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Being annoyed at DH for constantly referring to our 3 year olds erections?

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1ittlegreen · 07/09/2016 21:05

Whenever my ds gets an erection dh says something like "oooh you could have someone's eye out with that" or similar. Ds looks slightly confused and I think it's too soon to be drawing attention to things like that.
AIBU to try and stop my DH for saying these things? Don't want ds to start feeling ashamed...

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powershowerforanhour · 07/09/2016 21:08

YANBU. So he has willy pride by proxy (which is why he keeps talking about it). Going on and on boasting is just naff and I agree, confusing for the child.

allsfairinlove · 07/09/2016 21:13

Weird thing to point out to a child

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1ittlegreen · 07/09/2016 21:13

I must admit, I didn't see it as willy pride, just think that dh always feels he has to mention it if it's bouncing around between us (quite literally) as if it's uncomfortable for him...like the elephant in the room (no pun intended) Hmm

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1ittlegreen · 07/09/2016 21:14

Yes my thoughts exactly allsfair

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Cubtrouble · 07/09/2016 21:21

That's weird and creepy.

powershowerforanhour · 07/09/2016 21:21

OK maybe not willy pride. Perhaps he needs you to point out that he won't turn gay if the erection he's in bed with belongs to his 3 year old son?
Or that just because you're in the bed too doesn't mean your son is going to turn into Oedipus in a few years time.

YourNewspaperIsShit · 07/09/2016 21:25

YANBU my DM mentioned my boobs all the time and I'm still not over it, tell him it's really not ok. I guess he's just trying to break what he thinks is an awkward moment? My DP would do the same without thinking of the consequences

MylaMimi · 07/09/2016 21:26

There's no need really to point it out! By 3, I imagine he'll have seen your DS's bits a million times so by then it should be no different to an ear or an eyebrow. I would just ask him straight to stop it as your DS doesn't know what his willy is doing and nor is there any need to have it pointed out to him like it's freaky or fascinating.

QuiteLikely5 · 07/09/2016 21:30

Gross and immature. tell him if he feels the need to discuss it can he do it in a seperate space from your son.

GabsAlot · 07/09/2016 21:40

why are men so bloody pathetic

tell him to shut up about it

GingerbreadGingerbread · 07/09/2016 21:43

YANBU my friend talks in detail about her toddler son's erections and it's grossly inappropriate and actually turns my stomach. I don't know how to tell her she's making everyone feel a bit sick in the way she brings it up a strangely large amount of the time.

UterusUterusGhali · 07/09/2016 21:55

Eww.
YANBU.
Did he not notice them when he was changing nappies?
At 3 they will barely notice them. They're involuntary.
I remember my DBros noticed them when they were 8/9ish, so before then they must have had them but been blissfully unaware.

Your boy will develop a complex. Can't he remember how mortifying it was to be a lad and have an unrequited stiffy being flagged up (excuse the pun) by his classmates?

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1ittlegreen · 07/09/2016 22:18

Completely agree with all ^^ I suspected I wnbu but wasn't sure. You're all right. It's weird and could be quite damaging for a little boy who had no idea it's going on.

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MrsJoeyMaynard · 07/09/2016 22:34

YANBU.

Definitely weird and inappropriate comments to make to a 3 yr old.

Yorkieheaven · 07/09/2016 22:38

I had 2 boys and can honestly say neither dh it I noticed an erection and if we had we would have ignored it.

You know like adults do.

He's very immature op.

JonahAndTheSale · 07/09/2016 22:40

Weird and completely cringe.

AnyFucker · 07/09/2016 22:40

He sounds like a twat

Icklepickle101 · 07/09/2016 22:41

sorry to derail but do all small boys get them?! I have a baby ds and it hadn't even entered my mind this could happen?! I'm going to have to pre warn DH!!

imwithspud · 07/09/2016 22:46

YANBU, tell him to shut up about it, there's really no need. One day your ds will pick up on the comments and it could cause him to develop a complex and a lifetime of body issues. Does he really want that for his son?

Wdigin2this · 07/09/2016 22:50

That's a seriously weird thing to be saying about a 3 year old!

thewavesofthesea · 07/09/2016 22:51

Yes, they do icklepickle! I have two boys, and they often have them on waking up, and have done since they were babies as far as I can remember. It's really not a big deal, my boys have noticed it happens, know it's normal and we have never made a big deal of it.

Ilovewillow · 07/09/2016 22:53

Fraid so Icklepickle - my son, now 3 has had them from being very little. Usually noticeable when he had his nappy changed in the night. No big issue!

Lorelei76 · 07/09/2016 22:58

Woah
I didn't know this even happened!!!!

Potatofish · 07/09/2016 22:59

You lot are very squeamish about pre-schooler genitalia. Hmm. Our four year old's constant erections (in which he takes enormous pride) are practically an extra member of the family.

Jinxxx · 07/09/2016 23:04

My son, then three, reliably informed me that if you wake up and your willy is sticky-uppy, don't wee or you will get wee in your eyebrows.