To not want to go on an activity weekend outside in November 😫

[Rosewine72]

I know it's selfish but it's my dps auntys 70th she wants to get , kids, grandchildren etc together and do things like absailing, wall climbing, archery, other stuff and stay in dormitories , they provide meals but no cafes or anything! I just don't want to go it's my worst nightmare, I suffer from fibromyalgia and I don't tend to tell people as I feel judged, it's going to be freezing I don't know anyone I'm dreading it, but I've been told I have to go as its one of those things u have to do as its just expected , I suppose he feels obliged! Plus it's driving 3 hours after school to get there sorting out 4 kids plus myself and dp......it's my worst nightmare scream 😤. I know some would love it but 😱 ! .....you'd all just go wouldn't u and not moan 🙁

[Stormtreader]

"Anyway he said I don't have to go on this weekend thing and he will go on his own but he doesn't want to!"

You are an utter saint for not doing what I would have done, which is to put on a fake-sympathy expression and say "sometimes in life you have to do things you don't want to" while patting his hand.

[KC225]

Good outcome OP. Well done for talking and listening. Sometimes we get into a pattern of behaviour that is difficult to extricate ourselves from. Have a great 'alone' time weekend.

[Rosewine72]

It's funny he still talks like I might change my mind lol

[Rosewine72]

I don't bloody believe it, apparently we got to pay the full price whether I go or not, so that's me and my 2 children 😤 She's already paid the balance 🙄

[wonderwoo]

Well, she should have told you that is the case before she paid up on your behalf. It's not fair to sign people up to spend money and not warn them that they have to pay in the event they cannot go.

Have you already given her the money? If not, then it's really her money she has risked, not yours (as she didnt make you aware). But it depends on if you want to rock that family boat!

[DoreenLethal]

apparently we got to pay the full price whether I go or not, so that's me and my 2 children

No you haven't. Nobody but you gets to spend your money.

Tell them no and fucking mean it.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

'Fuck off' is a complete sentence.

Seriously Rose, he and his family are in the wrong here.

[Stormtreader]

Sounds like they have paid for the chance to find some new friends to go then, because youre not paying or going, right?

[Aeroflotgirl]

That's their problem isen't it!

[Rosewine72]

Well I'm still not going , oh said will try and sort it when there. Also my dad is getting worse and would much prefer to go see him, even if I loose the money. I've told everyone I'm not going now so that's it x

[Dontyoulovecalpol]

His Auntie sounds really cool