfortable maybe they shouldn't be there. Is feeding your newborn an effective way of getting them to feck off?

Unicorntrainer · 18/09/2016 20:02

Tell them to eat on the way. And congratulations

TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 18/09/2016 20:06

And for those who are only going to read page18 (yes, I know it's on p17 Grin) -

Why not just cancel the cheque Mavis?

TippyT · 18/09/2016 20:10

What the hell?
Nursing cover this is your home ! Tell them to go forth and multiplie! You breast feed how and when you like, tell them to either leave or arrive with food! Xxx you are doing great xxx

Dieu · 18/09/2016 20:14

I think I must view things differently. Having a 4 week old baby wouldn't stop me making a simple spag bol, salad, garlic bread. I honestly don't see the fuss.

PeppaIsMyHero · 18/09/2016 20:23

I've really enjoyed this thread (was totally in the "what on god's earth were these 'visitors' THINKING of" camp)...

...but it does leave me wondering whether the best course of action might just have been to hand the newborn to its doting father (child of the visitors) and bugger off to enjoy a spa day.

MalcolmTuckersEyebrows · 18/09/2016 20:25

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Threesoundslikealot · 18/09/2016 20:36

Lots of people seem to have missed that no time was given. Preparing a simple spag bol for nine people involves buying and preparing quite a lot of food, in advance, for people who may then turn up at 9am and be gone by lunch, or at 4pm saying they don't want food after a huge midday meal. A takeaway avoided any nugatory effort and frankly, however bouncy you might be four weeks in, and however putdownable your baby, I don't think any of us wants to waste our time and money cooking unnecessary food.

Threesoundslikealot · 18/09/2016 20:39

Spa Day!! Always relaxing when you're taking a break from a cluster feeding baby.

TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 18/09/2016 20:52

Of course - the answer was staring us in the face! A small chicken would have fed them all and left enough for chicken curry the next day and sandwiches after that.
D'oh.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 18/09/2016 21:15

I think one of the things missed on here is the fact that DH probably is knackered too and is doing OPs normal chores as well as his own whilst having two children to look after when he is home who probably want a lot of attention as they feel overlooked at the moment by their mum. This does not make DH useless! I do agree he needs to learn to cook though as all dads should be able to make a few healthy meals at least if mum is away or sick.

Daydream007 · 18/09/2016 21:17

YANBU. A take away or a basic buffet with sandwiches, crisps and biscuits! They are being very cheeky if they expect you or your husband to cook for them especially with a new baby!!!

becciandbump · 18/09/2016 21:21

It definitely not unreasonable to have a takeaway you've just had a baby but if they were our guests we would be paying for the takeaway as we are the hosts.

MalcolmTuckersEyebrows · 18/09/2016 21:39

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becciandbump · 18/09/2016 21:39

It definitely not unreasonable to have a takeaway you've just had a baby but if they were our guests we would be paying for the takeaway as we are the hosts.

ineedbanoffee · 18/09/2016 21:42

Even when I have visitors and NO newborn baby i often say 'shall we get a take away' and we all split it (and vice versa when I visit friends and family). Surely this is normal?!!!

TheLastHeatwave · 18/09/2016 21:46

😂

Nannynowamummy · 18/09/2016 21:47

Ask them to buy some food from Cook and bring it with them. They do sides like mash & veg too (which I fine the time consuming bit)

They can shove it in your oven - job done & you get a 'home cooked' meal too.

MalcolmTuckersEyebrows · 18/09/2016 21:51

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PacificDogwod · 18/09/2016 21:59

FFS. Somebody cancel the cheque

Grin
ToadsforJustice · 18/09/2016 22:03

🙈

PovertyPain · 18/09/2016 22:11

OP, if I were you I would.......ok I'm sorry, I couldn't do it. Grin

dementedpixie · 18/09/2016 22:13

What is Cook? Never heard of it.
But the visit has already passed so it doesn't matter now. Hot drinks and biscuits were eaten and no meal was required

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