To not want to go on an activity weekend outside in November 😫

[Rosewine72]

I know it's selfish but it's my dps auntys 70th she wants to get , kids, grandchildren etc together and do things like absailing, wall climbing, archery, other stuff and stay in dormitories , they provide meals but no cafes or anything! I just don't want to go it's my worst nightmare, I suffer from fibromyalgia and I don't tend to tell people as I feel judged, it's going to be freezing I don't know anyone I'm dreading it, but I've been told I have to go as its one of those things u have to do as its just expected , I suppose he feels obliged! Plus it's driving 3 hours after school to get there sorting out 4 kids plus myself and dp......it's my worst nightmare scream 😤. I know some would love it but 😱 ! .....you'd all just go wouldn't u and not moan 🙁

[Dontyoulovecalpol]

His Auntie sounds really cool

[Rosewine72]

Well I'm still not going , oh said will try and sort it when there. Also my dad is getting worse and would much prefer to go see him, even if I loose the money. I've told everyone I'm not going now so that's it x

[Aeroflotgirl]

That's their problem isen't it!

[Stormtreader]

Sounds like they have paid for the chance to find some new friends to go then, because youre not paying or going, right?

[WhereYouLeftIt]

'Fuck off' is a complete sentence.

Seriously Rose, he and his family are in the wrong here.

[DoreenLethal]

apparently we got to pay the full price whether I go or not, so that's me and my 2 children

No you haven't. Nobody but you gets to spend your money.

Tell them no and fucking mean it.

[wonderwoo]

Well, she should have told you that is the case before she paid up on your behalf. It's not fair to sign people up to spend money and not warn them that they have to pay in the event they cannot go.

Have you already given her the money? If not, then it's really her money she has risked, not yours (as she didnt make you aware). But it depends on if you want to rock that family boat!

[Rosewine72]

I don't bloody believe it, apparently we got to pay the full price whether I go or not, so that's me and my 2 children 😤 She's already paid the balance 🙄

[Rosewine72]

It's funny he still talks like I might change my mind lol

[KC225]

Good outcome OP. Well done for talking and listening. Sometimes we get into a pattern of behaviour that is difficult to extricate ourselves from. Have a great 'alone' time weekend.

[Stormtreader]

"Anyway he said I don't have to go on this weekend thing and he will go on his own but he doesn't want to!"

You are an utter saint for not doing what I would have done, which is to put on a fake-sympathy expression and say "sometimes in life you have to do things you don't want to" while patting his hand.

[chicknquack]

"Yeh I've told him, he thinks it will look really bad if I don't go!"

So he thinks you being in pain is less important than how it looks? Why do you like him? I'd ask him this exact thing.

[BagelGoesWalking]

Christ on a bike! Are they all on speed?!

I was invited by a good friend last year to her annual Center Parcs jaunt with other friends (all female) would have been lots of drinking and various activities during the day. It would have been fun but expensive. I just couldn't see myself stuck in a place having to be happy and sociable for 3 days! I need my corner to be quiet in. Friend understood luckily.

SO glad you're not going. Hope your DP is being supportive. Stay strong

[northernmonkey1010]

Wow and this is for a old lady's birthday ?

[Rosewine72]

Just wanted to share with u their final plan for this weekend, no way am I going


Dave have devised a rough program as follows:

Saturday AM (9.30 -12.30)
Group 1 (adults?): Archery+ Problem Solving
Group 2 (10-13yrs): Crate Stack + Abseil from the roof
Group 3 (7 – 9 yrs): Bushcraft (fire lighting and shelter building)

Saturday PM (1.30 – 4.30)
Group 1: Crate stack/Bushcraft
Group 2: Tunnels and Archery
Group 3: Climbing wall and Tunnels

Sunday AM (9.30 – 12.30)
Group 1: Orienteering/Abseil
Group 2: Climbing wall/bushcraft
Group 3: Crate stack/ orienteering

[Rosewine72]

Bagel 😂😂😂

[BagelGoesWalking]

Someone also meets to remind aunt's what the weather's like in November shove her in the freezer for half an hour

[BagelGoesWalking]

MIL needs to get a grip and actually ask her sister if she really wants to do this event! Maybe aunts chose it because she thought everyone would love it after Center Parcs. Someone should have a proper conversation and maybe the whole dreadful day can be changed into something enjoyable!

[Rosewine72]

Ohhh meant snacks lol, 😱

[happypoobum]

"No snakes?" Fuck it don't go then

[happypoobum]

"No snakes?" Fuck it don't go then

[Rosewine72]

It actually makes sence I don't go anyway now, as we are a 6 person family and mil needs s lift, we do have a 7 seater but then there is all the luggage, duvets pillows, sleeping bags , no snakes provided so got to bring all that , also we have 2 dogs and s cat, would have to put dogs in kennels for 3 nights! Cat may get away with , so if I don't go there is more room in the car, I can look after the dogs 😀! Perfect 😂

[Rosewine72]

I doubt as all the other family members are going 😳

[Aeroflotgirl]

Oh yes, I thought it was your Mil. Could you have a chat with Mil and mabey could have a chat to her sister😃